I joined e-Harmony about 5 months ago. When I joined I didn’t have grand illusions of finding “the One”. I simply wanted to go on dates every now and then. I guess my real hope was that the attention of men would keep my mind off of Ex.
From the beginning e-Harmony was a letdown. In the second month I wrote about it: http://atomic-temporary-33385295.wpcomstaging.com/2012/05/14/so-far-e-harmony-sucks/
From there things just gotten worst!
I am glad that my sentence, I mean subscription, is coming to an end at the end of the month. I am tired of feeling rejected by people that I don’t even know and that don’t even know me. I think that there is something very wrong with e-Harmony. I don’t know what the problem is, but there has to be an explanation for the lack of responses I have received. And I know, I know that some of you know at least one couple that met through e-Harmony, still I think that the number of happy couples is probably very low when compared with the number of total members they have.
I have an honest profile (describing exactly who I am and what I want) and honest pictures (nothing professional, but pictures showing what I love to do, skiing, at the US Open, on vacation). What I want in a man? Honesty is the number one requirement. I want a man that likes himself, likes to travel, has a good heart, has a sense of humor. I appreciate a man that loves his family, likes animals and is curious about the world. It would be nice if he likes sports – both watching and playing. I want a man that is spiritual and believes in God. I want a man that looks to improve himself, physically and mentally. I don’t think I am asking too much. At any rate, I am only asking for what I am willing to offer.
I have had a grand total of 1 date! Yes only 1! I know it is quality and not quantity that I should be after but only 1 in 5 months sounds a bit ridiculous. I must say that that one date was terrific even though there was no love connection. I wrote about it here: http://atomic-temporary-33385295.wpcomstaging.com/2012/05/29/first-e-harmony-date/ I am even going to visit him in a couple of weeks. So I should count myself lucky for having made a friend. But honestly I signed up to get dates.
The last couple of months I wasn’t even checking e-harmony anymore. I just have been waiting for my subscription to be over, so that I stop feeling like I am paying to be rejected.
But to make sure that I had given it my 100% effort, 2 weeks ago I made a point of sending every single match that they sent me an ice-breaker saying: “I would love to chat”. I sent it to everyone, and when I say everyone I mean everyone!! I wanted to test it. I figure that if I didn’t wait to be contacted and reached out to everyone I would at least get some responses. I expected that out of the 30/40 men a few would reply and I would know, at least, that there are some live matches and would be able to at least think that e-harmony was doing their job.
So after 2 weeks guess how many responses I received. NONE!. No kidding, not a single one! I don’t know about you, but I find that incredible! To me that means something is horribly wrong with their site or matching system. They are probably matching me with people who are no longer registered in the service and therefore no longer receiving ice-breakers (they keep the profile of non-members up). Also, I specified I wanted people closer to me and they give me matches from places as far as Singapore and Australia, to name a few.
No matter what the reason is, it was just a confirmation that I was in the wrong place at the wrong time. I don’t even want to ask for my money back. I believe they did me a favor. Ultimately it was a blessing not to be bombarded with e-mails and engage in relationships right after the break-up. The time alone has been intensely rewarding and necessary. From starting my blog to tennis lessons, from reaching out to old friends to making new ones, I am busy and happy!
I believe that trying to take shortcuts after a breakup eventually backfires. I was trying to immediately replace Ex. I failed to realize that a relationship that lasted 3 years, and that for the most part was amazing deserved my respect. I had to spend time feeling the pain fully, mourning the end of a dream and going through all of the 5 stages of grief (Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance) . I was trying to skip steps, trying to run before I can even walk, and in the end that would have caused more heartaches.
What next? Match.com? Plenty of Fish? No more online dating for me! At least not for now – I do reserve the right to change my mind. As far as e-harmony I will not change my mind, I am never doing that again!
For now I am staying put just going about my day and pursuing my interests. I am making a point of being fully present in the moment, loving and living each moment to the best of my ability.
I am working on myself, mind, spirit and body and being the best that I can. I do have my eyes, heart and mind open and when that lucky guy comes around (and perhaps he is already here) I will be more ready, better able and ever willing!
So officially on August 1 I am free from e-harmony! So, goodbye it has not been fun!
