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About happiness… and 1 Year Anniversary

25 Sunday Feb 2024

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1 year anniversary, being happy, being happy no matter what, celebrating, happier together, happiness is a choice

 

“Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.”
― Abraham Lincoln

From the moment I read the words “happiness is a choice”, I decided to be happy.  I do not remember where I read that, but the lesson has stayed with me.

I make that choice every single day.  Some days are easy. Some days not so much.

Some days are all sunshine, butterflies and cupcakes.  Some days not so much.  Some days, it all seems to be falling apart and I struggle not to fall into the victim mentality trap. 

At those moments,  I really have to work hard to remember that I can be happy no matter what is going on in my life and around me.

Happiness is not something to be achieved or acquired, but is learning to appreciate all we already have in our lives.   

“For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson

One of best and fastest way for me to achieve instant happiness is to make a gratitude list.  Counting my blessings puts me in a happy mental space. Smiling and being grateful for being alive is pure happiness. 

Chocolate cake and fresh bread with butter also help 😉

But all kidding aside. I work hard at not having my happiness tied to a person, circumstance or an achievement. I am happy just because I make that choice. Every morning I wake up and I make that choice.

Life is about choices. 

***

1 Year already!!!!!!

On February 23, it marked one year since meeting Michael face to face – we started exchanging messages on February 8.

Michael has made my life more fun, more adventurous, and indeed happier. 

BUT, I was happy before him.  He was happy before me.  I don’t expect him to make me happy.  He doesn’t expect me to make him happy.  We are just happier together!

And we plan on being happier together forever!

“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.” ― Albert Camus

 

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Happy Valentine’s Day! 2024

14 Wednesday Feb 2024

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finding love, Happy Valentine's Day, Love and be love, Paulo Coelho, soulmates

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” ― Lao Tzu

I hope everyone is having a beautiful, loving and blessed day!

I had planned to write about love and about meeting Michael.  But, for lack of time – I am going through some work audit issues – I will write about us in the future. 

For now, I will leave you with a couple of quotes and my beautiful flowers.

Love and be love everywhere you go!

“But how will I know who my Soulmate is?” Brida felt that this was one of the most important questions she had ever asked in her life.
By taking risks’ she said to Brida. ‘ By risking failure, disappointment, disillusion, but never ceasing in you search for Love. As long as you keep looking, you will triumph in the end.” ― Paulo Coelho

 

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Change is necessary, and it is always good!

19 Tuesday Sep 2023

Posted by A Star on the Forehead in Daily Life, Daily Message, Dating, Fiction, Finding Me

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blog posts, can't comment, can't hit like, changes are in the works, new directions, no dating stories, The One and Only, writing and publishing

“It’s only after you’ve stepped outside your comfort zone that you begin to change, grow, and transform.” ― Roy T. Bennett

Happy New Week!

Every Monday feels like new start. A chance to start a new project, or follow up on old plans.

One of my plans is to write more.  Well, not write more; publish more. 

I do write often, but my writings rarely see the light of day.  The problem is, I edit and edit until a post becomes too dated.  I have written about this problem before.  I still have not managed to make a change.

The posts that I manage to publish, are the ones that I decide to forgo all the endless editing and just hit publish.  Believe me, it takes a lot effort for me to be able to do that. I feel anxious, as if I am going out in my pajamas, or if I am serving someone an unbaked cake.

When I look back at old posts, I see so many typos and grammatical errors.  I see a lot wordiness.  I see improvements to be made.  It feels unfinished and, as if I am not presenting my best self.

But, right at this moment, I rather publish a post with errors, than not to post anything at all.

I look at my Drafts folder and it is overwhelming.  As overwhelming as all the books around the house that I haven’t started yet, or worse, that I have not finished yet.

I decided to do something about all of the unfinished in my life.  I plan on reading all the books that I have started. And then, start on all the new books that I have bought from my fellow bloggers that have become published.  I am so proud of all of you! Please give me time and I will eventually get to read your books and will write a review. 

