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(this started as an e-mail to my friend after a long conversation last night.
Dear Friend, this is to you, and to me, and to all in pain!)
I am really sorry for being hard on you sometimes and probably causing you pain with my harsh words. But my words are only the frustration that I feel when I think that you are stuck on the hurts of the past. I wish I could just grab you by the shoulders and shake some sense into you.
I hope one day to come up with a magic word that will snap you out of the past and into the present. Until then I will keep trying with the weapons I have: brutal honesty peppered with humor all enveloped in love.
I wish I could just give you a hug and hold you for a long time and be held by you for a long time. I want to be like that as day turns into night and then into day again. I just think that you need to be handled with love and care like I do. And I am not talking about sex (even though, that probably wouldn’t be so bad either), I am just talking human touch and connection. Just that feeling of somebody being there for you – no words necessary!
I don’t know the extent of your hurt and your pains from the past, but I know that is holding you back from being in the present and looking to a future. I don’t want to compare my pain with your pain. We all hurt in different ways and different degrees. We all deal with it in different ways. I really have no business telling you what to do, how to react and how to feel. But being a friend allows me no other choice. I have to tell you how I feel.
.. and in writing this to you I realize I am also writing it to myself!
I really want you to understand that there is at least one person that cares about you: ME. I don’t want anything from you. I don’t want anything in return.
Well, actually I do.
I want you to be happy! I love the sound of your laughter! I long to hear it every day! That is why I make the most stupid jokes, all in an attempt to hear your laughter!
I want you to realize what a great person you are! You are not perfect! Nobody is! But among all your imperfections you shine! You have so many great things about yourself, such as honesty, generosity, compassion. You have morals and lives by them! What I appreciate the most is the way that you present yourself to me: real, fallible, caring and sensitive.
I want you to make peace with the hurt in the past and leave the past in the past!
I want you to stop fearing your future! Live the now in full! Be here completely now!
You are not your past and your past is not you! Right now you can decide who you want to be and what life and future you want.
Respect the pain! Don’t run away or try to bury your past: expose it, confront it, feel it, cry it, mourn it, forgive it, and then let it go! Stop dragging it around with you. It is such a heavy baggage and it has no place in your present and future.
Forgive the people that hurt you in the past! Only when you forgive them, you are able to leave them where they belong: in the past. Let them be just a page on your big book of life. You have no idea of the pain that they could be carrying themselves. Whatever they did to you it was not because of you but because of their own pains and their inabilities of dealing with it and communicating their needs. Wish them well, pray for them. I still pray for Ex and wish him only the best in life. The peace that I get whenever I send him good thoughts is priceless to me. It frees me. It pacifies my heart!
Forgive yourself! Even if you think that you caused yourself pain in the past or that somehow you did something to deserve it, realize that you are a flawed human being. You will make mistakes every now and then – making mistakes is part of our growing. The key here is to acknowledge it, learn from it, forgive yourself and let it go!
Believe in God without any question! Believe that there is a reason for everything, even in the hurt. If you believe that God is a loving and merciful God than what do you fear? What do you doubt? Pray, meditate, talk to God, tell him your fears, place your fears in his hands and let it go!
Be grateful! Remember to thank God for the goodness he has blessed you with. Remember to be thankful for everything you have in life. Be grateful for your health and the health of family members, for the job you have, for the house you live in and the car you drive. Be grateful for the beautiful sunshine, and the benefits of the rain, for the food you just had and for the smile of a stranger!
Pain is necessary and unavoidable! The pain was necessary to get you to where you are today! But it is your choice to wallow in self pity or gain strength from it and move on. And don’t get me wrong, the future won’t be only love and joy, you will probably get hurt again, but that is called living! If were not for the bad, the good wouldn’t have any flavor.
The best is yet to come. We both thought that our last relationships were amazing and the one that we were destined to be with, but guess what? Life has bigger and better things in store for us. That was just an appetizer for the feast that lies ahead!
Am I just fooling myself? Perhaps, but who really knows what the future holds? No one, but God (if you believe), so choose to live a life that is full of promise. Concentrate on today and love and live the most that you can! Send to the Universe that idea the your future is so bright you will need sunglasses 24/7.