I’ve done e harmony, match, yahoo, and finally plenty of fish which is where I met my current boyfriend. We’ve been together over a year and so far it’s been the best relationship I’ve ever had. So…. Don’t give up, at the time, I felt just as you do and I took breaks from dating sites to regroup and concentrate on other things . But I must say, I am so glad I tried “one more time”. Always be careful and trust your intuition!
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Hi Sherryl. I am not sure why your comment was sitting in my spam folder – weird.
Thank you for you comment! I am not completely giving up online dating, but like you have mentioned it is a good time to regroup and concentrate on other things!
I don’t think I will ever give up on the idea of finding a mate, I may get discouraged at times, but giving up is not an option.
I think it would have been too soon if something would have happen, so in a way it was a blessing. I am working on myself, Ex is becoming a memory and life is fun again!
One thing is for sure, I will definitely not do e-harmony again! perhaps I will try fishing!
I am so happy that you are happy with someone! Many blessings to you both! 🙂
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I did not like e harmony either, used it about 3 years ago and only had one or two dates. Both guys were nice but nothing to brag about. My experiences with the online dating sites was such a learning tool for me. So much rejection and high hopes, then I became tougher and started to see the dates as “how good are you for me?” rather than “how good am I for you?” The dating sites were the best way for me to meet alot of men, especially at my age. My experience was even more difficult because of the fact I had a birth defect on my eye that was very noticable. I’d dealt with humiliation all of my life but the online dating was excruciating most of the time. When you really want something you just have to put yourself out there to find it.
Since then I”ve had plastic surgery and there are no noticable effects. My confidence level soared which is really all it took to find my wonderful relationship. For now I take each day as it comes and enjoy myself in what ever I’m doing. So just know that this is YOUR life and you are the driver! sounds like you are well on your way! hugs to you
Sherry
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I love how you used rejections to make you stronger, in that way I think we are similar.
Even though I think that the imperfections that we have are what makes us unique I believe that if something is becoming an impediment in our lives we owe it to ourselves to try to correct it. So I am very glad that you corrected the birth defect on your eye and became the person you were meant to be.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. I too strive to enjoy whatever I am doing at the moment!
I plan on taking the wheel and go as fast as I want!!
Hugs right back to you! 🙂
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Wow… I’ve often wondered about those sites, specifically, if they were really as successful as they claim to be… I’m sorry it hasn’t worked out for you. I was about to add “I’d love for you to be happy” but clearly you are… I’d still be asking for my money back though!
Clear skies! 🙂
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I am sorry too, but I really believe it was for the best! And indeed I am happy – I am glad it shows (I am afraid that sometimes I may come across as a bitter middle aged woman – lol!!)
Somehow I am so relieved to be offer that I don’t even want to deal with. My warning others that the site is not as good as they make it to be makes me feel better already.
Still I would not discourage people from online dating, I would just say be careful and have low expectations!
Thank you for your thoughts and good wishes!
Blessings! 🙂
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I am so with you about e-Harmony! I was ecstatic when my three month subscription ran out! I think you’re right about the matches who are not even on the site any more. (My girlfriend calls ie-Harmony “The Hotel California”). A couple of days before my subscription ran out, I pulled my photos, deleted my profile information, and I think put a note up to say that I was no longer on the site. (At least that way, somebody who gets me as a match after I’ve left, doesn’t feel rejected.)
Love your attitude here! You will draw someone new into your life when you are feeling whole again, and it sounds like you’re doing everything you need to in order to fill yourself up.
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Hotel California?! That is just great!!! And thank you, thank you for reminding me to go and get all my information and pictures down before the subscription runs out. My friend had to fight them for a long time to have her profile removed after she was no longer a member. And the note about no longer being there is a great idea!
Indeed my life is full and becoming fuller!
Thank you for the tip and let me go and do that right now!!!
A day full of blessings to you! 🙂
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Sounds like eharmony has issues and that you will be better off without them. Mr. Right will appear when you are ready to accept him. The last few months were needed for you to find yourself, first. Good luck and many blessings. 🙂
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Right and agree on all points: 1) I am better off without them and 2) Mr. Right will appear when I am ready and 3) the last few months were necessary!!
