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Aries, Astrology, first dates, no chemistry, no spark, online dating, preconceived notions, Sagittarius, Zodiac
“We are all hypocrites. We cannot see ourselves or judge ourselves the way we see and judge others.” ―
Joe. He is one of the Joe’s I wrote about the other day. I was not sure I like the idea of being asked out just because it was convenient. I was not excited about him romantically either. For those reasons I didn’t think a second date would happen.
But it did! It happened because it was convenient – oh the hypocrisy of it all! Shame on me!
Here is my reasoning: I was not excited about him romantically, but I did have a nice time on the date. I figured a second meeting wouldn’t hurt, especially since all I had to do was to walk across the street to the same restaurant from the first date.
We had a good time, as we had had the first date. We talked and joked the whole time but there was no romantic vibes. Third date? no, but I am open to meeting as friends.
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“I suppose it is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail.” – ―
The jerk and the unapologetic Aries
The jerk is a 57 yr old attorney and the unapologetic Aries is me. We made plans to meet a couple of times and he flaked. When I said I didn’t want to meet him anymore he asked for another chance and I said ok.
I met him at a Mexican Restaurant near my home. It started off fine with us making some small talk. He did some complaining about the ex-wife, which is a huge turn off for me, but I was able to change the subject.
Then he mentioned that Aries people are very difficult. He proceeded to tell me all the ways people born under the sign of Aries are extremely difficult to get along with, specially with a Sagittarius(him). He said that I showed how difficult I was when I had decided not to meet him because he had canceled last minute twice. He went on and on.
I agreed with him. I don’t think he expected that. I think he expected an argument. Why would I try to disagree with him? It wouldn’t change anything. It would just make me not enjoy my food. I ordered the skirt steak and I was looking forward to it.
Aries people can indeed be difficult people. We are impatient and opinionated. We are impulsive and think we know it all. We are also great leaders, fiercely independent, passionate lovers and generous to a fault.
Instead of defending Arieses (is this really the plural of Aries, just seems such a funny word), I asked him questions about Astrology. He seemed to know a lot about it. I did ask him why did he want to meet me since, according to him, we were not a match? He said he was open minded. I laughed.
Certain traits are definitely more distinguished among people of a same sign, that is for sure. I have been able to guess some people’s signs just by the way they conducted themselves. Every sign has its good and bad traits, but to generalize and make assumptions like he did is troublesome and unfair.
Two of my favorite people are Sagittarius. We have an amazing relationship. So Sagittarius and Aries can get along.
I am so happy to be an Aries! I think it is the best sign in the zodiac! 🙂
He came in ready to dislike me. He succeeded in that and more. I didn’t like him either. The skirt steak however, was divine!
“Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won’t come in.” ―
Both of my parents were Aries. Two of my brothers are Aries. And I was married to an Aries for 26 years. Some similarities between them all, particularly the opinionated part. But all five were loved by me, a Capricorn with a Sagittarius moon, which is quite predominate.
Point of my little story? The guy was a bit of a jerk.
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Hi Patricia
You had many people of Aries in your life… lucky you or poor you lol
I am sure that we would get along beautifully! I am constantly keeping my opinions in check.
I don’t call a lot people jerks but he was definitely a jerk!!
Sending you blessings! 🙂 ♥♥
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Do you have a blog post that explains the title of your blog?
i hope you continue to enjoy just good times and meals with male friends, that makes sense to me. Enjoying a meal out with someone where there is no pressure or expectation.
The second date with the astrology dude was a waste of time if not for the food, how does he eat when his feet are in his mouth. Talk about self destructing his chances!
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Yes, I wrote about it here: https://blessedwithastarontheforehead.com/2015/07/31/blessed-with-a-star-on-the-forehead-not-just-a-name-a-belief-and-a-way-of-life/
I really enjoy spending time with my males friends and always enjoy making new ones.
Speaking of how he ate, he chewed with his mouth open and spoke with his mouth full … not a good sight!
Blessings! 🙂 ♥
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What a cool story about the title. I think you shared well how it affected you, and i like your attitude of gratitude
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Thank you! I think I use it as my secret superpower lol
Gratitude always!! That is the key to a happy life! ❤
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My brother, who is now my angel in heaven, was an Aries. He was the best bro you could ask for! xo
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I am sorry your brother is no longer around in the physical form. It is such a blessing to have your brother as a guardian angel.
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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I love your last quote as Isaac Asimov is one of my very favorite authors. I made me so sad when he passed.
Google says the American Heritage Dictionary states Aries is the plural of Aries. Same for Pisces.
I think this gets me caught up with all your news.
Glad you enjoyed the steak.
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Aries is just Aries, that makes sense, and it is easier – Thank you for looking it up!
Now I want skirt steak again lol
Thank you for taking the time to read it all!
Blessings ♥♥
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I love love love ‘why would I argue with him? I want to enjoy my food!’! Priceless! Way to go. Yes he’s a jerk but, you are incredibly smart to not even bother! And omg how much I loved the ‘The skirt stage was divine’ comment. So proud of you.
