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Physically back, mentally still away

24 Monday Oct 2022

Posted by A Star on the Forehead in Daily Life, Daily Message, Finding Me

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Clinton Outlets, Foxwoods Casino, gambling, going away, Manhattan, Mohegan Sun Casino, Mystic CT, NYC, off from work, shopping, slot machines, Tanger Outlets, vacation, walking, Westerly-RI

“There is a kind of magicness about going far away and then coming back all changed.” ― Kate Douglas Wiggin, New Chronicles of Rebecca

Hi friends,  I will be visiting everyone’s blogs in the next few days and will be catching up on your posts. I do miss you all when I am not around here.  Actually, you are the only routine I missed 🙂

I have been off of work for the past week.  This time I didn’t check in at work at all.  I totally disconnected, I didn’t even check email.  I really needed this break.  I don’t care about work as much anymore (there will be a future post about it).

My friend from Brazil is still here.  She will be here until next Sunday.  It has been fun playing tourist, but also so exhausting.

Among all we did, we spent a day in Mystic, CT, just enjoying the beautiful scenery and stores.  We had some delicious pastries at Sift Bake Shop. 

We spent a day in Westerly, RI. There we spent some time with my friend that lives there and is running for town council.  We attended one of her events, and drove around the beautiful beaches.  Eating at the Verandah at Ocean House in Watch Hill is always a favorite for the amazing water views.

We also spent a couple of days at Foxwoods Casino and Mohegan Sun Casino.  While we didn’t make money, we didn’t really lose much, and it was really fun playing the slots.  While there we shopped at Tanger Outlets. We also had great meals there, specially the one at Ballo Italian Restaurant in Mohegan Sun.

We were sightseeing in New York City for a couple of days. We did a lot walking, which was good since we have been doing a lot eating. The best meal in NY was at Rice and Beans, a Brazilian Restaurant.

Mr. Sweet joined us for that dinner and the night before he took us to an Argentinian restaurant that his friend owns.  He continues to be very sweet, being kind to my friend and bringing bagels for my sister every time we meet.  I will be writing a post about him next.

There has been a lot shopping.  Even though I dislike going shopping, if I am forced to go I end up being the one that buys the most.  Besides the outlets in Foxwoods we also shopped at the outlet stores at Clinton Outlet in Clinton, CT. And not to mention, all the other stores, such as TJ Maxx, Marshalls, Macys, etc.

There was a huge amount of walking, which is always welcomed by me.  My sister and my friend are not used to so much walking, so we got an Uber a couple of times in NY.

This week will be non-stop again, specially since I have to get back to work. During the day, my sister and I will take turns taking my friend to work with us.  Some evenings we will go shopping as she still has some items left on her list, and will also go out to eat as we still have a couple of restaurant to get to.

Stay tuned for the post about Mr. Sweet.  For now, I just wanted to say hello.  Wishing everyone a blessed week! 🙂

“Distance changes utterly when you take the world on foot. A mile becomes a long way, two miles literally considerable, ten miles whopping, fifty miles at the very limits of conception. The world, you realize, is enormous in a way that only you and a small community of fellow hikers know. Planetary scale is your little secret.

Life takes on a neat simplicity, too. Time ceases to have any meaning. When it is dark, you go to bed, and when it is light again you get up, and everything in between is just in between. It’s quite wonderful, really.

You have no engagements, commitments, obligations, or duties; no special ambitions and only the smallest, least complicated of wants; you exist in a tranquil tedium, serenely beyond the reach of exasperation, “far removed from the seats of strife,” as the early explorer and botanist William Bartram put it. All that is required of you is a willingness to trudge.

There is no point in hurrying because you are not actually going anywhere. However far or long you plod, you are always in the same place: in the woods. It’s where you were yesterday, where you will be tomorrow. The woods is one boundless singularity. Every bend in the path presents a prospect indistinguishable from every other, every glimpse into the trees the same tangled mass. For all you know, your route could describe a very large, pointless circle. In a way, it would hardly matter.