Thank you for the good wishes and blessings to you too! 🙂
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Thanks. Enjoy the day! 😉
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Dear “Blessed” thank you for posting your experience on eharmony – as I was on this site for about a month and had the same thing happen… I am wondering if they lack potential matches and are some how generating matches that don’t exist to keep their current subscribers happy. I only had one date which was dreadful (I blogged about it) and my girlfriend was a member at the same time and she had no hits or dates. It seems to be a common occurrence. SO DON’T TAKE IT TO HEART!!!
To be completely honest, I don’t think the people on these dating sites are very genuine and it is soul destroying for the honest “real” people looking for their true love. Chin up and don’t you dare think for one minute that it is you – because you aren’t alone!!! SWFD 😀
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I figure I would just open people’s eyes to what to expect.
I think you are right about their lack of matches. I am also inclined to believe that they don’t have enough potential matches and therefore are recycling old ones.
For a second there I thought: What is wrong with me? But then, fortunately I do think highly of myself and decided not to take it personally! Lol
My day will come, and until then I will make singlehood look amazing!!
thank you for your words and many blessings to you!
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Many years ago I put up a Yahoo profile for my then-best friend, and only one man responded. Since he worked at the local hospital we decided he must be a decent guy, but he used her for a one-night stand (and then contacted me on MY profile a couple of weeks later. He got chewed up and spat out in my response). We were just about to give up when another response came in. She couldn’t get to my house and dictated what she wanted to say down the phone for me to type in.
They met a week later and have been married for three years. I got a lot more responses on my profile than she did hers, but there really are some guys who have the sterotype “blonde hair + big boobs = will put out” firmly stuck in their heads! I suspect that many of the men you tried to contact had become as disillusioned as yourself though – they can’t all have been jerks!
I wasn’t even looking for love when I met my husband at a garden party; I was enjoying being free of my ex-husband and wanted to remain that way. But fate is a funny thing and for me it was intrigue at first sight! I had no clue that we were destined to meet again and fall in love 🙂
My guess is that you’ll get chatted up every time you leave the house now that you’re not actively searching 😉
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I am glad your friend met someone and is happily married today!
Yes I am inclined to believe that there are some good guys on e-harmony that similar to myself just got disillusioned and left!
That is what people tell me: stop looking for love and it will find you! So, that is it, I officially stopped looking, so I will just sit back and wait! Lol
I am happy for you! 🙂
Thank you for the kind and supportive words!. Blessings! 🙂
And, oh yeah, I am also cursed, I mean blessed with big boobs – lol
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I only met one man from the many that responded to my Yahoo profile, and he was actually a really decent guy. We only dated for about a month before a business venture caused him to have to leave town, but we had fun. By the time he found me on Yahoo Messenger again (which I rarely log in to any more and hadn’t heard from him in years so was surprised to hear from him) he was back in my home town, but I’d left long ago and was already living with and engaged to Dom! He said he regretted letting me go for something that never came to fruition, but I hope he’s met somebody else and is happy now.
Personally I think everything happens for a reason, and that’s how I was led to Dom!
He’s out there; he just doesn’t know how lucky he is yet because he still needs to meet you 🙂
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Indeed he is out there and hopefully he will find me and be brave enough to take a chance on me, because if he does he will be indeed the luckiest and happiest man on this earth! – I am that good!! Lol
I do also believe that all happens for a reason and not getting a love connection on e-harmony was a good thing. I was not ready yet! Instead of spending the time going on fruitless dates, I have spent on making myself whole again and better than ever!
May you and Dom continue to be blessed! Thank you! 🙂
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I tried internet dating sites for about 2 years and did not get a single date so you did better than me. In fact I got more dates from being in chat rooms getting to know people in a more social environment. I did not take it personal that no one wanted to connect with me, I just myself that they were the ones missing out 🙂
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2 years with not a single date? wow you have a lot patience!
And I agree with you, the ones not contacting us are the ones missing out.
Also, it is better to have no dates than to have to deal with losers and psychos, like some horror stories I have heard!
btw, did you use the name “Depressed Moose” on your profile on the dating site?
