“It’s an universal law– intolerance is the first sign of an inadequate education. An ill-educated person behaves with arrogant impatience, whereas truly profound education breeds humility.” – Aleksandr I. Solzhenitsyn
G., who I thought would be a good friend showed me his true colors. We were texting back and forth the other day when he made a rude comment about the fact that I was an illegal immigrant once. I replied that his comment was not cool.
He said that he was making fun of me when I was 17 years old and first arrived in this country and not of the present successful American citizen I had become. As if that made it okay. Because I was able to find a law to fit in (applying as an unskilled laborer), and also because I was lucky to win the Green Lottery I am now immune to the attacks on illegal immigrants.
I said I sympathize with all the illegal immigrants and their search for a better life. They could be me. I was them. Again I explained I found his remarks very insensitive. I wanted him to see it from my point of view. It didn’t work.
He continued trying to justify his remarks by going on and on with ignorant blanket statements. At one point he asked: “what will happen when the free beer and chips run out?” implying that the immigrants come here only to get things for free.
That was even more insulting to me as I never took a single dime from the government for anything. I know some illegals do use and abuse, but to generalize it is ignorance.
“Whatever the cost of our libraries, the price is cheap compared to that of an ignorant nation.” Walter Cronkite
I said to him: “My huge tax bill pays for services and freebies for tons of lazy Americans and illegals alike.”
This is not complaining about my tax bill, I am paying a lot because I am making a lot. I see it as a reflection of my success. I said that to him to remind him that not all immigrants are liabilities, some are incredible assets.
This is also not to say that I don’t believe in public assistance services. They are very much needed and should be used by anyone in need. I want my tax money to help others.
I think deep down inside he resents me for being in a better financial condition than he is. He also resents me because I said I didn’t want to see him romantically again. He found the perfect way to attack me by attacking people like me.
I said to him that I agreed that we needed an Immigration Reform and I can see both sides of the argument. I added that I rather not talk about a subject that we clearly have opposite views on. He then called me a Liberal, I called him a Trumpster and he continued his speech.
I don’t have a problem discussing difficult subjects with people but in this case I didn’t want to waste my breath with someone that clearly was set on one way of thinking and no matter what I said wasn’t willing to listen. He seemed intent on hurting me. Such ignorance!
The Immigration topic is not a simple one. I can see both sides of the argument. I choose to view it from the point of love and understanding. We are all one under God and on this Earth. Let’s see our fellow human as a person no matter where he comes from, no matter his color, race, sexual orientation, point of view, etc.
“All things truly wicked start from innocence.” – Ernest Hemingway
Let’s step on into each other’s shoes and imagine how it feels. I expect more from the people that know me and know how hard I have worked to be where I am now and to have all that I have. I expected more from him.
It shocks me that I didn’t know how he felt this whole time. It is true that I avoided speaking of Trump. It is true that I would be dying to see him, then when I was with him things wouldn’t go quite right. There was something off. Now, looking back, I see hints that I should have picked up on.
I really dodged a bullet. He is not boyfriend material and he is not friend material. I hope that he reflects on our conversation and perhaps realize how insensitive he was. Perhaps a little light bulb of sensitivity will eventually go on.
I doubt it!
Racism and nonacceptance were always here, but I blame Trump for making it okay for people to attack each other and spout misinformation. The President is on Twitter attacking whoever he thinks doesn’t fit his idea of great America. Why would I think the average Joe would be more considerate, more understanding?
Love is the way out. Love is the only way. I am choosing Love. I am choosing to send love to G., but I am choosing not to be his friend and be subjected to his views anymore.
“There is a cult of ignorance in the United States, and there has always been. The strain of anti-intellectualism has been a constant thread winding its way through our political and cultural life, nurtured by the false notion that democracy means that ‘my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge.” – Isaac Asimov