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dinner and concert, first dates, Harvest on Hudson restaurant, Hastings NY, new relationships, online dating, Port Chester NY, Sonora Restaurant, Steely Dan concert, The Capitol Theatre
“Everything in the universe has a rhythm, everything dances. ” ― Maya Angelou
After no dates for a while, I had 2 dates in 2 days.
The guy that I called “The Disingenuous” on the prior post invited me to go see Steely Dan. I had not blocked him because I sensed that he was harmless and just perhaps a little misguided. I mentioned to him that I didn’t think he was serious about meeting because of what he had done before.
He apologized, and said it was not his intention to appear that he was playing games. I said ok, and he quickly got the tickets and then asked for restaurant suggestions. I gave him a couple of names and he booked a place that I like, Sonora Restaurant.
We met near The Capitol in Port Chester, that was where Steely Dan was playing. From there we went together to the restaurant. It was a gorgeous evening, so we sat outside. We shared several small plates instead of ordering an entrée. It just felt faster that way, as we had the concert to go to.
We shared different tacos, eggplant meatballs, yucca fries, quinoa cakes, etc. To drink I had the Brazilian Cosmopolitan, made with blood orange vodka. He had iced tea. He quit drinking. He said he doesn’t have a problem with alcohol, he just feels he doesn’t need it. Everything was delicious and the conversation flowed.
“A man should hear a little music, read a little poetry, and see a fine picture every day of his life, in order that worldly cares may not obliterate the sense of the beautiful which God has implanted in the human soul.” ― Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
The theater is beautiful and the concert was great. Even though I really didn’t grow up listening to Steely Dan, I recognized a few songs. They didn’t play their most famous one, and the one that I knew the most, Rikki Don’t Lose My Number. The entire band was amazing. Every single one so talented!!
After the concert, he walked me to my car and we hugged goodbye. It was the strongest hug I ever received. The jury is still out if that was a good or bad thing. I am thinking he was just eager.
We have texted back and forth for a little bit. I am not sure if we will see each other again. He is 60 years old, but looks younger. He has been married twice, and has 3 kids, the 2 youngest are 10 years old. He works as some type of smart home/alarm sales – not sure exactly the details. Maybe it is worth a second date. I didn’t really feel much chemistry. I am just not sure.
“The beauty of God is in the wind, in the movement of the ocean, it is in the eyes of a woman gazing at her lover, pouring the deep red wine of love from her eyes like two crystal cups. There is a God who dances and who loves and who longs to sing of love…And I mean that God is music; all inclusive, benevolent and life-affirming, unashamed human emotion.”― Jeff Buckley
On Saturday I went on a date with a 58 years semi-retired engineer. He has been divorced for 3 years and has 2 grown sons. We went to an awesome restaurant called Harvest on Hudson. It was facing the Hudson River. The location was gorgeous and the food so yummy.
I had an awesome cocktail, that I don’t recall the name, but it had passion fruit and Aperol in it. He had vodka soda. I had cod fish fritters for appetizer and eggplant for the entrée. He had meatballs, and then linguine. For dessert I had the tiramisu, and it was probably the best I ever had.
“Part of the secret of success in life is to eat what you like and let the food fight it out inside.” ― Mark Twain
He must have said I was beautiful at least 10 times. Not only to me, but to the hostess, to the bartender, to the waiter, to anyone we interacted with. He also loved my dress and my glasses.
After dinner we walked by the river, then to my car. We hugged good bye with a quick peck on the lips. I forgot to mention, when I first met him, it seemed he was going for my lips and I turned so he gave me a peck on the cheek. In my book, when upon meeting someone, peck on the cheek is ok and the norm, on the lips no. Yes, I am a prude lol
We have texted just a couple of times and last night he called me and invited me to dinner tomorrow (Thursday). I said yes. I am not sure there is a lot of chemistry but he seems so nice that I want to go on a second date and see if there is anything there.
I had 2 great dates with 2 great guys. When that happens I get reminded of the beauty of the potential and possibilities. I get the feeling that I am getting closer. One never knows, and that is why I keep trying. Feeling blessed and hopeful.