Better days ahead for both of us, just keep positive and enjoying life!! Many blessings to you! 🙂
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ha ha no did not use depressedmoose but maybe that would have been better than “horny and single”
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lol – you made me laugh!! horny – there lies the problem!! 🙂
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ok for the record I did not use that name but thought it would brighten your day! 🙂
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I knew you would have more sense than that! but it was a great come back to my question and it did brighten my day! thank you 🙂
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your welcome 🙂
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I do not know anything about eHarmony or any online dating sites but that did not sound like much fun. For what is worth I have been single (was married once a long time ago) for a very long time … by now I do not even think about it as being ‘single’ – I am just me. And with that all I would like to say is: ‘Chin up, lipstick on’ and enjoy life!
Cheers!
Daniela
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Hi Daniela
I think that you make a great point! I love that you don’t think of yourself as single and as just “you”. I used to be like that before this last relationship. When anybody asked if I was married I said no, I am single as a matter of fact and happily, not with the sad tone I now use!
I need to go back to that, actually I am well on the way to just really love being me, single, married, whatever.
Chin up check! Lipstick on check! Enjoying life check!
A day full of blessings to you! 🙂
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Sorry to hear that.
I have recently joined the fish site, and it is going rather well. Everything is free there. There are a lot of cheap people out there. Probably 90% of the ones you messaged were unable to respond because they didn’t pay.
Seven years ago I met my wife on Lavalife. It was the best 7 years of my life. Now, things are over, but I don’t regret meeting her online.
Honesty, real photos, closeup face, full body shots – paints an accurate picture. As soon as there is any hint you are hiding something, it’s over.
I wish you all the best.
Go fishing.
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I am not scratching online dating off of my life for good, but for now I am going to stay put. Perhaps in the near future I will try fishing! At least I will not spend any money.
Glad that you have no regrets about your marriage! I too have no regrets about my relationship! It is a great feeling knowing that even though it ended we are better off for having lived a beautiful fairytale.
Thank you for sharing your situation and for the kind and supportive words!!
All my best to you too! Blessings! 🙂
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I have never used online dating (but at times I felt desperate enough to do so) cuz I know from others that it does not work. Yeah, once in a blue moon someone finds a catch there, but…well, I’m sure you know. Recently in an Australian documentary called ‘Agony Aunts’, known female Australian celebrities spoke about their romantic lives, and a comedian, (and I can’t remember her name which sucks cuz she’s one of my fav Aus comedians, she was in the film Bad Eggs, FYI), she mentioned that she used online dating – and got two hits. Her site listed that she (from memory) drank a lot, smoked like a chimney and had a large chest, and apparently she got two hits – one guy saying he liked to do stuff, you know, when alone, and quite frequently, and the other saying that he liked the part about the large chest. In my view, the people who prowl the online dating world (although from what you said in the post, which was a real eye opener by the way and has sent me heading for the hills, away from the online dating realm!) you ain’t one of them. Sorry for the bad experience, but remember, it wasn’t your fault – there must be millions of women on there – I mean, there are what, 3.4 – 3.7 billion women in the world? There must be a couple on E-Harmony, just like there must be a couple on all the others, right? The night’s still young – the right guy is out there…happy hunting!
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I didn’t mean to discourage anyone from online dating. I still think that it can work – I am an eternal hopeful and optimist!! It will work for a few, one has to approach it with very low expectations.
I am finding out that my experience with e-harmony is not unique, so there is something about the way the site generates the matches that seem to be less than honest.
Interesting story about the actress, I am shocked that she got only 2 hits, I would imagine she would be flooded with all kinds of perverts contacting her.
You are young and I am sure have no problems meeting people, so please, the word “desperate” should not even be a part of your vocabulary!!
I am meeting people now doing things I love: blogging, tennis, dancing, etc.
The night is indeed young, and heck, I am still young too!
Many blessings to you and thank you for kind comment! 🙂
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Amen to that sister! I have tried them all and I think in their own unique way they all stink. I know there are nice people everywhere but I’m convinced that being active and doing the things you enjoy is a much better way to find the right person. All of those people you really want to meet are out there being social and are too busy to check thier EHarmony account. Plus, the worst thing that could happen is you have fun instead of waiting for that email. God, it sends a shiver up my spine just thinking about it!