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*steak
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Hi Kat
I got my priorities straight, I don’t let anyone come between me and my food 🙂
I think that when someone is intent on arguing and being mean to us the best course of action is to ignore them and don’t give them the satisfaction of knowing we are annoyed. Plus it would be a waste of time to engage him in a debate.
Thank you for enjoying this post!!
Blessings! ♥
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Good grief. I’m all into astrology, but making assumptions about one’s entire personality and destiny based on their sun sign is a no-no. Also, since we’re on the subject, I’ve recently learned that your rising sign has a significant influence on your personality as well, so although you may be an Aries, there may be another reason why you and other Sags get along.
Also, I wonder why he never thought that canceling last minute TWICE may be a reason for someone not to want to engage with him
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I guess this experience with him helped me look at myself and my own assumptions.
I find Astrology fascinating and want to learn more about it and have my chart done. All I know is that I am an Aries, nothing about any other aspect of it.
Good point! He canceled twice for no good reasons and thought it was perfectly okay.
Thank you for commenting! Many blessings! 🙂 ♥
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How’d you know what star sign you are?
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I am not sure what star sign means exactly. I just know that I am an Aries because my birthday is March 28. And in the Chinese horoscope i am a horse because I was born in 1966. I want to have my chart done and find out more.
What is your sign?
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I think aries too though the description isn’t me
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HI Eliza
If you are born between March 21 and April 19 you are an Aries. But there are a lot other factors that could be at play.
Good for you for not being impatient, impulsive, stubborn know it all as I am 🙂
Blessings! ♥
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Lol, I am some, but that’s not what describes me at all. Thanks!
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How would you describe yourself?
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Can you ask me again when I’m back? Maybe honest to a fault – that includes being tactless and putting my foot in my mouth which I’m expert at, loyal, intense, intuitive, intelligent, patient, accepting, procrastinate, impetuous last minute, lazy, generous. Way too long a list here.
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Hi Eliza
Sure I can ☺
It is great that you seem to have a real idea of your traits. With that being said cut yourself some slack with the negative ones such as procrastination and laziness. Are you really or it is just a perception? We nowadays are bombarded with social media showing how active and perfect others are. We are left with the sense that we are not doing enough, fast enough. So I would think that perhaps you are not as bad as you think. And if you are and want to change, then take baby steps.
Being tactless and being impetuous, I struggle with those also.
I hope you are having a blessed Sunday! 🤗❤
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🙂 you’re sweet. I don’t use social media other than wordpress, a specific forum, email, WhatsApp and such. So I base my perceptions on parking or not going places because we have to walk. Etc.
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Oh I see lol I get it now.
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Saw this http://kellystarsigns.com/rising-sign/what-rising-sign-am-i/
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Thank you, I am going to look that up! ❤
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Yep – a HUGE jerk! ah well, nothing ventured ….
xx
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That is how I look at it 😊❤
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I am a Aries and my brother a Sagittarius and we have always been best of friends. I agree ex wife complaining is a massive turn off
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Hi my fellow Aries 🙂 Thank you for another example that Aries and Sagittarius can be the best of friends!
Complaints of any kind, specially of their exes on the first date it is indeed a massive turn off.
Many blessings to you! 🙂 ♥
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We all get along as we are all connected, it is only the ego that keeps us seperate, not a star sign! I hope
You learnt something from him 🤣🤣🤣
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Hi Juanita,
Ego is indeed a villain.
Everyone is a teacher, everything is a lesson… always learning!!
Blessings! 🤗❤
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If you think about it, how could one same thing be true for approximately 600,000 people? So I give no credence to astrology.
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Even though the whole idea of it may seem far-fetched, I still believe that Astrology, numerology and other beliefs may have some truth to them. Perhaps I am naive, but I am so willing to believe in such things. I would like to study more about it and then be able to discuss it. For now I just have fun observing the similarities and oddities of people.
Thank you for your view! Sending you blessings! 🙂 ♥
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My wife is an Aries too. She’s not always easy to get along with, but we’ve been married almost 45 years. I’m a Scorpio–we’re no bed of roses either. 🙂
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Congratulations on 45 years! Major achievement. It is supposed to be a fiery combination but it worked amazing with my ex and I …until he cheated that is!! Lol
Wishing you many many more! Blessings! 🤗
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Nothing better than being an Aries…my Chinese animal is a Metal Tiger, 1950 so I can stand my ground but also see the other side of a discussion. Mother, 94, is a Sag and talk about controlling!!! We never get along unless she is ruling everything in her domain and everyone else’s! You have to back away from the jerks!!!! Good luck!
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Hi my fellow Aries. I am a Fire Horse, fiercely independent and passionate. 94!! what a blessing to still have her around, but I do understand all about the controlling issues.
My mom is a controlling Taurus that has been getting mellow with age, but still has her moments.
I am glad that the jerks normally show their true colors right away.
Thank you so much stopping by and commenting! Blessings! 🙂 ♥
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