Never finishing a book, is like holding on to a gift and never opening it.  What if there is something really wonderful in there and I never get to it?

Getting back to my posts, I plan on tackling my Drafts Folder and going through each post.  I will either hit publish or delete.

I also feel I need to give this blog a direction.  This blog was started as an outlet to the pain of my broken heart and the devastation of being cheated on.   Then, it became a journal of my dating adventures, and misadventures.

What should it become now?  There are no more dating adventures, since Michael has been elected The One!

Is happiness boring?  Failed dates are more interesting to write about.  Plus, I don’t want to be bragging about how blessed Michael and I feel to have found each other. Perhaps I can make blissful life interesting.

Write about work? This commodities brokerage industry is one crazy industry, and I do have a lot of stories about it. That is an idea.

Write about travels? Well, I need to be traveling more to actually write about it.

The direction will take shape as I write more and more, I mean, as I post more and more.  I decided, boring and all, typos and all, that I will post something every day. 

Perhaps I will have a schedule and every day of the week there will be a different theme, but I am not there yet.  For now, there will be days that my post will be very short, or just a photo, or just a 1 sentence review of something read, seen, eaten, etc.

Please note, I am visiting more of your blogs, but I still cannot hit like on any post (thank you WordPress! NOT!)  And I do suspect that not all my comments are being seen or received.  I write a comment. It appears to be published, but when I go back to the post, it is no longer there.  I am considering changing blogging hosts, once I have researched my options. Suggestions welcomed!

Hang in there, as I grow and my blog changes.  Thank you for being here!

“Don’t Just

Don’t just learn, experience.
Don’t just read, absorb.
Don’t just change, transform.
Don’t just relate, advocate.
Don’t just promise, prove.
Don’t just criticize, encourage.
Don’t just think, ponder.
Don’t just take, give.
Don’t just see, feel.
Don’t just dream, do.
Don’t just hear, listen.
Don’t just talk, act.
Don’t just tell, show.
Don’t just exist, live.”
― Roy T. Bennett

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Iceland in 4 days: Day 3

23 Wednesday Aug 2023

Posted by A Star on the Forehead in Daily Life, Daily Message, Dating, Food, travels

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Blue Lagoon, Brimketill, Grindavik, Gunnuhver, Iceland, Lighthouse, mud masks, Pride Parade, Rainbow Street, Reykjavik

The Blue Lagoon

Day 3. Saturday. Blue Lagoon and Surrounding areas.

We had a 9am reservation at the Blue Lagoon, in the town of Grandivir. It takes approximately 45 minutes to get there from the hotel.  That meant that we had enough time to eat breakfast at the hotel – yippie.  I don’t normally eat breakfast until 12pm, but while on vacation there are no rules.

We got there right before our appointment.  We got in line and waited about 5 minutes.   The place is very busy, but also very clean and organized.

We proceeded to the lockers, showered, changed and met outside in the pool.  This pool is really big with many areas that one can be alone away from everyone.  Very, very different from the Secret Pool.

The Blue Lagoon

We paid $127.00 per person. It gave us 1 drink at the pool bar, the use of a robe and a towel and 3 face masks.  The first was a lava scrub to exfoliate,  the second was silica mud mask to deep cleanse, and the third was a choice of a moisturizing mask or anti-aging one… any idea which one I got? To drink I chose a strawberry prosecco and Michael had a beer.

We could have stayed there as long as we wanted.  There are a few restaurants and a café to choose from.  We chose not to eat there and left in a couple of hours.  We really enjoyed being there but wanted to explore Grandivir and the surrounding areas.

Fish House Bar and Grill

After leaving we drove around the Harbor in Grindavik. We stopped for lunch at the Fish House Bar and Grill. I had fish and chips… yes, I keep insisting on fish and chips, even though I always find the batter on the fish too greasy.  Michael had the Artic char with potatoes.  To drink, Michael had the Swiss mocha, I didn’t want anything.  I know better than to have Swiss mocha in a place other than a coffee or dessert shop.  The food was good.  The Swiss mocha, as expected, was bad. The bill was $64.27.