At times, you become almost certain that you slabbed this hillside three days ago, crossed this stream yesterday, clambered over this fallen tree at least twice today already. But most of the time you don’t think. No point. Instead, you exist in a kind of mobile Zen mode, your brain like a balloon tethered with string, accompanying but not actually part of the body below. Walking for hours and miles becomes as automatic, as unremarkable, as breathing. At the end of the day you don’t think, “Hey, I did sixteen miles today,” any more than you think, “Hey, I took eight-thousand breaths today.” It’s just what you do.”
― Bill Bryson, A Walk in the Woods: Rediscovering America on the Appalachian Trail

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A fool and his money are soon parted?

04 Friday Dec 2020

Posted by A Star on the Forehead in Daily Life

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being cautious and taking risks, CT, donations and volunteering, Foxwoods Casino, gambling, Mohegan Sun Casino, Mystic, Rhode Island, Stock market, Westerly

“Fools make feasts and wise men eat them.”― Benjamin Franklin

Thank you for the title of this post Rob!(https://forfriendswithoutborders.wordpress.com/2020/12/04/the-book-of-life-holiday-edition/.  I was writing this post when he replied to one of my comments on his blog with that saying.  It fit perfectly so I borrowed it.

I have mentioned here before that I am very careful with my money and live well below my means. I have no one to fall back on and cannot collect unemployment so having savings is crucial to me.

It affords me the peace of mind when an emergency comes up and it also allows me to be able to help my family. That is the one thing I am the proudest of: the ability to provide my parents a financial worry-free retirement.

Still there are instances where I feel like a fool. Either because I was taken for a fool or because of spending that may be considered foolish.

“Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants.”― Epictetus

Donations:
I helped people that later were on luxurious vacations and flaunting expensive purchases. I helped people that didn’t even say thank you. Not that I am doing it for the glory but it feels good when is appreciated and the money goes where it is intended.

More and more I am learning to let go, to help and not look back. Once the money leaves my hand, it is on them and not on me. I am happy to say that to each person that didn’t thank me or that misuses the money there are at least 3 more that are grateful and uses it wisely.

I will not stop helping no matter what. I will take the chance every time.

“Too many people spend money they haven’t earned, to buy things they don’t want, to impress people that they don’t like.”― Will Rogers

Casino:
I am blaming Coronavirus for going to the Casino more often. After being locked in for so long, taking weekend trips to the casino feels like a mini vacation. They give me free rooms, which I more than pay for with the money I leave there, but still is a free room.

File that under entertainment. It is fun. I only take money I can afford to lose. I get to see my friend that lives nearby in Westerly, Rhode Island and I get to spend time in Mystic, CT.

I just try not to think about how many massages I could be getting with all the money I leave there ☹

“A Penny Saved is a Penny Earned” ― Benjamin Franklin

Now I am stepping in an area where I can really be made to feel like a fool:

The Stock Market:
After working in the financial services industry for 25 years and having people assume that stocks is the kind of brokerage my company does, I am finally dipping my toes in the stock market pool.

I have always dismissed it as something I didn’t know enough to play in it, as a playground for the big boys only.

About a month ago a good friend mentioned that I should put some money into a specific cryptocurrency. I opened a Coinbase account and did that. I invested very little. This week that crypto has more than doubled its value.

Excited over that potential windfall and kicking myself for not having invested more, this week I opened a Robinhood account. and invested in stocks in different areas. Seeing the fluctuation and the ups and downs is both scary and enticing.

“Alvin smiled back, and kissed her. “People talk about fools counting chickens before they hatch. That’s nothing. We name them.” ― Orson Scott Card

I remember several years ago listening to one of our brokers when he was buying bitcoin for around $50.00. At that time it was such an unknown thing. I wasn’t even curious about it. This week it increased to over $19,000.00 each. Do the math 😦

I can see that the potential for making money here is huge, but also to lose. Being an adventurous Aries I have to watch myself.

I feel like I arrived late to the party and now I need to make up for it. My very wise friend was quick to note: “Prosperity is always waiting for us”. God bless him for making me realize there is no hurry. The right time is always now.

At this point I feel I am cautiously taking a risk 🙂 That just sounded like the talk of a fool 🙂

I am curious to know your experience. Do you dabble in the stock market? What are your thoughts?