Hurt? Hurt is growing pains! Hurt is just the price that we have to pay for the ultimate happiness!
Stop looking for answers! Sometimes in life there are no answers. People behave in the ways they behave and sometimes it makes no sense and there is no explanation. Yes, they could have been honest and open and upfront about whatever was troubling them instead of blindsiding us with “we are over”.
See hardships as gifts! I totally believe that when people break up with us they are doing us a favor! Of course I wish the break up was different. Pain and hurt are there to makes us stronger. It forces one to confront themselves and either fall apart or thrive! It gives us a chance to rediscover ourselves and be the best that we can be! There is an unique lesson here and we need/want to make sure not to miss it!
Enjoy life-don’t let fear hold you back! I want you to go out and dance and date! Try again, as many times as necessary! (yeah I must admit this was a real tough one for me to write. There is nothing I dread more than you finding someone and my dreams of ever meeting you and perhaps being more than friends will have to come to an end. But when you love someone you have to put their needs ahead of your wants.)
LIVE! LOVE! AS MUCH AS YOU CAN, WHENEVER YOU CAN! That is my dream and hope for you!
(Thank you Ex for making my pain so unbearable that I started writing a blog so I would not explode. Were not for that, I would not have gotten back to my love of writing. Were not for that I would not have met so many great people that genuinely care and graciously offer their love in the form of comments. Were not for that I would have not met my Friend – the one that I am sure was part of my life in a previous existence. He walked straight into my heart!. My heart doesn’t have an exit door! Once you are in you are there to stay)
wonderful post! thank you for sharing this! needed the reminder myself! 🙂 all the best!
You are welcome! I am glad that it resonated with you! A weekend full of blessings to you! 🙂
What a wonderful, loving friend you are..:-)
Thank You! I try! 🙂
Thanks for the encouraging words! ( :
I am glad you found my words encouraging! Blessings! 🙂
That was an excellent post today. Thanks so much for sharing it. I
really enjoyed reading it very much. You have a wonderful day!
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Thank you so much! I am glad you enjoyed it! Blessing to you! 🙂
A world of wisdom in a short piece of writing.
We’re each so blessed- with friends, with life itself, even with our suffering.
Thanks for your important work.
Tom
oh, thank you so much for calling my writing important! It makes me fell important!
We are indeed blessed and it is a blessing to realize that!
Blessings to you! 🙂
Lots of wisdom
thank you!
…and yet so much more to learn 🙂
Many blessings to you! 🙂
Awwwwww totally awesome letter to a friend… “A star on the Forehead” you have such a beautiful soul!! 😀
Thank you so much!! Your comment makes my day, actually my weekend! My soul and the rest of me smiles and sends you blessings! 🙂
You’ve crafted those thoughts beautifully into strong, meaningful words and made them a gift to whoever stops by to read. From me, thank you 🙂
Thank you so much! I am glad that you enjoyed and appreciated my gift! Blessings! 🙂
very inspiring sayings.Unique post.Best wishes .Jalal Michael
Thank you! How great that you found it inspiring! Blessings! 🙂
I’ve felt this frustration before too. Sometimes our friends’ answers to their problems can be so clear to us from the outside, but I’ve learned that every person is on their own journey and that we can only be responsible for our own. I love that this is a letter to yourself too. You have some great wisdom here, and your friend is lucky to have you in their life!
Thank you! You are so right! It is so easy to want to fix somebody else’s problem and forget to look at our own. I realize that I began writing to him, then realized that I was the one that needed to listen to most of that!
Thank you for the kind words and for finding wisdom in my post! Many blessings to you! 🙂
I’m always so amazed at how timely your advice is. My future has been held hostage because I’m afraid to let go of the pain that is so familiar to me. The idea of being open again seems more difficult than just being hurt. The opportunity to embrace life again seems much scarier than simply living in the past. But in doing all this, I only shrink, not grow; die, not live. You have taught me to push past my own self-imposed limitations, boundaries that are suffocating, and to accept the very love, sweetness, and kindness that God grows in my garden everyday. I’ve just been looking to hard at the dirt heaped before, to see the beauty of the moment today. God bless you for saving me from myself. I really don’t know how to thank you but with tears of awakening. Ameen.
