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About happiness… and 1 Year Anniversary

25 Sunday Feb 2024

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“Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.”
― Abraham Lincoln

From the moment I read the words “happiness is a choice”, I decided to be happy.  I do not remember where I read that, but the lesson has stayed with me.

I make that choice every single day.  Some days are easy. Some days not so much.

Some days are all sunshine, butterflies and cupcakes.  Some days not so much.  Some days, it all seems to be falling apart and I struggle not to fall into the victim mentality trap. 

At those moments,  I really have to work hard to remember that I can be happy no matter what is going on in my life and around me.

Happiness is not something to be achieved or acquired, but is learning to appreciate all we already have in our lives.   

“For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson

One of best and fastest way for me to achieve instant happiness is to make a gratitude list.  Counting my blessings puts me in a happy mental space. Smiling and being grateful for being alive is pure happiness. 

Chocolate cake and fresh bread with butter also help 😉

But all kidding aside. I work hard at not having my happiness tied to a person, circumstance or an achievement. I am happy just because I make that choice. Every morning I wake up and I make that choice.

Life is about choices. 

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1 Year already!!!!!!

On February 23, it marked one year since meeting Michael face to face – we started exchanging messages on February 8.

Michael has made my life more fun, more adventurous, and indeed happier. 

BUT, I was happy before him.  He was happy before me.  I don’t expect him to make me happy.  He doesn’t expect me to make him happy.  We are just happier together!

And we plan on being happier together forever!

“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.” ― Albert Camus

 

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Food, glorious food

22 Thursday Feb 2024

Posted by A Star on the Forehead in Daily Life, Food, Reviews

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Bela Lisboa Restaurant, Corn muffins, Cosmopolitan, lemon pound cake, pastel de Belem, pastel de nata, picanha, The Garlic Restaurant, vinho verde

“One cannot think well, love well, sleep well, if one has not dined well.” ― Virginia Woolf

Here are some pictures of the last two restaurants I have been to.  And some pictures of my last bakes.

I often don’t think of pictures until it is too late.  So here are pictures of half eaten food.

Restaurant Bela Lisboa – Portuguese food

Cod fish cakes and hummus 

Picanha – a Brazilian cut of meat, and a glass of vinho verde – green wine

Classic Portuguese dessert: Pastel de nata, custard tart

The Garlic Restaurant – Italian Restaurant

Cosmopolitan at The Garlic Restaurant

 Outside at The Garlic

Outside at The Garlic

Outside at The Garlic

“The only real stumbling block is fear of failure. In cooking you’ve got to have a what-the-hell attitude.” ― Julia Child

Corn muffins: tastes better than it looks

 Lemon Pound Cake, made in the bread machine – Delicious!

“There is no love sincerer than the love of food.” ― George Bernard Shaw

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Book Review: Wake Up Call by Tom Rapsas

17 Saturday Feb 2024

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life lessons, spiritual authors, spiritual growth, spiritual writers, teachings and lessons, Tom Rapsas, wake-up call

“The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.” ― Dr. Seuss

This is another long overdue review of a book from one of my fellow bloggers. This is a review of the book “Wake Up Call” by Tom Rapsas. I love, love, love, this book! It speaks to me! I am writing in the present tense, because I am still reading it. And I will probably be reading it forever.

Tom Rapsas is a self-described regular guy. He is a fellow blogger that, like myself, has always been curious about all things spiritual. Unlike myself, Tom has been constantly working hard in pursuing and expanding his spiritual knowledge. To our benefit.

Tom Rapsas and I met through our blogs a few years ago. We had exchanged messages in each other’s blogs, and at one point even considered meeting in person in NY City. At that time we both worked in Midtown Manhattan. We never end up meeting. We were both very busy. Then Covid happened. My job relocated to Westchester County, his to New Jersey. Life happened and we lost touch.

I was surprised to receive an email from him in October 2023. He let me know that he had written a book and was offering me an advance copy. I was happy to be remembered and felt honored by the offer. In November I received the book and put it aside until I was done with some others I had to finish. I wanted to give it my full and undivided attention.

When I started reading it, in January, I dove in headfirst and began going through the pages in record time. I recognized names and the teachings that I have always loved. Some I had not read in a long time and was happy to be reacquainted. I also encountered new names and new teachings. I felt my world expanding.

A few chapters in I realized I was making a big mistake by going too fast. I am all about results, and finishing a book is always an accomplishment to me.  But, a book, specially this one, is not about finishing, but learning and getting inspired by its many teachings.

This book is perfect in small bites, where one can savor its message, digest its content, and really assimilate the lessons. This is a book to be practiced and not just read.

I went back to page one and started again. This time savoring every word. There is no hurry. Finishing it is not the goal. The goal is to open my mind and heart to all the amazing rewards that come with learning and practicing the lessons here. The purpose is to be inspired to learn, to grow, to do more and be more.

This book is a testament to the extent of Tom’s work and dedication to all matters spiritual. It is such a powerful gift to anyone that is interested in learning more about spiritual teachings but was often overwhelmed by so many ideas out there.

Tom compiled the main spiritual ideas of all my favorite writers. He reminded me the reasons why they are my favorites. Tom also introduced me to writers that I didn’t know. He summarized and explained the core teachings of so many amazing writers, and made the teachings easy to understand.

In reading it slowly, I am letting the words speak to me. Little by little, I let the inspiration wash over me. I try to read some of it every morning and night, even if it is just a paragraph. Or any time that I feel that I need a spiritual pick me up. Sometimes I read the same passage over and over again – each time reaping a different benefit.

This book, true to its name, was a real “Wake Up Call” for me. This book came at the perfect time. At a time that I knew my spiritual side was dormant and needed waking up. This book has been a reminder that I need to continue the spiritual work. It feeds my mind and soul.

