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being safe online, catfish, fake profiles, protect yourself, Public service announcement, romance scams, scam phone calls, scams, spotting a scammer
I think so!
I have been on dating sites on and off for a long time. By now I am a pro, or so I like to believe. I go out of my way to be safe and not take chances. I can normally spot a fake, phony or scam profile a mile away.
But as we are getting smarter online so are the scammers.
In the past I rarely gave my phone number out before meeting someone. Lately I am more lax about it. If I believe that the person is a real person and serious about meeting I will normally talk or text him before meeting.
I don’t go only by my instincts. I Google pictures, phone number, parts of the profile, etc. I play detective, something I enjoy. It is amazing what one can find online if one digs far enough.
Last week, after I did all my research and thought it was safe, I sent a text to a guy that I had been exchanging messages online. He never replied. I looked at his online profile and he was gone. It was very odd. That had never happened to me before.
I wondered what was the deal. Why would someone just want my phone number? What for?
This week I think I found out.
Yesterday I got 2 phone calls from 800-325-0778. A recording said it was from the Social Security Administration and that my social security number was going to be suspended. I was instructed to hit 1 to get more information. Of course I didn’t.
Today I got 2 phones calls from 800-538-9983. A recording said it was from Apple and that my iCloud account was compromised. Again I was told to press 1 for more information. Again I didn’t.
I don’t think it is a coincidence. I think those phone calls are related to the guy that wanted my number and once he got it he disappeared.
1. If you are online dating, do not give your number out unless you think you know who the person really is. That is what I always did and I will go back to being more strict.
2. If you receive a phone call regarding something sensitive such as social security, credit card, cell phone, etc, never press 1 or any other button. Just hang up as fast as you can.
3. Never engage in telephone conversation with anyone that calls with alarming news/information and requesting your personal information. Never ever give out personal information over the phone.
4. Don’t ever call the same number that called you even if seems legit. Phone numbers can be spoofed and appear legit. When in doubt it is always best to call the appropriate agency or company directly.
and on that note, I will share the link to a post I wrote years ago about spotting fake profiles: https://atomic-temporary-33385295.wpcomstaging.com/2016/10/27/how-to-spot-a-fake-dating-profile/
Living, learning and adapting ♥
“Be silent and safe — silence never betrays you;
Be true to your word and your work and your friend;
Put least trust in him who is foremost to praise you,
Nor judge of a road till it draw to the end.”
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Scammers are everywhere, preying on the trust of the innocents.
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For sure! Anyone can be a victim, even the no so innocent 😉
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Excellent quote, and solid advice. Scammers trick people every day!
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Thank you!
And every day they find new ways to trick. We have to always be on alert.
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Interesting!
I just learned something new
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Cool! One less person to be conned!
Blessings! 🙂
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Spamming, ghosting, catfishing … there’s a lot going on! I’m not sure which is the lesser of the evils. What do you think?
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They are all awful. As I see it:
Spamming (getting bombarded with the same messages over and over again) is an annoyance, I just ignore and move on.
Ghosting (someone ending a relationship or potential relationship by just disappearing) it is just mean and a coward way to end things – one doesn’t know if the person chose to disappear or if he is laying in a hospital somewhere. After a couple of times I have learned to be okay with the disappearing act.
Catfishing (someone creating a false identity online to deceive other people) – It can be heartbreaking and even costly to people that fall for it. I am specially aware of this one as online dating is rampant with them.
Besides those there are so many more, with new evils being created every day. Online dating is minefield. If it seems too good to be truth, it probably is.
Yet, I, and many others still brave it… go figure!
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You deserve a medal 🎖
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and for so many reasons! 😉
and it better be something more than one of those “thanks for participating” ones. 🙂
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No, it’ll be the good kind that comes with a bag of candy 🍬 .
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hahaha, in that case keep the medals and candy coming!!
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Good advice and I absolutely love the poem at the end … never judge a road till you reach the end … so true.
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Thank you! I am glad that you like it!
Blessings! 🙂 ♥
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See, I think it’s a huge red flag if someone *doesn’t* want to exchange phone numbers and instead wants to communicate over Kik or Hangouts or WhatsApp. In my experience, those are the ones who are scammers.
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That is interesting how people have different perceptions. I don’t communicate through those either. I normally exchange messages on the dating app and just meet in person. Nothing beats face to face.
Every now and then I do give my number out.
A lot people think like you do and many refused to continue messaging me and refused to meet me because I didn’t want to talk on the phone. I respect that!
I guess all has to do with comfort level and that varies from person to person.
Thank you for pointing out a different view!
Blessings!❤
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I go by instinct. Sometimes I want to talk on the phone before meeting, sometimes I don’t want to give someone my number before meeting. Typically I wait until I meet him just so I know he’s serious about meeting rather than texting forever with no intention of meeting.
But if I have a good vibe and I want to talk off-app and he offers a WiFi communication app, that’s a huge red flag. It usually means the person is hiding something, isn’t local, or has no intention of meeting.