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“…the worst thing that could happen is you have fun instead of waiting for that email”. Well said Magnolia!
Sooooo…..go out and have fun Blessed.
As much as you disliked the whole online experience, I’m sure you’ve gained some insight into the whole dating game just by being on the site. One of the first lessons I learned in the “game” is to stay far away from anyone just coming out of a relationship. Give them at least a year to get their ex out of their system. Don’t be a rebound for ANYONE….and never allow anyone to be your rebound either.
I’m looking forward to reading about all the FUN you’re now having now that you’re no longer waiting for that elusive dating site email. 😉
Bless,
Lee
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I think that’s the biggest mistake I’ve made (and seen made by others): being too quick to jump back in. It’s really important to truly feel consistently great as a single person. Sometimes we tell ourselves we are happy, joyous and free as an individual when we are not, because we’ve never been there before or we desperately want to be over someone. How can we know what we don’t know? Only by patiently getting there, via time and working on ourselves. The 12 steps of recovery can work on anything, including relationships. Happy day! ( :
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Frank, When is the right time to get back on the horse? Am I ready now, almost 9 months after?
I do think I am a happy individual. I have no problems being alone and doing things alone, but honestly I do crave passion and intimacy in my life. I do not think that that in anyway means that I am fooling myself in thinking I am happy alone. I am happy period!
I spent 6 years alone between the first relationship (that lasted 20 years) and the last (that lasted 3 years) and those were great years, so I can be alone, I just rather not!
Am I just fooling myself? Who is to know?
I think the 12 steps is beneficial to anyone, addicted to anything or not! Want to be my sponsor?
Thank you for your comment and I am sorry for being sensitive about having my happiness questioned!
A day full of blessing to you! 🙂
(ouch that sounded very defensive, but so be it!)
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I couldn’t have said it better myself……..kudos to you 🙂
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yep, Frank is kinda smart! lol and on that note I am off to Zumba to dance the stress away!!!
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Awesome! I go dancing every weekend. Stress relief for sure! You go girlie!
HUGZ
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arghh, got canceled because of the weather!! so looking forward to Saturday now. I remember a time I went dancing every weekend, but my partner is crime got engaged and is moving away so I need a need a new one!!
A have a wonderful dancing weekend! 🙂
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Hi Lee
You both are definitely right, going out and having fun is the way to go!
I am definitely happy that I did it so that don’t have to wonder what would happen. (and I do think that it can work for some people)
I do feel blessed that nothing came of it for me. It would be just a rebound thing as you mentioned, and that would not be fair to anyone involved, and only lead to more heartache.
And I will try to write more about all the fun I am having – unfortunately the pain and the “bad” normally motivates me more to write than the fun, so I need to work on that, otherwise everyone will think I am just this sorry single middle aged woman desperate for a boyfriend – and I am so not that!!!
Thank you and many blessing to you too!! 🙂
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Trust me, I’ve had my own “down” moments (months! LOL) as well. It’s good to purge it out of your system. In fact, it’s healthy to purge everything before moving forward with your head high and your spirits up.
You’ve had a great purge! Kudos! Onward and upward my friend
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Thank you for the wise words! You guys help me to keep the down moments to a minimum!!! Blessings! 🙂
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Yep, I am finding that out! In the end I am not even looking for e-harmony e-mails anymore.
So, your advice in right on the mark, be out there, socialize and do the things you love!
I have been meeting people doing things I love, such as this blog and tennis!
Still I am happy I did it and don’t have to wonder “what if”.
A day full of blessings to you! 🙂
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I don’t know what’s right for you, or even for me! But I bet you’re glad you didn’t jump into another relationship right away. I’ve done that multiple times and I’ve seen it done a lot, and it seems to stack the odds against a relationship succeeding.
I guess we’re all just about as happy as we decide to be. Thanks Abe.
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You are right of course, and I should listen and learn from your wisdom (as well as the other readers!!)
I am happy, happy, happy! you need to see the huge smile on my face!! lol
Can I meet Abe?