Hopsness Lighthouse

We then drove along the shore with no itinerary.  The place was deserted.  We came upon the Hopsnes Lighthouse.  All around this lighthouse there are remnants of shipwrecks and their history. 

We came across this blue box with a saint.  I imagine is a patron saint for the sailors. Or I could be totally wrong.

From there we continued driving West.  In about 20 minutes we reached Brimketill Lava rock pool.  It is right off the road, with a viewing platform.  From there one can see the beautiful force of the waves, and the natural pools it forms.  I read about people swimming in the natural pool, but I cannot imagine it.  Unless there is a day with absolute zero waves.

Brimketill

We really loved this place and were happy to have found it.  From there we drove to Gunnuhver  Hot Springs.  This is a very active geothermal area made up of mud pools and steam vents.

Gunnuhver

Iceland is so rich in folklore. In Brimketill the stories are about Oddny, a giantess or a troll. Here at Gunnuhver the story is about a woman called Gunna. Both interesting stories, but for the sake of brevity I am not writing about them.

It was a good stop and very, very interesting to see, but we didn’t hike the whole area.  There is so much we wanted to do, we didn’t really spend enough time at any site.  From there we went back to Reykjavik, about 1 hour drive.

Upon arriving in Reykjavik we realized that today was the day of the Pride Parade.  It had been at 2pm.  I am sorry I missed it, I was told it was a lot fun.  Iceland is very LGBTQ friendly.  It was now hours later, but still the streets in downtown around the parade area and our hotel, were closed.

Reykjavik

Eventually we found a place to park and got to the hotel.  We changed and went in search of a place to have dinner.  The town was packed, but I saw an empty table outside a restaurant and was quick to grab. 

The name is 101 Bistro.  The waitress was friendly. I had a fish sandwich that had too much tartar sauce on it, but it was surprisingly good. Michael had pizza – not good, but he ate the whole thing – well, that is not saying much, he will eat whatever is in front of him. The bill was $54.26.  He has a beer.  I didn’t want anything to drink.

Skólavörðustígur, Rainbow Street on a regular week day

From there we walked to Skolavordustigur Street, known as the Rainbow Street. We had been there on the first day of the trip when we were looking for a market.  It had been empty.  Today it was busy, festive, with people all around the bars and the street. 

Hallgrímskirkja, Lutheran Church

Walking up Rainbow Street leads up to Hallgrimskirkja, an Evangelical-Lutheran Church.  We paid $19.73 both, to go up to the top and see the beautiful views of the city. I enjoyed seeing the town and surrounding areas from the top.

In front of the church sits the statue of Leif Erikson, a hero of Viking age Iceland.  I will write a following post about him.

Reykjavik view from the church

On the way back to the hotel we went to Gaeta Gelato again. I had a gelato after dinner.  This time there was a huge line.  I waited. I really wanted a Swiss Mocha.  

Then back to the hotel and get ready for the next day of long driving.

 “We need the tonic of wildness…At the same time that we are earnest to explore and learn all things, we require that all things be mysterious and unexplorable, that land and sea be indefinitely wild, unsurveyed and unfathomed by us because unfathomable. We can never have enough of nature.” ― Henry David Thoreau

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Playing house, and on the way to Iceland

09 Wednesday Aug 2023

Posted by A Star on the Forehead in Daily Life, Daily Message, Dating, Finding Me

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Blue Lagoon, done dating, Iceland, playing house, Reykjavik, secret lagoon, vacation

“The traveler sees what he sees. The tourist sees what he has come to see.” ― G.K. Chesterton

Hi friends,

I have a lot to write, but once again I am using the excuse of lack of time. Work is insane, no time for anything, even though my co-worker has returned from her 3-month medical leave. I am trying to get a lot done to be able to go away for 5 days.

