dating and politics, endless first dates, nights out, online dating, pizza and prosecco, political divide, Quiet clubbing, silent disco, tapas and empanadas
“Reclaim your curiosity, your sense of adventure, and have some fun. Don’t take every moment of your life so seriously. Allow yourself to enjoy life.” ―
A little glimpse of what I have been doing the last couple of weeks, when I was not too busy texting a married guy (a little self-deprecation humor never hurts)
Work: I sent the final response letter to the auditors yesterday. I thought this day would never come. I hope this response is acceptable and I won’t hear from them for another few years. Now I am preparing for a lot changes at work. I will be talking more about it in the next month or so.
My sister and I had a busy couple of weekends with friends visiting.
July 20th. A 27 year old friend of mine came for the weekend. On Saturday we went to a Quiet Clubbing/Silent Disco event at 230 Fifth Ave in Manhattan. We were given headphones with 3 stations. There were 3 DJs and we got to choose which one to listen to. I had fun flipping from station to station and when it all got too much I just removed the headphones and silence reigned. It was a fun experience. On Sunday we went for brunch at Chat 19 in Larchmont, NY. Always a favorite place to go to for a meal.
July 27th. A 57 year old friend of my sister visited. On Saturday we went to a new restaurant I wanted to try: Little Drunken Chef in White Plains, NY. It was a fun atmosphere and great food. We had, among other things, the empanadas in the picture above. After that we went to the Empire City Casino. No big win, but no big loss either. On Sunday we had pizza at Colony Pizza in Port Chester, NY. It was my first time eating their pizza in over 20 years. It is a very thin crust, delicious! I also had the best prosecco ever, in the picture below!
Dates: In the past week I had 2 dates with guys named Joe.
First Joe. He is 50 years old. He is in IT and has a young son. We met at Modern Restaurant in New Rochelle. We shared a pizza. He seems very nice, but is constantly busy even to reply to texts. It seems more like lack of interest. He asked me out for drinks next Monday night because he will be in my area for business. I am not sure I like the idea of being asked out just because it is convenient. I was not excited about him to begin with, so I think the second date will not happen.
Second Joe. He is 65 years old. He is semi-retired accountant. We met at Burrata in White Plains, NY. I had delicious short ribs filled pasta dish. The conversation was great until it turned to politics. I am not a fan of Trump but I am respectful of other people’s opinion. He is a hardcore Trump fan. He detests immigrants, but as he says it, from certain countries only, trying to tell me that Brazilians are okay, but Guatemalans are not. He wanted to go on and on about Trump to try to change my mind. I asked him to stop. I said I understood both sides of the immigration debate, and I do. I said I hope that Trump is successful as I love the US but it would be a waste of time to try to change how I feel about him. Finally I was able to change the subject and it seemed that we were able to forget about politics and enjoy dinner.
I got home and sent a text thanking him for dinner. He replied the next morning with a long list of compliments about me, with everything from smart to funny and everything else in between. Then there was just silence. I was not excited about him but I decided to confront the silence. That is a new thing for me. I would normally just ignore, since silence is an answer in itself but I decided to ask what happened.
He replied with, again, many compliments but said that he was no sure about me because of our political separation. He said he loved Trump and he was not happy about Obama. Why did Obama make an appearance in this conversation I don’t know. I said thank you for the explanation and wished him luck.
“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.” ―