Pink.
Glad that my post has been applying to your life! It sounds that you are on the right track! What you wrote is beautiful and it shows that you are willing to try again and embrace life. Proceed at your own speed, do what feels right to you, but don’t be afraid to live. Life is too short and as you mentioned God blessed us with so many things so we should go out and enjoy all we can! You humbled me with words of praise! Many blessings! 🙂
You’re such an incredibly inspirational writer. I’m so blessed to know you, and you’re right, I can’t be afraid to live life as it is right now. At times, I’m imperfect but I realize that this is perfect the way it is as well too. Thank you sooo much for being the light through the darkness. 😀
Pink.
Hi Pink
You make me happy calling me an inspirational writer!! I am so glad that I inspire you! I am glad you see the perfection in you, indeed you are perfect as God created you.
And you too have a lot light inside! Let it shine! Let it shine!
Blessings! 🙂
Thank you so much! Recently, a friend of mine had the dilemma of debating how much physical attraction really matters and I’m really not sure what to tell her as I think personality is the most attractive. Any tips on that?
Pink.
Hi Pink
She has to answer that question herself, she has to look inward and see what makes her happy and what is attractive to her. I know that to me physical attraction is important but it is not everything. To me personality is important also.
The good thing about growing old and that you gain experience and realize what is important to you. I now realize that I need a man that is completely honest, that is respectful and has a sense of humor. Also he must be willing to communicate his needs and talk about the relationship.
The most important thing I pay attention now is a man’s actions, not his words. Some times he says the right things, but his actions are the complete opposite. For example he says he wants to spend time with you but he never calls and is always busy!
Blessings! 🙂
Greetings!
Such great insight, wow. You should be like those advice columnists. I will definitely pass this along to her as you’re right, beauty is different for each person and she must be honest with herself. And definitely, she told me he possesses all these qualities you talk about, but for sure his actions will need to speak louder. I guess she will have to figure out with time whether he stands as a friend or as anything more. Thank you sooo much for the advice. Wow… I have learned so much from our dialogue, and so has she. 😀
Pink.
oh, Advice columnist? oh, thank you! Exactly, actions speak louder than words – if you are willing to listen! Sometimes we want something or someone so bad that we ignore things. It is often good to take a step back and see things from the outside. I am trying to slow down now and not crave love so much that I get blinded by that idea and ignore warning signs.
Best of luck to you and your friend! Blessings! 🙂
Such great points! I think I do need to step back and really see someone for who they are, instead of who I want them to be. I definitely lose myself in idealism, and forget reality. Thank you so much for your advice. It really, again, has come at a timely moment where suddenly, love has disappeared, and I find myself faced with myself again. I must continuously build. 😀
You are very welcome! And I am glad that you are discovering that being on your own is not a bad thing! It is a great time to get to know yourself better and work on yourself and do the things you love! Enjoy your journey!! Many blessings! 🙂
You really do have very good circle of friends there, and he is lucky to have you :))
Everything you wrote here is a true representation of your star sign, you sound like a leader :). I actually learned a lot about Aries the other day 🙂
I am will make sure he hears that! I tell him often, but coming from somebody else it will probably be more meaningful – lol
Really? What have you learned? What sign are you?
Also I am a Horse in the Chinese horoscope, which makes me even more stubborn, independent and a fighter!
Blessings! 🙂
learned about agression, leadership, following direction…etc…lol
My sign? I’m not into that kind of stuff at all, but last I checked, maybe 10-15 years ago, I’m pretty sure its one of those animals that you can eat.
Fight on star! …..(you sure you don’t have any marks on your forehead?) 🙂
no aggression, I was just kidding about punching anyone – I could not hurt a fly! I pray for the Ex that betrayed me. I believed in the Golden Rule!