So, this is just quick hello and an update on how things are going with Michael. We have been together now a whole six months from the time we exchanged the first email.

Michael has been living with me for a whole month now.  It has been so easy.  No stress, no problems.  I imagined there would be some growing together pains, but there is none.  There is only bliss.  So much laughter is heard around in my home.

I think we are really being very open and receptive of each other.  I am learning how to go to bed early and he is learning to indulge a little more when it comes to food.  That is just the beginning… We plan on learning from each other and with each other, and becoming the best versions of ourselves.

Tomorrow night Michael and I are leaving to Iceland.  It will be a quick getaway.  I plan on not checking emails and not think about work at all.  It is only 5 days but I think this quick time away will do me wonders.

I am looking forward to traveling to some place neither of us has been to before.  It is our plan to see the world, so that in a few years we can decide where to retire.

I hope to take pictures and post them here along with some notes about my trip. I know I have made such promises before.

Got to run now… bags to pack.

Thank you for following along my dating journey, and for always providing me support and the kindest of words! You make my life better!

Blessings to all!

“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.” ― Marcel Proust

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M survived 3 weeks with my family in Brazil!

22 Thursday Jun 2023

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Christ the Redeemer, Cristo Redentor, family meals, Hawk's Peak, he is the one, online dating, overindulging, Pico do Gaviao, Time in Brazil, vacation

“No man needs a vacation so much as the man who has just had one.” ― Elbert Hubbard

I arrived from Brazil on Saturday.  M went straight to Florida.  We were together 24/7, and just got along beautifully.  We miss each other.  He will be coming to NY on July 4th.  I am swamped at work, specially at the end of the month.  My assistant is still out.  So he is giving me space to catch up with work.

He is the one! Yes, I am announcing it to whoever care to listen! I am being extremely bold when I say this is forever.  It feels like forever.  I am going to enjoy this “forever” for as long as it lasts.

My family, like the majority of Brazilians, are very welcoming.  Everyone embraced him right away.  It helps that he is an extremely loveable creature.  He is kind and unassuming, always trying to help others.  I love his generous heart!  My family truly loved him and welcomed him as part of the family.

I had warned him that this would be a work trip.  At times he hinted at wanting to go surfing, etc, but there was no way I could make that work this time.  The beach he wants to go to is very far from my town.  He is now floating the idea of renting a house there for a month this summer.  At this point, I feel I am tied to NY, at least for the next few months.  But I am remaining open minded.

As I mentioned prior, while in Brazil, we painted, cleaned, shopped, did Pilates, spent time with friends and ate.  I ate like the world was coming to an end.  Unfortunately, I have several extra pounds to show for it.

M is vegetarian and stays away from sugar and carbs.  That is, until he met me.  He is not fanatical about his diet, so in Brazil, to be polite, he indulged.  He probably ate more sugar and carbs in 3 weeks than he did his whole life prior.

I normally don’t overindulge in Brazil, but with the excuse of having him try different treats, I did. I figure that in future trips we will tone it down.  There were 3 meals that we did as a family.  Breakfast, lunch and afternoon coffee.  Dinner was just a snack, unless we were meeting friends out.  Those times around the table with my family and friends (there are always a friend or two stopping by) are precious.

We had dinner out with friends 4 times.  We had so much yummy food.  I will be posting about them in following posts. The food in Brazil is unbelievable! Well, I am biased.

We also managed to take a couple of day trips to the town where my sister used to reside and still has an apartment – Poços de Caldas, in the state of Minas Gerais.  We took the cable car to Cristo Redentor (Christ, The Redeemer).  Every town in Brazil has the statue of Christ.  The most famous one is in Rio de Janeiro. 

Unfortunately, the day that we were visiting it, it was a foggy day. They are renovating the area, and there are ziplines, bars and other attractions, but on this foggy day nothing could be seen.

