I have managed however to have 3 dates with one guy. That in itself is astonishing since I am mostly a one date girl.
On the first date we went for a late drink at a wine bar. I had prosecco, he had a couple of different red wines, and we shared a cheese platter. There were no fireworks but he was nice and friendly. He asked me on a second date that night and I said yes.
During that first date I mentioned that my sister was now living with me and looking for a job. The next day he texted me and asked if my sister wanted to work some hours at his restaurant/catering business while she is going on interviews for something in her field. I showed my sister the text and she agreed to go meet him at the restaurant the next day. She was hired to work 3 days a week.
On the second date he cooked for me at his restaurant. He made crostini with avocado, smoked salmon and capers on top, paired with prosecco (he remembered I like it) for the appetizers. For the entree he made flank steak (which I had mentioned I liked), spaetzle (German egg noodle) and spinach, paired with red wine. For dessert I had a choice of brownie sundae or ice cream sandwich. By then I was so full that I just had a chocolate chip cookie. The photos above are not that great as I took them in the kitchen and not at the table.
For the third date we had drinks at an Italian restaurant and then went to a lounge with loud dance music as it was the only thing open after 11pm. Still we found a quiet corner and managed to be able to talk.
I am still not sure about chemistry. He is a great guy, but also a gentleman and there hasn’t been anything other than a peck on the lips. Until there is a kiss I cannot tell where this will go.
He has 3 kids between the ages of 10 and 14 and he is busy with them every day. He is also very busy with the restaurant and catering, so we haven’t met each other again after those 3 dates. For now we have a texting friendship and that suits me fine, but if we ever start a romantic relationship the lack of time would probably annoy me.
It is a tricky dynamic to mix work with romance even though I am not the one working for him. At first I was overthinking this, then I decided to relax and go with the flow. First, this is just a part time gig for my sister and will not last forever. Second, I have a feeling that he and I will just become good friends and not romantic mates.
I guess the message for me with this post is to keep an open mind. Open mind to go a second and third date even if there are no fireworks in the first. Open mind to think that it is okay to have my sister work for someone I just met and that I can possibly have a relationship with. Open mind to not shut him down for his lack of time and let things develop. Open mind to try a different route.
Wishing you all a blessed and fun weekend!
“Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won’t come in.” – Isaac Asimov