Actually I have been told that I do have a star on the forehead, but it cannot be seen by any regular person – perhaps you can sense it! LOL
Lynda Carter is the only one for me, as far as real star on the forehead is concerned…lol
Lynda Carter? I am more Lindsay Wagner, even though she has no stars.
I think your website would look AMAZING if you replaced that red sunflower with picture of Lynda Carter and her star forehead 🙂
That is an idea! no one can accuse you of not being creative! lol
I am very proud of that sunflower! I grew it myself!
I figure I will change it when I revamp my site in the future!
Wonder woman makes a perfect rep for women with Aries trait 🙂
There are lots of “wonders” about you.
Star on the forehead? Nobody wears it better than Wonder Woman 🙂
And it was a great show from the 80s, too 🙂 I think its a really good fit to represent you and your website 🙂
You make such an eloquent case for it that I must really gift it a thought! I do consider myself wonderful and a catch!
Thank you for the chat! on to dinner now! 🙂
I do dig lot of holes but I’m equally specialized in filling them back up again..lol. Have a great time at dinner 🙂
And I also agree that Wonder Woman is a wonderful catch, too 🙂
What a way to wake up to some encouraging words thanks for sharing.
Reading this, I felt that wonderful feeling of ‘I get it’, and then ‘how the hell can I articulate this experience’… And then I realized I don’t have to, because you did it so beautifully. Thank you a thousand times.
oh wow, thank you so much! so glad that you liked it! Many blessings to you! 🙂
A wonderful post…We only EVER write about ourselves. I’ve learned that the people we address, those who exist in our lives and cause us to think and feel on a highly emotional level are there to mirror our own deep need to heal.
Thank you! I loved your comment! It is so right! I have only realized that recently and it has opened my eyes to how I present myself in relationships and to the type of people that I am gravitating towards lately and why! Many blessings to you!
Wow!!! How deep! I just had a break up and felt many of these same ways!!!!! You truly captured it all. Sadly, in my story, I had to realize that I can’t fix anyone or force them to see the light…. Instead I can only control myself and focus all that energy on me…. Great and very honest post! I learned something today 🙂
I am glad that my post resonated with you! You make a great point: We need to realize that we are only responsible for ourselves, we can only change ourselves!!
Good luck on recovering from the breakup! Give yourself time and find things to do that brings you joy! Keep yourself busy with improving yourself.
You are on the right track! Many blessings to you! 🙂
I just love your posts! So very inspiring…and always make me think! You are a gifted writer. Thank you for sharing! I would like to share The Very Inspiring Blogger Award with you…stop by and pick it up if you like 🙂 Blessings!! http://wp.me/p2wxQT-ao
Thank you so much! I am so glad you find my posts inspiring! Thank you for honoring me with an award. It makes me feel special! Many blessings to you too! 🙂
It was my lucky day when you stumbled upon my blog… I followed you back here and WOW… I hit the jackpot. I can’t wait to make a cup of tea and start reading! Thank you!
Wow! What a great compliment! I hope you enjoy your time here! I found your post yesterday very entertaining and look forward to reading more about your dating life! I will be writing about that too… as soon as i get asked on some dates – lol
Best of luck to you and many blessings! 🙂
this should have been the letter to write “the friend i no longer have.”
this just made my day (very few writers make me smile):
“I just think that you need to be handled with love and care like I do. And I am not talking about sex (even though, that probably wouldn’t be so bad either), I am just talking human touch and connection.”
well done!
I still have the friend!!
Yep, my honesty sometimes can be very comic! lol
Glad I made you smile! Blessings! 🙂
i meant some parts of the letter would have been useful 🙂
It cracked me up too! 🙂
oh, ok, I get it!
glad you enjoyed it!! 🙂
Beautiful letter with lots of wisdom in it. 😉
Thank you! I am glad that you liked it!! Blessings to you! 🙂
This is so, so, so true! It sounds very much like a letter I could have written to myself. I am trying to enjoy life and not let fear hold me back! I, too, have rediscovered my love of writing! I get it. 🙂 I also really love the second photo – it is my philosophy… now if my husband could just understand it!
Thank you! I am glad my words resonated with you! I am glad that you are going back to an old love: writing!