We also took a couple of day trips to the countryside, including to the Pico do Gaviāo (Hawk’s Peak)– It is a mountainous area famous for paragliding.  Gorgeous!

I will write more about our trip to Brazil as time permits.  In the end, M loved Brazil and Brazil loved M.  If anything, this trip made us see that we do belong together. 😊

“Pursue what catches your heart, not what catches your eyes.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

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Alive in Brazil

12 Monday Jun 2023

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being in Brazil, cleaning and organizing, Dia dos Namorados, Feeling blessed, feeling thankful, June 12th

Dia dos Namorados

“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.” ― Albert Camus

Hi Friends,

This is just to say I am alive 😊

I haven’t had a chance to go check your blogs and see what you all have been up to. For that I am sorry, and I hope everyone has been well.  I will be back to the US next week and hope to have more time to get back to my cherished friends here.

Life in Brazil has been incredibly busy.  Not only I had tons of things that I wanted to get done around the house, but I am also working remotely – my functions plus some of my co-worker that remains out being treated for breast cancer.

Here is a summary of what I have been up to since I arrived here on May 26:

  • I bought a car for my brother. Dealing with the dealership, insurance, Detran (Brazilian DMV), details about paying, etc, it all involved several days.
  • Painted my mom’s second kitchen and eat-in area. Some workers that worked on some water damage made a complete mess of the walls and floor. Not to mention the fact that they didn’t cover anything.  In April, when I saw that mess, I mentioned that I was going to clean it and paint it, when I returned – many doubted, but I did.  I am very proud of that.
  • I painted my brother’s room as well. This room is adjacent to that kitchen and it needed some refreshing. It was also a chance to re-organize and clean it.
  • Organized my brother’s room. My brother is not an organized person, so every time I come to Brazil, I make improvements.
  • Put contact paper on all the kitchen cabinets. Detailed job. I had a friend that is unemployed at the moment come and help.  She has been priceless in helping me with the cleaning and organizing.
  • I cleaned a small little house I have for rent. Again, I had my friend help. Actually, she did most of cleaning. I also had to have the yard, cleared of overgrown grass and trees. I contracted that work for a small fortune – everyone here things I overpaid.
  • M and I go to Pilates every week day from 1 to 2pm. Even though he works out hard at the gym every day while in the States, he is finding out that Pilates can be challenging.  The instructor has been targeting some dormant muscles. I should be in Pilates right now, but I am catching up on work, and I am stealing a few minutes to do this Update.
  • Speaking of M, he is fitting right in. He has been helping me with everything. From cleaning, painting, decisions about the car, to doing the dishes and cleaning. He is a keeper. Everyone here adores him, even though there is still the language barrier.  He has been working hard at trying to learn Portuguese.
  • There is always a stream of visitors at my house. Friends, old and new, that come to have coffee with my parents. Most come every week, other now come more often because I am here. That has always been the routine with my family. We never go to people’s house, they come to us.  Which, now that I think of, is the opposite for me in the US.  I hardly have anyone over; I often go to people’s house.
  • Today is “Dia dos Namorados” in Brazil, somewhat similar to Valentine’s Day in the US, but not that similar. This holiday is all about boyfriends and girlfriends.  went out and got me that beautiful sunflower.  Here in my town is hard to find cut flowers, we find mostly the actual plant to be replanted.  He also bought all kinds of chocolates for the rest of the family. 
  • I was able to have a couple of outings with friends, twice for dinner and twice for a day trip to the country.  I hope to share pictures and stories when I return.

I am feeling so exhausted mentally and physically – there has been many frustrating and angering moments. But I am also so so blessed to be able to be here with my parents, to be able to better their lives in little ways, and to have M. next to me. I believe he is the person I have been waiting for.

Wishing everyone many blessings, small and large. I hope you have many reasons to smile, but even if you don’t, smile anyway.  The reasons will come!

ps. sorry for typos and errors, no time to edit.