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Here’s my experience with e-Harmony – They rejected me! Yes, I’m an e-Harmony reject. At first (I was in a vulnerable state when I filled out the application), I hung my head and felt even more rejected than ever. Now I find it’s a badge of honor! I found out later it might have been because I didn’t give them the responses on religion they feel necessary for a good match up. Glad you’re almost done with them. You don’t need them, my dear. Life happens no matter how many stories you hear about “happily e-harmony afters.”
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You are an e-Harmony reject? My boss said he was rejected and I thought he was joking. I didn’t think that they rejected anyone. Some of the profiles I see there are no pictures and the person barely writes 2 words! That is just crazy!
You should have a t-shirt made saying: I was rejected by e-harmony and indeed wear it proudly.
But I can only imagine how would that feel when you are already in a vulnerable place, so I am glad that that you are in such a great place now.
4 days to go and it will be in my past and just another thing that I can say, I am glad I did it but I don’t want to do it again!
Blessings 🙂
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Sounds like eHarmony doesn’t have the patronage of people that are worthy of you. Maybe the universe was doing you a favor, though it may seem otherwise. My hunch is that love will find you wherever you are, when you’re not looking and when you never would have expected it…
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I did think for a second that the guys at e-harmony were intimidated by me!
The Universe did me a favor and I recognize that now! At times it did feel like rejection and so soon after being broken up with, I did ask myself: what is wrong with me?
But I snapped out of it pretty quickly. Nothing is wrong with me!
I believe in Divine timing and I am working on letting nature take its course and not force things – not an easy lesson for the impatient Aries in me!
so, when the time is right things will have, so for now I am making all my married friends jealous by enjoying my free single time so much!!
Thank you for your kind words and a blessed day to you! 🙂
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I never did E-harmony or Match.com, but after MANY failures on Plenty of Fish I met my husband, when I gave up and agreed for just friends. Sometimes, online dating sucks, but as long as you are true to yourself you will find someone. If anything, Online dating and ALL of its creeps, jerks, ok guys, amazing guys, and all the in-between helped me realize who I am, what I deserve, and what I want in a relationship and the boundaries I have. Hope you find all these things and more in your lifes journey!
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Like you have mentioned, online dating is a slice of life with its share of jerks and good guys, it just wasn’t my time. And that was probably for the best as I was not ready and as strong as I should be! I am glad that you met someone and perhaps I will try fishing in the future! I will keep trying! Many blessings to you and thank you so much for your comment! 🙂
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It sounds like there’s definitely something wrong with e-harmony. I’m sorry for your experience but I’m slightly relieved to know I’m not the only one.
I never actually ended up paying for a subscription, it didn’t seem worth it. I filled in all the questions just to see what it would say about me and whether it thought it had many similar people. The result – no matches. And I’d set my parameters to the whole world!
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I am finding out that I am not the only one that that has happened to. Lucky for you didn’t have to pay for it. Bigger and better things are on the way for us! I have faith! Many blessings to you! 🙂
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I remember trying e-harmony and finding it the least helpful of any dating site I tried. I tried True, but quickly figured out they’re not really advertising love at all, but something…else. I met my wife on Christianmingle.com. It let you do a lot more free stuff than other sites and I finally put down one month’s use to try out Diana. Best money I ever spent, being married two years now!
But God works in his own time, and it’s great to see you’re finding the strength of being single, which everyone needs to do before getting married, in my opinion. Be a strong “me” before you can be a strong “we.”
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Great comment! I agree, and think I am a very strong “me”, but focusing some more time on myself will only make me stronger. I do believe on Divine timing and know things will happen on they are meant to happen. I was trying to rush things.
For now I am staying put, but who knows in the future I may decide to try another site.
I am happy for your and many blessings to you and Diana! 🙂
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Hi there! I’m dropping a line to each of my followers to let everyone know that as of tonight my blog will be located at http://www.thesimplesongbird.com. I hope you’ll join me over there!