I want to add that I am aware of how blessed I am to have savings at this point. With so many people struggling it is not my intention to flaunt the little I have. I also feel it is okay for me to be proud for how hard I have worked and for the choices I have made.

“While money can’t buy happiness, it certainly lets you choose your own form of misery.”― Groucho Marx

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Impatient, grateful, loving and contemplating honesty!

11 Thursday Jun 2015

Posted by A Star on the Forehead in Daily Life, EX Files

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casino, friendship, gambling, gratitude, honesty, love, Patience, perspective, truth

“Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.” – ― Aristotle

1:00 pm. Right now I am defrosting my freezer with a hairdryer so that the official GE repairman can return to fix it.   What I really feel like doing is taking an ax to it and chopping it to pieces.

This day has been an exercise in patience… I keep failing all the patience tests that the Universe sends my way.  At this rate I will have to repeat this very same Life-cycle all over again.

I had taken the morning off from work to deal with the fridge, but it turned into a whole day affair.  I know stuff like this happens to teach me patience and the ability to deal with things that are out of my control.  Two other words come to mind:  Perspective and Gratitude.

I didn’t always have a fridge. I remember when my family finally had enough money to buy a fridge.  I was probably about 10 years old.  It was like it was Christmas and we had won the lottery.  Having ice cubes floating in a glass was magical.  It is good to remember that.  It is good to think not of the broken fridge but to remember that I am blessed enough to have a fridge to break in the first place.  Living in the US with all the comforts of the First World it is easy to take it all for granted.  Reminders are blessings!

“A grateful mindset can set you free from the prison of disempowerment and the shackles of misery.” ― Steve Maraboli

Problems need to be put into perspective and in their right place.  This is just a fridge and it is only money.  Okay, it is annoying and frustrating but it is not the end of the world.  Deal with it and move on.

6:00 pm.  Fridge Fixed.  The GE repairman charged $368.00 and changed 3 parts, including the one supposedly already changed.  The original repairman charged me $375.00.  He hasn’t returned my calls and hasn’t stopped by to return my money as he said he would (when the fridge broke again I called him and he said he wanted to come to repair it, I said I wanted my money back instead.  He said no problem, but never followed through on that)

At this point I will probably see him again in Small Claims court.  It is now a matter of principal.

“Respect for ourselves guides our morals; respect for others guides our manners” ― Laurence Sterne

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On another front, I am taking tomorrow off and embarking on a long weekend with Ex’s mother.

For her birthday she wanted to see Bette Midler.  The Divine Miss M. is playing at Mohegan Sun Casino.  Since I have free rooms at Foxwoods Casino (just 15 minutes away from Mohegan Sun) I decided to make a whole weekend out of it.

When I tell people I am still in touch with his mother they frown.  People don’t understand why I didn’t leave the entire past behind.  Here is my thinking: Not having a relationship with him anymore didn’t make me stop caring for her.  I am able to separate things and at this point she realizes there is no turning back so she has quit making allusions to it.

I made a conscious decision long ago not to blame the mother for the sins of the son.  I choose to love freely and not link one person to the other.

“There is nothing I would not do for those who are really my friends. I have no notion of loving people by halves, it is not my nature.” ― Jane Austen, Northanger Abbey

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Preview – my next post will be a hard one, and perhaps my posting this little blurb about it will force me to actually write it. It will be hard because I will have to admit  to you certain things that I don’t want to admit to myself.  But, once again, what is the point of this blog if not for me to be totally me, honest and raw.  Totally childish, totally needy, totally grateful, totally sinful, totally blissful and totally wrong some times.  At the end of the day I want to own my life.  I want to take ownership of my mistakes, I want to learn from them, but above all I want to be able to make them if that is what I want to do at the moment. You reader are my friend and as such you deserve honesty.  Then you shall have it.

I am not sure if I am looking for acceptance or if I want you to take me by my shoulders and shake me up and make me come back to my senses.

I think I am looking to confront myself and make you the audience.

“It’s discouraging to think how many people are shocked by honesty and how few by deceit.” ― Noël Coward, Blithe Spirit

 

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