Unfortunately we cannot make someone understand (or do) anything that they don’t want or perhaps don’t know how. My struggle it to accept people’s limitations.
Many blessings to you! 🙂
Beautiful post and such lovely quotes too.
OMG, i feel like “Will Hunting” in “Good Will Hunting” when he cries out loud. I hope it’s normal. Lovely overwhelmingly wonderful post. Respect, respect RESPECT!!!
WOW! Thank you for the great words! You are a normal sensitive person like me! I am so glad it resonated with you!! Be blessed! 🙂
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very lovely post: loved the picture of some great quotes, especially about buring the past pain for fuel for the future. Awesome! Thanks for sharing your insights.
I am glad you enjoyed it! Thank you and many blessings to you! 🙂
The best praise I can think of to give you as a writer. You have reached so many while targeting something specific. The true goal for all writers. Nice work and thank you. I hope thinks work out for your friend and for you.
Thank you so much! Unfortunately things for my friend and I didn’t work in the way I hoped, but it is all good! Many blessings to you! 🙂
My new lovely souled friend, so nice to connect with you. I noticed you popped onto my blog, and I returned the favor. So glad I did, your heartfelt writings and words of honesty touched my tender spirit and made me float a bit. Gosh, I love when that happens! You remind me why I like blogging so much, it’s an amazing way to connect with like-minded souls. Your wisdom and courage was topped off by humor, what an amazing post. Thanks so much for sharing, I will carry your thoughts with me today!
Much love!
CIndy
Hi my new friend Cindy
Thank you so much for your great and kind words! I am so glad that you enjoyed what I wrote!
Your blog is great and plan to go back often and eventually see it all.
Many blessings! 🙂
I was enraptured by your words. The last line you took right from with in my heart.
Thank you so very much for visiting my blog, and liking a post…because it brought me here to this beautiful letter. A letter written for so many of us. THANK YOU.
You have a beautiful soul.
Thank you so much for saying I have a beautiful soul!! That is the best compliment!!
I am glad that we found each other’s blog and in turn each other!
I plan on visiting you and learning more about your spirit!
Many blessings! 🙂
What a good reminder to read this. So timely and appreciated. Keep it up!
Thank you so much! I am glad my words resonated with you! Many blessings on this holiday! 🙂
Beautiful post, full of wisdom and insight, good job!
Thank you so much! Blessings! 🙂
A truly wonderful post, well written and so close to my heart. Thank you for being so honest and sharing this with us! Ute x
Thank you so much for the kind words! I am glad my words resonated with you! Many blessings! 🙂
I don’t know how I haven’t seen this before. It’s very beautiful.
I am glad that you saw it now and enjoyed it! There is a right time for everything! 🙂 Thank you so much! Your whole entire blog is so great, creative and with beautiful pictures! Blessings! 🙂
nice thoughts. and thanks for the visit.
Thank you and you are welcome!Blessings! 🙂
Such a lovely post! 🙂
Thank you! Blessings to you! 🙂
What beautiful words! They sometimes felt like they were directed at me, and sometimes like I was saying them.
Thanks for visiting my blog and liking it, that led me to find yours!
Thank you! I am glad that my words resonated with you! I enjoyed your blog, I need to go back to your blog and read more! Blessings! 🙂
Thanks, I needed that! You are a good friend!
I am glad that my post got to you at the right moment my new friend! Hang in there! 🙂
Lovely post.
Thank you! 🙂
Wonderful writing. I felt that you were talking to me. Been going through a rough time. This reminds me that I should not give up and continue my journey of life. Thank you very much, Blessed with a star on the Forehead.
Hope you have a good one too.
Oh I am so glad that my words resonated with you! Don’t ever give up, life is a blessing and amazing! Tough times happen to teach us something and make us stronger and more appreciative of everything we have! Hang in there! Blessings! 🙂
Truthful, beautiful post, especially the part on forgiveness. A very honest reply was your wish to sometimes shake your friend and tell her to get over it and go on.
When we are our own worst enemies, that’s when you desperately need our true best friends.