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Sure will definitely follow! Good luck on the new home! 🙂
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lol @ your icebreaker line, “I would love to chat”. I thought you are the type of person that would go down swinging, that line is…ummm….ummm…a SPAM line….lol. I can go to my email under spam or trash folder and I guarantee there are handful of spam emails with that line…lol
Well at least you tried it and gave it your best shot. Nothing worse than going through life wondering about would of, could of, should of… That one didn’t work out, time to move on to the next 🙂
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it was one of the lines that they offered. I was not going to waste any brain cells to come up with something at this point! Also I figure that perhaps I would get someone that at least would say: no thank you, I didn’t like your photo – it would have been refreshing, rather than dead silence, which leads me to believe that some of those icebreakers went nowhere!
like you said, been there, done that, next! 🙂
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hmmm, but still, you did spend good chunk of money into it, and you do have some time remaining on it….you know what I’m thinking? lol
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no, actually I don’t know what you are getting at
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How about have a little bit of fun with it and making a good blog story out of it :). You can redo your profile with galmourous/photoshopped pics and write an exagerated bio about yourself. You can then reply with something like, “Sorry, I just started going steady” to all the inquiries that comes in..lol. I think there is some fun value to that 🙂
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that could indeed be a fun blog, but the issue is, I think that 90% of the matches they send me are no longer members, which means that my audience would be very small. Perhaps I could do it as a test and see if anybody responds… but who has the time? oh, perhaps instead of replying to my comments… we will… I will keep you informed! 🙂
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lol, gonna be a fun one 🙂
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maybe Ben will respond
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I did see your description and I can see why you two haven’t been matched yet…lol
likes animals: Ben does NOT like woman living with cat(s). Loves dogs though 🙂
curious about the world: nope
Likes sports – both watching and playing: nope. Maybe kayaking
Likes to travel: nope, unless its to Costa Rica
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well, I am not a woman living with cats, in fact I adore dogs, but not curious about the world and no sports are deal breakers for me! Plus I am not a virgin!! lol
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lol, trust me, my other friends and I are working on his virgin thing…lol. We are trying to convince him that is a liability feature at his current age, almost creepy…lol. So give us some time to work on that with him. Speaking of which, I think Big Ben is deserving of a part 2 story. Its been a while and we had an incident at a restaurant, with a lone female school teacher, and it turned out really bad…lol. Times like this I am convinced he will remain single for rest of his life…lol.
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Do you ever sleep? lol
Now you got me curious – so let’s go start writing Ben Chapter 2!
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it is sad that sleep is always the necessity that gets neglected. Probably because its always the last thing on the to-do list. I’m lucky to get about 4-5 hours of sleep 😦
Well, you should be curious, its OUR Ben we are talking about…lol. I’m going to try to get it done by this evening 🙂
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don’t try, just do it – I am sure 3 hrs sleep is plenty for you! lol
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throw in Jack Daniel on the rock and its a deal…lol
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ok,ok, anything you want!
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lol. comin’ right up!
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🙂
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done 🙂
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humm too bad you are taken, fast, efficient and knows how to take an order!
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lol, thats exactly what I said about myself in the about-me page…hahaha. EVERY man can be domesticated into taking orders. FYI, I do dishes, too…rofl.
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You are just Husband of the Year!!!
Enjoy your weekend, stay away from the girl at the vegetable stand and try to get some sleep!!
Blessings! 🙂
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I hope my boys can grow up in an era where they can buy veggies off the street without having to worry about being arrested…lol
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hahaha – no, they will probably have to wait home and eat whatever their wives buy!
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lol, i suppose thats one way to avoid any trouble with veggie girls across America
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specially since they are YOUR kids!! lol
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Dear funny writer…I’m not an advocate of online dating – I think it’s scary for starters and you just can’t manufacture love. But what you can do is be so in love with yourself and the things you love to do that you become so attractive you have to beat the men off with a stick. Self possessed women are a big draw these days. You shouldn’t have to pay a monthly fee for a little company, especially company that doesn’t even suit you.
Just have fun with you and see what happens. My humble opinion as always.
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Miss Impatient here sometimes cannot wait for love to find her and thinks she has to go and find love – I am smart enough to know better! At any rate, it was a learning experience!
It turns out that my amazing single life is becoming so busy that I probably don’t have time for anybody at this moment anyway!
Self possessed I am!! lol
Your humble and always wise opinion is always appreciated! 🙂
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Beautiful writing.