“…feelings like disappointment, embarrassment, irritation, resentment, anger, jealousy, and fear, instead of being bad news, are actually very clear moments that teach us where it is that we’re holding back. They teach us to perk up and lean in when we feel we’d rather collapse and back away. They’re like messengers that show us, with terrifying clarity, exactly where we’re stuck. This very moment is the perfect teacher, and, lucky for us, it’s with us wherever we are.” ― Pema Chödrön

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Mom met the boyfriend

12 Friday May 2023

Posted by A Star on the Forehead in Daily Life, Daily Message, Dating

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boyfriend meets family, Brazil trip, casino, Feeling grateful, he is the one, shopping

“Beauty surrounds us.”
― Rumi

This is a short story: M met mom.  They loved each other. End of story.

M was here last weekend to meet my mom.  He arrived Friday and left on Monday.  Hi fan club is now bigger.  My mom also became a fan.  M is the most caring and considerate person I ever met. He cares.  He truly cares about others and the world around him.

I feel so incredibly blessed to have him in my life. He says he is blessed to have found me. We plan on making sure that this gratitude for each other never leave us.

On the day he arrived he booked his ticket to Brazil.  He wanted to meet my mom first and have her blessing and invitation to come to Brazil.  He is going to arrive there 2 days after I get there, and he will leave the morning after I leave.  We are all excited that he will be coming to Brazil and staying with my family for over 2 weeks.

He had talked about going surfing while there, but I convinced him to leave that for the future. I have warned him that this will be a work trip. I am intent on continuing some repairs to my mom’s house, and he says he is eager to help.

On future trips we want to visit more of Brazil. 

While he was here, my  mom, my sister and I, followed our usual routine.  We had some meals at home and some out, with him saying that everything was delicious.  We went to the casino, where he proceeded to give my mom money to play.  We visited some stores, where he patiently waited while my mother chose what to buy.

He is returning to NY on Sunday, May 14 and will stay till Thursday.  After that we will see other on May 26th when he arrives in Brazil. 

I see him being in my life for all my days, and it feels perfect.

“I am larger, better than I thought; I did not know I held so much goodness.
All seems beautiful to me.
Whoever denies me, it shall not trouble me;
Whoever accepts me, he or she shall be blessed, and shall bless me.”
― Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass

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Brazil and back

05 Friday May 2023

Posted by A Star on the Forehead in Daily Life, Daily Message, Dating

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Brazil trip, exciting weekend, Flowers and cash, Foxwoods Casino, meeting the in laws, thinking of retirement

“Let gratitude be the pillow upon which you kneel to say your nightly prayer. And let faith be the bridge you build to overcome evil and welcome good.”
― Maya Angelou, Celebrations: Rituals of Peace and Prayer

My beautiful 88 years old mom, with the flowers she got from M.

My beautiful 88-year-old mom, with the flowers she got from M.

Hi Friends,

Things have been crazy busy.  Since last post:

I went to Brazil to pick up my mom for her biannual visit to the US.  While there, I was hoping to be able to relax for a couple of days.

Instead of resting, it was a very tiring trip.  I left on Friday night and arrived at my home Saturday early afternoon. By then, I had found out that I would have to work on Monday. I scrambled to try to get my desk set up.  I had to go out and buy 2 monitors. 

On top of working remotely, I had a lot cleaning to do.  Mom was having some repair done to a kitchen and bathroom in the little house in the back.  The workers were careless and there was dust everywhere, including on top of all the appliances. They barely covered some items.  

For the 4 days I was there, I always either on the computer or cleaning.  My only break was a trip to the hairdresser. By lunch time, on Wednesday, Mom and I were already on the way to the airport.  It takes anywhere from 3 to 5 hours, to get to the airport from my city.

I got back to NY Thursday morning and dove right into work.  My assistant/co-worker is out dealing with cancer again.  She had to have a mastectomy, but is doing well.  It will be a few days before we know if she needs Chemotherapy, or just Radiotherapy like last year. 