Thank you! Unfortunately some times our friends (and ourselves) are not ready or open to listening and have to learn things the hard way.
Many blessings! 🙂
Very touched by this post. It is indeed very beautiful.
Hi Maria. Thank you so much for liking my words and ideas! Many blessings to you in the new year!
Thank you!! and many blessings to you too.. Happy Blogging =)
Your kindness comes through but think one must be careful to not overdo it. Thanks visit my blog. Continued funny stuff there for 2013 and delightful network of commenters and artists.
I am the queen of overdoing it! I am impulsive so it is hard for me to pace myself. Thank you for the well wishes and many blessings to you in 2013! 🙂
You can’t help read this blog and be inspired! Thank you for subscribing to my blog. I sure am a fan of yours!
Thank you! What a lovely thing to say!! Many blessings to you! 🙂
Thank you for so eloquently writing what’s in your heart. Beautiful.
You are welcome! Thank you you for the great compliment! Blessings! 🙂
Wow – I can totally relate! Great post! ❤
Thank you so much! Blessings! 🙂
Great post! Thank you 🙂 xox
Thank you! I am glad that you liked it! Blessings! 🙂
HEALING….
When the victim of a car crash is carried into the A&E Department of a large hospital, with bones smashed and internal injuries, the surgeon on duty doesn’t reach for the Band Aid. perhaps there are some superficial cuts which do need that but first there must be radical surgery simply to save the man’s life. Jesus Christ is also a radical surgeon. He doesn’t patch up our lies with sticking plasters when what we really need is deeper, more permanent wholeness. Jesus wants to heal but to heal the whole man.
Therefore, He begins at the root of the problem and that may very well be a place we would rather He did not go. There are some who would come gladly today to Jesus Christ for physical healing, for that “exterior” help to their lives. They won’t get it, however, unless Jesus Christ is also allowed to deal with the deeper problems, tensions, frustrations, and bad relations as well!!!
Hi Evangelist Daniele
Thank you for the thoughtful and insightful comment! It makes a very good point.
I understand not wanting to deal with certain things but not being able to move forward unless those things are addressed.
Many blessings to you! 🙂
Wow that was beautiful and also very true. Your friend is lucky and so are your readers.I think you have found a fan for life. Me 🙂
Oh that is so nice of you – it makes me smile and feel special! I am glad you enjoyed that post and do stop by any time! Many blessings to you! 🙂
Enjoyed reading your thoughts…thanks for sharing.
Thank you! I am glad you enjoyed it! Blessings! 🙂
Totally relating to this right now, thank you for such an honest post to snap us into the good life! 🙂
Hi Sarah
I am glad you could relate. Thank you so much and many blessings to you! 🙂
Hey thanks for stopping by my blog! Wow! I absolutely love your last line. Love is just incredible and can pull you out of any darkness. Hugs to you…Paula xx
Thank you Paula! Hugs and Blessings to you! 🙂
A very well written post! Sounds like are a follower of Eckhart Tolle! When we live in the present moment we can’t be haunted by the past or frightened by the future.
Thank you for stopping by and liking my blog!
Cheers,
Fred.
Hi Fred. I am yet to read Eckhart Tolle’s books, but living in the moment is something I struggle with often! Thank you and many blessings to you! 🙂
Wow! This post is awesome! 🙂
Thank you so much! Blessings! 🙂
Touching ! Food for thought too 🙂
Thank you! Blessings to you! 🙂
This is so well written. The word “authenticity” came up in my mind, after reading this post. I sense, strongly, your passion in this writing. Great post. Keep on writing. And, thank you for visiting Wilder Man On Rolling Creek. Appreciate it.
I am looking forward to following your post. Peace, T
You are welcome! Thank you for the greats words about this post! It was definitely straight from the heart! I enjoy your blog too!
Blessings! 🙂
This is excellent. I hope your friend read it – but for every person who reads it, there is words of value here. A wonderful post.
Thank you so much! He read it but I don’t think he got what I intended. Oh well… Still as you said so many other people got it! Many blessings to you! 🙂
Turn the page and carry on with the rest of the book. Remember as the writer you decide how the story goes on and the hero/heroine always recover.The previous chapters matter less and less as the story unfolds.
