“I keep turning over new leaves, and spoiling them, as I used to spoil my copybooks; and I make so many beginnings there never will be an end. (Jo March)” -louisa May Alcott
The snow on Saturday was a reminder that skiing season is here and I need to start planning my skiing vacation.
I thought about skipping skiing this season. I am out of shape and have all sorts of pain in my hip and back. Also once again I will be traveling alone.
For a second I become sad and negative. I alternate between feeling like a victim and feeling like the perpetrator.
I am beating myself up for having had an entire year to get in shape and done nothing about it. I had an entire year to go back to the doctor regarding my hip. One whole year to eat a little less sugar and carbohydrates. One whole year to improve physically. I didn’t any of it.
I had one whole year of meeting nice guys (ok some jerks too), and turned them all away. I am mad at myself for saying no to perfectly good guys. I could have a skiing companion if I had not been so picky, if I had not been holding out for fireworks.
I am berating myself for being in this same situation yet again. Another year come and gone, and the same situation remains. I have no one to blame but myself. Should I just skip skiing this winter?
Will blaming myself accomplish anything?That is a resounding NO! I realize, quick enough, that being down on myself, yelling at myself will not accomplish anything. It will only put me in a negative, pessimistic mental state. There is nothing to gain with that. It will only make matters worst.
These thoughts are not helping. I am sending the Universe the wrong message. These negative conversations with myself, these berating of myself only creates more negativity and powerlessness.
Thinking that I have to be in shape and have to have company to go skiing is the wrong way of thinking. Waiting for someone or waiting to be at a certain level to start doing something you love is counter effective and the best way to never do anything at all.
So, this year again, I will do what I do every time. I will go skiing alone and not in good shape. And I am willing to bet I will have the best time ever, as I always do.
I will stand at the top of the mountain, feeling blessed and grateful realizing the beauty of nature and the blessings of God. I will feel invincible and humble at the same time.
I will come back with plans of getting in a better shape for next time.
I cannot do anything about the year that is ending. All I can do is to start now and promise myself I will try harder and never give up. It doesn’t matter if I take steps back or even remain stationary, the key is to love and be kind to myself and to know I am a work in progress and I can always change.
Here is to new beginnings, re-beginnings, planning new beginnings! Here is loving myself and being kind to myself, skinny or fat.
“Great things happen to those who don’t stop believing, trying, learning, and being grateful.” ― Roy T. Bennett