“Happiness is not the absence of problems, it’s the ability to deal with them.” – Steve Maraboli
There are calls to return, tenants to pacify, appointments to get to, passports to renew, tickets to buy, trips to organize, emails to write, deadlines to meet at work, and a whole host of other things to do, with new items added daily.
There is always a decision to be made and some place I need to be. There is always something needing my attention and a fire to put out.
With each item off of my list I feel this enormous sense of accomplishment… only to add another 2 items to it.
I think to myself: When I am done with this and that thing then I will get to relax. When I solve this and that problem I will get to have fun and enjoy my life.
The stories I tell myself always start with “When”:
When I lose weight…
When I find the One…
When my hip gets healed…
When I get that big bonus at work…
When I learn to speak French…
What foolishness! What a bunch of lies.
I forget 1 thing: All of this doing, going to doctors, waiting in line, returning phone calls, searching for the One, working, trying to lose weight, failing at losing weight, etc, etc… All of this busyness is LIFE!
Life is happening now, and it is beautiful. Ralph Waldo Emerson was absolutely right when he said: “Life is a journey, not a destination”
In trying so hard to get somewhere, some invisible destination, some goal, perhaps unattainable, I lose the beauty of the moment, I lose the present. I miss the details, I miss the simplicity.
I forget to be here Now because I am too busy being there in the Future. I get lost in the busyness of the moment, not realizing that that very moment is a blessing.
There will always be something to do, some hurdle to jump, some obstacle to overcome. After one deadline is met there is always another one to meet. That is how life works.
How boring it would be if there were nothing to do and if there were no challenges. I think there is some old saying that goes something like this: “calm waters don’t make great sailors”. I think we all strive to be great sailors in this huge ocean called life.
So here is to being more present and enjoying every moment, even if difficult. I will remind myself that the more life throws at me the better I become. I am on the way to invincibility.
“Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.” – Steve Maraboli