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Before I look to the future and talk about my plans for 2023, I want to take a look back. Is 2022 really over? Didn’t it just start?
I am going to look back month by month, otherwise it would be a very long post.
THIS HAPPENED IN JANUARY 2022
It was a busy month, even though I spent most of it struggling with Covid. Some of the symptoms stayed around for 3 months. Actually, the mental fogginess and anxiety still visit every now and then.
Feeling sick, as it often does, highlights the joys of a time when one is healthy. At that moment nothing else matters. Health is indeed our most sacred commodity!
A co-worker that I have had issues with in the past got mad at me, for no real reason, and blocked me on our internal communication chat. I think he felt he had to have the last word. Weeks later he unblocked me because he needed something. I then blocked him, not as revenge but as a protection of the peace of not having to chat with him had afforded me. We now communicate only via email when it is absolutely necessary.
I learned that no matter how much I try, some people will not like me. I learned that sometimes the best communication is no communication at all. I also learned that forgiving is a virtue, but forgetting can be dangerous. We have to set up and enforce boundaries to protect our emotional being.
After canceling a date with the Greek because of Covid, we eventually met for the 4th date. I was really not feeling any chemistry, but since I said I would treat him for his birthday I felt I needed to go. I was hoping we could be friends. That night we disagreed on a couple of topics, but as we ended the night, I thought he understood and accepted friendship.
After that, he diminished the number of texts, so I assumed he had gotten the message. More about him in March.
People will sometimes assume things about me. It is not on me; it is on them. I cannot force anyone to understand me. I know who I am. That is enough.
The infamous EX-boyfriend (the cause for the start of this blog 10 years ago) reached out with a weird text about the sauna in his house. I did what I always do. I ignored him. And blocked him.
He no longer has any effect on me. It took me years to put my heart back together after him. It all passes and I grow stronger and stronger.
I reconnected with an older woman, my mom and I had met in Israel. It is good to reconnect with people that brings us good memories. It brightened her day and mine.
I just called her today. She is now 90 years old. She was so happy to hear from me. She is such a kind soul.
I need to remember the good souls from my past and do more of an effort of reaching out. Human connections are important, specially the ones that make my heart sing!
I finally got my floors finished and, and in the process the noise disturbed my neighbors. I had notified the building management, but they had failed to notify the neighbors. Instead of getting mad, I knocked on the neighbor’s door with a bottle of wine and a smile as an apology. They were surprised.
We are now great friends. My sister and I are now included in their get-togethers.
It is often better to take the high road. It definitely better to be happy than to be right! It is hard to fight the instinct to fight, not to be perceived as weak and a doormat. But I choose to pick my battles. Not everything requires a fight. Sometimes is better to solve issues with a bottle of wine and a smile.
That was a summary of January 2022. February coming next.