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Actually I think we are more similar than different in this aspect. I thought you meant you would give your number to everyone that asked. In the past I never gave out my number. Lately I don’t have any rules and give out my number if I feel he is serious or if we made plans to meet. I am just disappointed that I believed someone that clearly was not who they say they were, and wonder if I should go back to not giving out my number.
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Oh yes, we are definitely similar! Like you, I rarely give out my number and when I do, it’s my actual phone number. Not Kik, WhatsApp, or Hangouts.
I don’t have any rules about this, either. I go by gut instinct most of the time.
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More similar then different after all 🙂
Instinct is the way to go in all areas. I sometimes second guess it and that is when I get in trouble!
Many blessings to you! ♥
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Yes, same for me! And I’m more inclined to ignore intuition when I’m in a rush. When I slow down, I’m more in tune. 🙂
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Good point! I am going to pay more attention now when I want to rush through things!🤗
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And keep remembering this at the time .However much we know it, so often when it actually happens people forget- even if just the once….
Thanks for the reminder
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Love, light and glitter
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Hi Eliza,
Definitely, some thing are so easy to forget as one gets involved in the moment.
Thank you! Blessings! ♥
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What a world huh! but at least you’re savvy enough to realise what happened, stay safe my dear and have a lovely weekend xx
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Indeed, every day there is a new scammer, gimmick, fraud, so we all have to be always on alert.
Thank you and wishing you the same! 🙂 ♥
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Yes, always be on your guard! There are plenty of scammers still around!
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HI Ute, absolutely! Always alert! Every day there is always a new scam/scammer going around. Blessings! 🙂 ♥
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I try to always be very careful and never do things that lead to problems online or on the phone. This past year, I got taken in twice. Once, I was 1/2 asleep and the call had been just enough about my dream that I gave out some info. The other was a young woman who wanted a relationship, but quickly, strongly, and had a temper. That one caused me 1 full day of no sleep (we texted all night. That was nice, but the ending wasn’t).
Yes, be careful. Social Security, and most other reputable agencies will never call and ask for account number info, birthdays, and such on the phone. Safest bet is to get the person’s name, write down the number, then call the agency, and report it.
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What I got were robocalls asking me to press 1 to speak to a live person. I never did.
Sometimes just the voice of someone makes one feel comfortable enough to share information. I try to always pause before I speak – it makes me think about what I am about to say and if I really want and need to say whatever I am going to say.
I also missed sleep by endless texting that resulted in nothing – it was fun, and I learned the lesson.
Always learning and growing! ♥
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I have even been told that if you happen to get on a call with them, never ever say “yes” or “yeah”. They have been known to slice words out of calls and put them to answer other questions. Yep, best thing is to not get on the call at all.
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Hi Scott, I have heard that a long time ago and don’t always remember that when I am on the phone with them. The moment I say yes I cringe.
Thank you for the needed reminder. Blessings! ♥
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Excellent quote. Thanks for sharing
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Thank you! Blessings! 🙂
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I’m sure, but if you put yourself out there, that’s the risk you must accept.
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If I must, but I will accept it kicking and screaming! 😁
I want to be in the game so I guess I will take the chances.
Thank you for injecting some cold reality on this situation!
Blessings! ❤
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I didn’t mean to hurt you, just be careful
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Oh no, no, no, you didn’t hurt me. You spoke the truth and I can’t argue with that.
Thank you for caring! ❤
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My pleasure
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🤗❤
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Thanks for the tips! 🌸🌸🌸 it’s so hard to online date these days but helpful tips like this are very refreshing
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You are welcome! Thank you for stopping by.
It is hard and getting worst with so many fake, phonies and scammers all over the sites.
Be careful and have fun! Blessings! 🙂 ♥
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Interesting I never had to deal with scam phone calls from a profile while online dating. This was an interesting read. I can see how it happens. I definitely started giving my number out less the more I talked to people because of creeps. I usually have them Snapchat chat me (so I can see pictures and etc) or something before I will give out a number.
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Have you noticed a sharp increase in calls displaying spoofed phone numbers that share the same prefix as your own? I registered my mother’s number with Nomorobo and it was doing a great job. However in the last couple of years she has received a lot of calls displaying her local prefix. This tells me that telamggoters (as I have penned them) have caught on to call blockers and have resorted to spoofing local numbers in a desperate attempt to trick people into answering the phone.
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Hi Ryan
I did notice all those calls with my same area code and prefix, For awhile I would answer thinking it was some local business or friend, now I just don’t pick it up and block it!
I had never heard of Nomorobo, I am going to check that out – thank you for the tip!
The telemaggoters (lol – good name for them) are getting more devious all the time. It is scary!!
Thank you for stopping by and commenting! Wishing you a blessed weekend! 🙂 ♥
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Nomorobo only works with VoIP services. If these operations would give up on falsely displaying local numbers than the calls would start getting blocked again.
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I see, the scammers and such always find a way to get through 😦
I hope your Thanksgiving Holiday was a great one! Blessings! 🙂 ♥
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In deed they are.
As for Thanksgiving it was a good one. I hope yours was as well.
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