Wise point! I have been having a lot lessons lately on the need/joys of letting go of the past, and find that it is not easy but so rewarding! many blessings to you! 🙂
great, great, GREAT piece!!
Thank you, thank you, thank you! So glad you you liked it! Blessings! 🙂
A post with the real essence of life,full of plain truths and sage sayings !
All the very best,
Doda
Hi Doda
Thank you so much for find goodness in my post!
Many blessings to you! 🙂
Pleasure my friend ! I’ll read more sometime,I do enjoy your writing style and your attitudes !
Stay well
Doda
I am glad you enjoy my writing! Thank you! Blessings! 🙂
Many thanks for this – you will not believe how I need this message right now. all the best and all the strength – live life, it is short and we only have one.
Thank you! How wonderful that my post reached you at the perfect time! Enjoy every second of this blessed life! Blessings to you! 🙂
I love your wonderful words to your friend. I’m glad I had a chance to read. You are a great person.All my best wishes to you.
Thank you for stopping by my blog, otherwise I would not have known you.
Thank you for the kind words and best wishes. You have an awesome blog too! 🙂 Many blessings! 🙂
This was a very lovely blog. It’s wonderful to read the mind of someone who really thinks about the nature of love.
Thank you so much for the great compliment! Many blessings! 🙂
These words come to me at just the right moment! Thank you!
So glad about that! Many blessings! 🙂
You have been blessed with the gift of writing the perfect words that everyone needs to hear, and truly think about. Your friends are blessed to have you and you’re an inspiration to all! 🙂
oh, thank you so much! You are kind! Blessings! 🙂
Hi I loved your words to your friend so much I’m back to reread them.Have great week-end.
Awesome! I am glad that you enjoyed reading them that much! Blessings! 🙂
It sure hurts to be hurt, but it hurts even more to live in the hurt. Forgive and forget, and life goes on. True teaching there, thanks for the visit,
Sallysuccess.
Hi Sally
You are so right.
Forgiving ourselves and forgiving others is the best gift we can give ourselves indeed.
Many blessings! 🙂
Beautifully written with so much to ponder.I admire you for not sinking into depression, and for inspiring others. Thank you — and for visiting and liking my blog.
Hi Leah
Thank you so much! Blogging has helped me immensely. I get some feelings, specially the negative ones, out of myself and on the paper/screen. That makes me light and lets me see things from another angle. I also get the support and insight from amazing new bloggers/readers that have become my friends.
Welcome aboard!
Many blessings! 🙂
Extremely powerful! Great post 🙂
Thank you so much! I am glad you enjoyed it! Blessings! 🙂
Beautifully expressed, this advice applies to anyone who has been hurt in any way by another. It is not just about breakups.
Thank you so much! I am glad that you liked it! Blessings! 🙂
Love this post and your description of pain and caring. Thank for liking my post and stopping by.
Thank you! and you are welcome! It is great to visit a published writer! Blessings! 🙂
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So beautiful!
Yes, yes, yes. I love this so very much!
Thank you so much for reblogging! I feel special and honored that you like it that much! Blessings! 🙂
Well said!! Much wisdom in those words of advice. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you so much for reading and commenting! Blessings! 🙂
I am so blessed to have found your blog! You are so beautiful! Namaste.
oh that is so kind of you! Thank you so much! I am the blessed one! 🙂
I am so moved by this post. Thank you for sharing it.
Hi LaTanya Thank you so much! 🙂 Blessings!
well said – to the point and very clear. I am humbled by this post!
Thank you so much! Blessings! 🙂
When I was younger, and battling inner-conflict, I often wrote letters to an imaginary friend, then would go back, two weeks, or a month later, and re-read what I’d written in an effort to ‘see’ what I couldn’t see when I’d penned my thoughts. It sounds like what you’re doing here. Thought provoking post.