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Wow! Great post! I too have been on e Harmony and didn’t love it :-(. I think you’re right in that they match you with people who aren’t even active as in paying member. I too am recovering after a break up and I have had to fight the compulsion to call an ex or “replace” him too soon. I’m glad that you posted the 5 stages of grief. I’m officially in the ANGRY STAGE!!!!! You’ve inspired me to post more of my honest thoughts…. just because.
I look forward to reading more of your posts.
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I think we are going through the same thing: hurting over a breakup and wanting to move on quickly. But some things cannot be rushed. I am glad that the stages of grief resonated with you. We need to go through them one way or another.
I am glad that I have inspired you to post more!! Thank you!
Be blessed! 🙂
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I’m not sure people want relationships any more. One night stands maybe, but relationships seem too hard, and they get in the way of life.. It’s sad.
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Oh it is indeed sad! I don’t want to believe that! I still want to believe in fairy tales and soul mates! But I am falling in love with my single life for now!
Blessings! 🙂
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E-Harmony sounds very dispiriting! Good luck! k.
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It was! But at the same time I am glad that I gave it a shot! Bigger and better things in my future!! Blessings! 🙂
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Hey! I’ve used match.com and plentyoffish and both were good and I got loads of dates… I’ve heard all sorts of bad things about eharmony and am glad they weren’t around when I was internet dating! I have many friends who met their now husbands/wives etc off the internet so don’t give up.Saying that, i must have gone on well over 100 dates off the internet and finally met my husband. At work. So I guess if you are looking for someone to be your other half, just get out there. I met my previous boyfriend through a swing dancing class, so you really and truly never know where you will meet someone. And if you don’t… so be it! Love yourself! 🙂 xo Hugs from Canberra. xo
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Thank you for your great feedback! I haven’t given up on online dating, but I have been taking a break and dating someone casually. I am thinking of going on one of those 2 sites in 2013. I will probably try POF first since it is free 🙂
Anything can happen so I am being active, having fun and being open to new experiences!
Thank you for the hugs, and hugs and blessings back from New York! 🙂
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That is so funny. I had a similar experience. I was complaining to my friends that I find it hard to believe in all of the Tampa Bay area, I don’t have not ONE match!!
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…and guess what? I did what I said I would never do. I signed for e-harmony, and for whatever reason, perhaps it is a question of timing, this time there is not a lack of matches, but we shall see if there will be any quality. Blessings to you! 🙂
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I agree with you it’s just a little incredible to have not received responses.
I looked into E-harmony but after all the quizzes & question answering, when I realised it cost, I didn’t go forward. OH it took ages to shake them off my emails!!
I have just spent $60 on match.com Someone at work said they’d met their partner on it and I thought I need to venture, need to do something different, & I joined. But I tell you what, I already regret I paid money for it. It’s tiresome, isn’t it.
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After I wrote that and took some time off of it, I decided to try again, and I am on it again. I go through phases of liking and hating. It does get tiresome and frustrating some of the time. At this very moment I am hopeful and just enjoying the moment, after that I don’t know …It is like playing the lotto, you got be in it to win lol
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It is like playing lotto, yes.
You know, I read to my son (now almost 18) an email I sent to a guy on match.com & his reply – & I swear, I don’t know if it was a polite reply/not interested, or a brush-off or a man not knowing how to communicate. I had to ask my son!
So I do wish you luck with it all. I certainly understand the love/hate.
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It is great that you have your son to bounce ideas off of it. What I am finding out is that a lot men (educated or not) have no idea how to communicate with a woman, so I have learned how not to take anything personally.
e-Harmony has been a great learning experience.
Best luck to you too! Blessings! 🙂
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You are a good person, hang in there , you will find someone to share life with. Be patience the right one will come when you are not looking. We all want to be love by someone. I do too believe in God, I did a silent retreat last year, it was an amazing experience. I am about to do another one in April. I pray to God everyday, I volunteer at my church, I have a favorite Pastor to go to for guidance, and for counseling. Maybe someday you and I will cross paths.
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I would love to do a silent retreat, but it would probably be extremely difficult for me as I have a problem with silence. I always have the TV or radio on, and if I am with someone I will fill in any silent pauses with anything. I do need to exercise more patience and even more faith. Perhaps we will cross paths, life is funny that way. Wishing you a blessed week ahead! 🙂
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