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A tale of 2 plants

30 Tuesday Aug 2022

Posted by A Star on the Forehead in Daily Life, Finding Me

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attention, care, flourish, green plants, green thumb, growth, space, the Light, the sun

 

Several months ago my assistant came to work with 4 tiny little plants she got at CVS.  She gave me 2, which I kept at the office, and she took 2 to her house. 

Fast forward to now that she is back in the office after being away since the end of May.  She was admiring the plants, and asked if I had gotten new ones or if the one above was one of the ones she had given me.  

I was surprised with the question and said that those were the same plants.  She mentioned that hers hadn’t changed much.   

“You inherit your environment just as much as your genes.”
― Johnny Rich, The Human Script

The next day she bought me hers.  One of them is below:

It is crazy when you see them side by side.  To me it is clear to see what happened.  She never removed hers from the tiny little container they came in.  She didn’t give them enough room to grow. 

I think it is the same with us humans.  If we are not given the space to grow, we dwarf and just exist, instead of living and thriving.

She mentioned that she tried to keep hers by the window, but for a variety of reasons they often stayed on the floor.  Mine are always near the window, with the most spectacular sunlight bathing them. 

And let’s not forget that I talk to my plants.  I say good morning, I stop by throughout the day to admire and compliment them. 

And so are we, products of our environment.  We need nurture, light and praise.  We need care to flourish.

If we are somewhere that we are not getting enough space to grow; if we are not being complimented; if we are not receiving light, then we must change locations.

It is my, and nobody else’s, job to give me the things I need to flourish.  If I am waiting on others to give me space, light and care, then I am wasting time.  

What the younger generation didn’t understand was that the grass was greenest where it’s watered..” ― Nicholas Sparks, The Best of Me

Go on, and thrive.  Seek light, space and care, and be your own source of it.  Go towards the light of what makes you happy.  Take whatever space you need, don’t wait to be given or offered, just take it.  The care you need is not found in others or from others, start caring and nurturing yourself.

But, 

Never forget those around you that could use a little of your light and care.  It is only giving that we receive.

I replanted that little plant, and it is now sitting by the window with the others.  In 1 month I will come up and post pictures of it.

“we must bring
our own light
to the
darkness.”
― Charles Bukowski

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… letting my heart be my guide…

19 Tuesday Jun 2012

Posted by A Star on the Forehead in Daily Life, Dating, Finding Me

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flourish, hurt, love, new beginnings, relationships, trust

To the one that moves me:

Yesterday I didn’t know you existed.  Today I would miss you if you were gone!  I would miss your words, your voice and your laughter.  I would miss what you do to my mind, heart and body. I would miss the possibilities and the anticipation.

And yet our bodies never touched.

Your words slowly moved in. With each word I saw you, with each word I knew you.  My heart and my mind began slow dancing to “what ifs”.

You have all the things I appreciate in a man: you see the humor in life, you have a honest heart, you have been hurt in your past,  you are happy in your present, and you have hope for your future.  You take being a father seriously and you are a grateful son!

You took the first step and my heart sang the beginning notes of a love affair! I welcomed you with open arms.

While I throw caution to the wind and jump in head first (not taking time to check if this is perhaps another shallow pool), you are afraid of getting wet.

You are conflicted.  You wrestle with thoughts such as: Too soon?  Too fast?  Too far? You fear getting hurt again.  We both have been hurt before, more times than we care to count.  You contemplate not trying again. To me not trying is a sin!

I cannot deny that it is indeed too soon, it is too fast and it is too far.  But who gets to decide when the time is right, at what pace to go and what is the correct distance?    I don’t know what this is either.  I just know it feels too good to not try!

I cannot say it is going to work, I cannot say it will last. But not matter if it is a day or a year I plan on showing 100% and giving my all. If my heart gets broken again, so be it! I am not afraid! Never was, never will be!  I don’t know how to pace myself; I don’t know how to lower the speed.  Perhaps time to learn and change? I can’t!  I don’t know how! I don’t want to! I rather live and die being me! Showing up in full and hurting completely!

I see beauty and opportunity in the different, the unexpected, the not so safe, and the not so sure.  I enjoy proving people wrong or getting hurt in the process.  My ego wears armor.   I enjoy honoring my feelings.  I enjoy love affairs with the unlovable!  What is the virtue in loving the easy, pretty, safe right across the street?

I don’t want safe and proper! I want to take chances.  I don’t regret failing, I regret not trying!

You gave my mind flight, you gave my heart fancy, and you give my body feelings that still linger in the next morning.

What if this is all it is? What if there is not forever? What if this never gets out of the gate, what if never leaves the starting line? Still I would think it was all worth, for you pulled me out of the dead calm, out of the pained soul, out of just being and brought me back to life.  Out of arid land you made me flourish once again. You were necessary to me; you were a wakeup call! You repaired my heart, you melted my soul, and you made my juices flow. So take a moment now and take a bow!

I plan on no holds barred fun. I plan on being the ride of your life!

For the duration I plan on showing up in full, bare body and soul.  I promise complete honesty, even if it hurts.   I plan on transparency.  I plan on placing my heart in your hands!

BUT,

Ignore all I wrote up to now! I didn’t come here to try to make up your mind! I didn’t come here to plead my case!

Don’t worry about hurting me. I realize that I am the only that can do that.  I am stronger and taking full control and responsability for my feelings and how I react to other’s role in my life.

I am here to say that whatever you do, whatever you choose you have my blessing.  If you follow your heart or your mind, that is completely up to you.  As a friend I am supporting whatever path you take!

What is important is that you look in the mirror and is proud of the person you see! What is important is that you make a choice based on your convictions and your God.

At the end of the day you have to make sure that you honored your feelings and that you were true to yourself!

Just don’t be afraid of living! Because that would be a real shame!

… And if we never meet I plan on treasuring all the images and possibilities my mind created and move on feeling better than ever before!

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