That is a good idea! I wrote it to someone that turned out not to be the friend I thought he was, so in the end, he was indeed somewhat imaginary. It is amazing what our minds can create. Thank you and many blessings! 🙂
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Thank you for such a healing blog. Many others I am sure could benefit from this as much as I did.
Thank you so much! That is so kind of you to say that! It makes me feel great about putting my thoughts online! Many blessings! 🙂
Thank you, an extremely inspiring blog to read, reading on my lunch break and i’ve just been crying in the toilets so just what I needed right now 🙂 xx
oh Thank you for reading! Crying and sadness is okay but don’t stay there too long. Sometimes I even set a clock and allow myself some time to be sad, but after then I quickly snap out of it and start counting all my blessings! Everything passes and you will emerge stronger, believe me!! Sending you hugs and blessings! 🙂
Excellent post and very helpful!
Hi Tessa! Thank you so much! I am glad you liked it! Blessings! 🙂
Blessings to you as well!
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Such a deep Blog ! Tks For visiting mine.
Live sherazade 🌷🌸🌹
You are welcome and thank you! 🙂
Beautiful, heartfelt and wise post!! Blessings to you! Thanks for visiting my site so that I could find your blog! 🙂 Have a AWESOME DAY!
Thank you! Blessings! 🙂
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Thank you so much for the reblog! Blessings! 🙂
Such loving words to one who hurt you. I wish my adult son could read this to heal from the wounds his father left from emotional abuse. He is learning in his own way to forgive. Thank you.
I truly believe that some people that have hurt me didn’t really realize what they were doing or the extent of it, and they were in pain themselves. It is best to answer hurt with grace and compassion. Forgiveness is indeed the best gift we can give ourselves. Each one of us have to learn it in our own way. I wish your son strength and peace! Many blessings! 🙂
Thank you, Star. I am seeing him smile and laugh more than ever before. I think he is healing. I am too. Hugs and continued peace to you too.
That is awesome! I will continue sending prayers his way! Blessings! 🙂
Thank you. Blessings to you too.
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This is really a beautiful piece. I wish it was written to me. Wonderful words of love and wisdom.
Thank you.
Hi Don. Thank you so much! It was written for you too, it is for me, it is for all of us! I hope you are enjoying a blessed weekend! 🙂
Wonderful post filled with reality and love. Thanks for sharing.
HI Margo, Thank you so much! Blessings! 🙂
Hope your friend takes notice (especially of how much you care). Except for the bit about believing in god without question. We should never believe anything without question, that would be throwing away the mental capacities that make us what we are.
Hi Rose. Thank you so much for the feedback. My friend knew I cared but I don’t know if he ever realized how much. We are still 2 ships passing in the night unable to get together,and that is very sad to me. As far as believing in God without question, that to me is my core. It is the glue that holds me together at the most difficult times. Knowing in my heart, without any doubt, that there is someone (by any name, God, the Universe, Light, etc) that watches over me gives me strength to handle anything. But I totally understand your point. Wishing you a blessed week! 🙂
Great letter! It can be sent to many friends. The wisdom is certainly there. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you so much! Blessings! 🙂
simply true and therefore wonderful!
Thank you so much! 🙂
A great and needed reminder ❤
Thank you! Blessings! 🙂
Welcome 🙂
Beautiful writing. Hope you have gotten over this relationship. I felt your pain and everything you wrote about pain, forgiveness , grateful and God, is very real.
Hi Monica, Yes I am over it, time does heal everything and the pain contributes to make us better human beings. Wishing you a blessed 2017! 🙂
I feel your Heart within your words, words that are exquisitely expressed. I couldn’t agree more when you stated it is better to tell the truth then to lie something I can relate to more then you know. Bless you for your Loving Heart. Much Love, ❤
Thank you so much! You are very kind, and much love right back to you! 🙂
This could have been written for me. Thank you. It would be great to have someone that cared so much.
Unfortunately sometimes it seems that the caring is not warranted or wanted, but I will continue to care if my heart tells me so 🙂 Many blessings to you! 🙂
That is true. I will always care too, it really just comes natural no matter how many time you have been hurt. Time and fate can change things,and you once again take that chance, because when its good it’s good.