I had been busy falling in love and learning how to be part of a couple. I know it is funny to say that, but it is true. Michael showed up and I let go of a lot. Not his fault. I made him a priority, as he made me.

It is such a blessing to rediscover the benefits of spiritual teachings in my life. I have seen its rewards in the past.  It opens my heart and my soul, and it gives me purpose in this world. Developing my spiritual side has made me better in so many ways, for me and for others. I am more forgiving, more understanding, less judgmental and more grateful than ever before.

I don’t think I will ever finish this book. I don’t think it is a book to read it and put it away. Tom’s wisdom and insights will benefit me forever. It has become my go to book. It is my Bible of inspiration.   I am so happy and grateful it has been written.

I love and agree when he says: “Wisdom comes from many sources.” This is a book of the most important and insightful spiritual teachings out there. All in one place.  It exposes the reader to the many different teachings in spiritually.  All alongside Tom’s valuable insights.

I probably repeated myself, but I really treasure this book and want you to know.  If you are interested in spiritual teachings, in growth, in becoming better as a person, this book is for you!

Stay tuned for more reviews of books by my fellow bloggers.

“Books are the quietest and most constant of friends; they are the most accessible and wisest of counselors, and the most patient of teachers.” ― Charles W. Eliot

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Happy Valentine’s Day! 2024

14 Wednesday Feb 2024

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finding love, Happy Valentine's Day, Love and be love, Paulo Coelho, soulmates

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” ― Lao Tzu

I hope everyone is having a beautiful, loving and blessed day!

I had planned to write about love and about meeting Michael.  But, for lack of time – I am going through some work audit issues – I will write about us in the future. 

For now, I will leave you with a couple of quotes and my beautiful flowers.

Love and be love everywhere you go!

“But how will I know who my Soulmate is?” Brida felt that this was one of the most important questions she had ever asked in her life.
By taking risks’ she said to Brida. ‘ By risking failure, disappointment, disillusion, but never ceasing in you search for Love. As long as you keep looking, you will triumph in the end.” ― Paulo Coelho

 

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Sights along the way – Part II

12 Monday Feb 2024

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Here are some additional pictures of the sights I encounter at sunrise and sunset on my walks and bike rides.

Each day I notice something else I hadn’t see the day before. A different tree, or another little pond. All so magical.  Everything such a gift.

 

“The tree which moves some to tears of joy is in the eyes of others only a green thing that stands in the way. Some see nature all ridicule and deformity… and some scarce see nature at all. But to the eyes of the man of imagination, nature is imagination itself.” ― William Blake

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Sights along the way – Part I

11 Sunday Feb 2024

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bike ride, birds, carb crazy, country club, daily walk, flowers, Sugar Mill

I have been baking a lot; and eating a lot of it! 

To offset the effects of all that baking I have been trying to be more active. 

I ride my bike every morning, and I walk the same route every evening.  The route that I take is a loop that is 5 kilometers long.  Sometime I swim at lunchtime. 

Here are some of my sights along the way:

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The Four Agreements – words to live by

06 Tuesday Feb 2024

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Always do your best, Be impeccable with your word, Don Miguel Ruiz, Don't make assumptions, don't take anything personally, The Four Agreements

I always go back to the words below.  It has been immensely helpful.  Specially number 2.

1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.”

-Don Miguel Ruiz

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At this very moment I choose to be happy – I will never have a chance to live this moment again!

02 Friday Feb 2024

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being grateful, being in the moment, Brazil, Dating, happy is a moment, life lessons, love, moving on, relationships

I AM STILL CLEANING OUT MY DRAFTS FOLDER.  FROM 260 DRAFTS, I AM DOWN TO THE LAST 60 – YIPPIE – PROGRESS!!!

THIS IS FROM A TIME I WAS STILL STRUGGLING AFTER THE BREAK UP. AROUND 2014. I WAS STRUGGLING THINKING OF ALL I HAD LOST, INSTEAD OF APPRECIATING ALL I HAD.

THIS IS ME, REMINDING MYSELF TO BE GRATEFUL!

We have a saying in Brazil that goes like this: “Eu era feliz e nao sabia!”. It means: I was happy and didn’t know it!

To me, it means that, oftentimes we are too busy thinking about what we want and don’t have, to notice all the great stuff we have.

We let amazing sunrises and sunsets go bye unnoticed and unappreciated. We let simple amazing moments go by.

We take things for granted, not realizing how great life really is at the moment.  We take jobs for granted, we take people for granted, until they are gone.

We want happiness, but in the search of happiness, we miss happy moments. In search of destination, we miss the journey.  In search of results, I miss the beauty of the process.

The key to happiness, or perhaps I will not even go that far, but the key to a good life is to enjoy fully whatever you are doing in this exact moment.

I want to make sure I enjoy single life and all its goodness instead of the ‘victim’ in me feeling bad that I didn’t have any kids and,  that is now the holidays and my family is thousands miles away and,  I don’t have anyone to snuggle with at night.

I am looking at the good side of singlehood! Living alone, watching what I want when I want, eating or not eating,

I can do what I choose, when I choose, with whom I choose.  I don’t have to make excuses for anybody else.

The lesson: appreciate what you have at this very moment, no matter what it is. It doesn’t last.

At this very moment someone is wishing they were safe, warm, had something to eat.  At this very moment I am crying over someone that doesn’t care. How pathetic of me!

I need to stop, and realize that this moment is unique and wonderful.  At this very moment I choose to be happy.  I am learning to stop, breath and appreciate.

Some days are easy. Some days it takes a conscious effort to remember to cherish the details, to cherish the simple. Some days it takes effort to be grateful.

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