“Good friends, good books, and a sleepy conscience: this is the ideal life.” – Mark Twain
On Saturday I met my doctor friend for brunch. As I mentioned before we dated a few times 2 years ago and then things fizzled. Still every now and then we would talk or text.
After being too busy to meet the last few times he asked we met for brunch 2 weeks ago and it was fun. After one week he called and invited me to brunch again.
We went to the restaurant we always go to. In the past we tried different ones only to decide that this is our favorite. It was a Saturday and the place was quieter then on Sundays.
We were there from 12 to 4 pm. We drank a divine prosecco and talked about life. We challenge each other to think deeper and look further. We talk about everything, self-improvement, family, fears, wants, ego, karma, etc.
At one point he put his hand on my leg near my knee. He asked if I was okay with that. It may seem funny or weird, but I was okay with that. I knew it would not go anywhere so it presented no danger or awkwardness to me. I think the prosecco made him do it. I think the prosecco made me say ok.
At one point he was texting. I would normally not say anything to anyone about using their cell phone at the table, even if it bothered me but since we are always talking about being present and in the moment, I said:
Don’t you think you are being rude?
He apologized and said I was right and explained what he was texting about. He turned his phone off for the rest of the lunch.
I think he and I have an easy friendship that I don’t intend to change into anything else, hand on my leg or not.
“There is very little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude.” – W. Clement Stone
On Sunday I met a graphic designer I met on Match. This was our first date.
We both got there 30 minutes early. Him by design, me because I thought the agreed time was 12:00 instead of the actual 12:30.
I had scrambled eggs and a coffee as I was still not able to eat a lot food.
He was handsome, nice, personable and smart. But I didn’t really feel an attraction, a connection. Our lifestyle and life wants are different. Don’t get me wrong I appreciate the differences in people but in this case it would frustrate me.
He is very laid back and I feel I would have to be the one in charge of the relationship. I have been the one in charge of relationships in the past and I don’t want to do it again.
I say that not as criticism of him but just to point out why I think we are not a match.
He said he liked me and said he wanted to go on a second date, but hasn’t called yet, which I find it is often the case. I think he and most guys, wants me to call them back or say something first. Sadly he will have to wait forever.
I have just returned from a date tonight. He is a 34 year old Jewish accountant. Yes I said 34!!! I am 51!! So there is a bit of age difference. He is recently divorced with no kids.
Of course I think our age difference is too much for a relationship but I didn’t think there was any harm in meeting for a drink.
We were going to meet at a rooftop bar but it was closed for a private event so we just crossed the street and went to a Cuban restaurant.
M. was fun, personable, and cute in a boyish way. There were some hints of chemistry. I had a passion fruit drink and appetizer of beef and fried yucca, and they were delicious. After it, he walked me to the station.
On the way, suddenly, he stopped and kissed me. I still have stitches in my gum from my surgery, still I welcomed the surprising gesture.
We will see each other again, if anything to just settle a bet. We bet $5.00 on the Jet/Chiefs game on Sunday. I picked the Chiefs.
“Kissing – and I mean like, yummy, smacking kissing – is the most delicious, most beautiful and passionate thing that two people can do, bar none. Better than sex, hands down.” – Drew Barrymore