This time I had already mentioned to the partners at work, that I needed someone to step up and do her job.  Currently, a couple of the partners are doing some of work.  I still have to do the bulk of it.  It is already getting to me and it has been only 10 days. 

I worked Saturday so that I could take Monday off.  Mom turned 88 years old on Monday.  On Sunday morning we left for the casino.  It has been a tradition to celebrate her birthday at Foxwoods Casino every year. It was a quick trip. By Monday evening, I was home already and back at the computer.

It was fun!  We had a celebratory dinner at The Red Lantern.  Everything was delicious.  They brought a slice of cake with a candle, champagne and a display showing her age.  She was pleasantly surprised.

Now, back to work again.  First Republic Bank is gone, so we have been setting up a couple of additional banks, which involves a whole bunch more of work.  The more I wish a time with less work, the more work keeps piling in.  As they say, it is always the darkest before dawn, or something like that. I certainly hope so.

M remains the sweetest! He sent beautiful roses for my mom for her birthday and sent her $100 to spend at the casino.  He will be coming to town tomorrow, Friday, to meet her. Hw will be staying at a hotel a couple of blocks away.  While here, we will work on his itinerary in Brazil, and get his ticket.  He will probably get there a couple of days after I am there. He is talking about surfing, but I am talking him out of it.  Surfing locations are very far from my home, and I have a lot to do. There will be still some more repairs to mom’s house being scheduled to start as soon as we get there.  He has been warned that this will be a work trip 😊

So much excitement, and busy times ahead. 

Wishing you all a blessed weekend!

“As the years pass, I am coming more and more to understand that it is the common, everyday blessings of our common everyday lives for which we should be particularly grateful. They are the things that fill our lives with comfort and our hearts with gladness — just the pure air to breathe and the strength to breath it; just warmth and shelter and home folks; just plain food that gives us strength; the bright sunshine on a cold day; and a cool breeze when the day is warm.”
― Laura Ingalls Wilder, Writings to Young Women from Laura Ingalls Wilder: On Wisdom and Virtues

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A cow in love… with blue flowers

19 Wednesday Apr 2023

Posted by A Star on the Forehead in Daily Life, Dating, Finding Me, Mosaic and other crafts

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Blue Flowers, breast cancer, broken ceramics, broken plates, cows and flowers, farm animals, life update, Mosaic and other crafts, mosaic studio, work dramas

“Open the bloom of your heart and become a gift of beauty to the world.”  ― Bryant McGill, Simple Reminders: Inspiration for Living Your Best Life

Life progresses likes waves in the ocean, with highs and lows. As the spring flowers blossom, so does M and I.  We continue flying high, so excited to have found each other and so eager for a future together.  

Unfortunately, at work now is a low point.  My co-worker will be having another surgery on Monday, to deal with cancer.  Fortunately, she thinks that it will be an easier operation this time. Is there anything easy about cancer?  I am bracing myself for another 3 months without her.

As she is leaving to have surgery, I am leaving for Brazil.  I am still trying to figure out how to do her job while in Brazil, without driving myself insane.  This time I am unwilling to take it all upon myself.  I have done that for over 20 years at this job.  Everything has always been seemingless and perfect no matter what the circumstances were.  I am not willing to do it anymore. Some people here will have to step up.

In the meantime, the mosaic studio continues to be my happy place.  There, I often do more talking than creating.   The ladies there look forward to hearing about the latest news about M.  They are so happy for me, as you all are.

This cow is the latest piece I finished.  It is a cow that is in love and sees flowers all around.  She was going to have legs, but it seemed too complicated so I just put her behind some bushes. 

              

“Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed, hot woman over 40, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year old waitress. Ladies, I apologize. For all those men who say, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?”, here’s an update for you. Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage. Why? Because women realize it’s not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage!” ― Frank Kaiser

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