“I have made a lot of mistakes falling in love, and regretted
most of them, but never the potatoes that went with them.” ― Nora Ephron
Hilarious and categorically correct! Reminds me of the days where definitely, trying to get someone to take it offline to the real world is a challenge in itself! It takes great bravery and some are just not ready yet. Keep being courageous, and have faith! We believe in you!
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Hello,
Thank you for the visit.
Life is too short, so I just need to brave it and keep searching until I find him, or die trying lol
I rather just meet right away instead of spending too much time and energy exchanging messages online.
Thank you so much for the encouraging words! Blessings!
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Even though I have zero interest in dating, I see your accounts about your date life as very illuminating. Your wealth of experience is educational for many of us, and for those of us who don’t date or don’t want to, entertaining. Also, you include details about the food which is just wonderful! 😀
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Thank you Claudette!
I do have years of experience under my belt… I should have written that book lol
I am thinking I need to spend more time writing about the restaurants and the food. Oftentimes, the food is the most memorable part of the evening.
Blessings!
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Let’s see what happens…..at least they were decent and no disasters. Good Luck!
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Thank you Ute!
Surprisingly they were both great guys. We shall see what the future brings.
Stay tuned…
Blessings!
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Well, they do sound promising! I know that you’ll be patient, let things unfold at their own pace, enjoy the experience, and for God’s sake, ask them if they have cats.
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oh no Rob, how could I forget to include such vital information in my post?
The date from Friday rescued a black Labrador last year. The date from Saturday doesn’t have a dog at the moment, but takes care of his neighbor’s dog some times.
Nothing mentioned about a cat at all.
So, on that criteria, they both pass. 😉
Blessings!
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Whew. Thank goodness. I was really terrified that they had cats.
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I know you care 🙂
Next time I will volunteer this information right away so you don’t have to spend even a second worrying about it. 😉
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Sounds perfect. You can take your time and enjoy dates with both until you feel some chemistry with one or the other. But if you don’t feel it, so what?! You’ve had lovely dates with lovely guys and the next one could have that spark! You might even have made some new friends. Enjoy!
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Hi Cathy,
That is exactly my take on this dating thing. I will go on dates until I decide if chemistry is really there or not there.
In the end I consider myself lucky to have met different people, and even luckier if they remain friends.
Blessings!
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I was introduced to Steely Dan by a friend back in my college days so I probably would have enjoyed that show. A shame they didn’t play “Rikki Don’t Lose That Number” but I hope they at least played “Do It Again”, which is the only Steely Dan song my wife likes … 😁
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Hi James,
I think you would have enjoyed, as the entire band was extremely talented. I enjoyed and I hardly knew any songs.
They didn’t play “Do It Again” on the evening I was there. They had different play lists for each night, so I am sure that at some point they did. That is the trouble with certain shows: expectations. My date went in expecting a certain song to be played, and it did; but he was going to be extremely disappointed if they didn’t.
Blessings to you!
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i snuck ahead so I know where this is going ….. south but a good meal and a night out is always a good idea!!! xo 💖💖💖
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tsk, tsk, skipping chapters… lol
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hahahahah 💖😂😂
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Love that song, so had to listen to it again since you made it so easy to listen. I have to read your posts after I eat, you are making me hungry. LOL In my little city the choices are limited but we are fortunate to have some wonderful Indian (curry) restaurants – our fav! and for some reason 3 new Mexican restaurants this summer and one new Italian. Now I am thinking of Happiness Thai – a hole in the wall restaurant with amazing pad thai. Back to reality – thanks for taking us along. Enjoy the journey is what I am thinking, taste the cheesecake, sway to the music and have a cocktail or three. If along the way, you find that golden coin – grab it.
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Hi David,
I love your advice and I think along the same lines. I plan on enjoying life, but also being on the lookout for companionship.
I never acquired the taste for Indian food. I am not a fan of spices. When I went to Thailand all I had was fried rice, so when it comes to food I am not adventurous. Enjoy the new restaurants and it is awesome that you have a Thai place that you can count on.
Thank you for tagging along and blessings to you!
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