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always hopeful, expecting nothing, First date success, second date on the horizon, sparks and fireworks
“The very essence of romance is uncertainty.” – Oscar Wilde
He had suggested the Hudson Grill in White Plains. Instead, I chose Bill and Pete’s in Larchmont because I thought it would be quieter.
I was wrong. We were seated at a tall table by the bar. It was pretty loud. There were some people congregating by the bar, happily, singing and dancing. I guess everyone is just happy to be out again after so long.
He was cute, charming and very nervous. I was not. I never get nervous on first dates. They will either like me or they won’t, it is not a big deal either way. I knew he would be a nice guy and we would have a good time.
I no longer go on first dates expecting sparks. I go expecting good conversation and a friendly time.
He is a 56 years old accountant. He is soon to be divorced for the second time. What is up with my meeting men that has been married a couple of times before?
“You know what charm is: a way of getting the answer yes without having asked any clear question.” – Albert Camus
We shared a couple of appetizers and a sausage pizza for the main course. The food came in reverse order. All good, it didn’t bother us.
He had Pinot Grigio, I had Prosecco. Towards the of the evening the owner treated us to another round of drinks.
He was cute, funny, clumsy. He almost flipped the table on top of me. It was a small tall table and he leaned over to hear me better. The waitress was passing by at the same moment and quickly held it down. He was mortified.
Later on I had ordered a little ice cream cone with a donut on top for dessert. It was so tiny and cute, I asked him to hold it so I could take a picture. He dropped it. He was again extremely embarrassed.
We talked and laughed the whole evening. We got there at 6:30 and left at 10pm. In the end it was clear that we liked each other and that there were sparks.
We have a second date scheduled for Wednesday. I am looking forward to seeing him again…that hasn’t happened in a long time.
“. . .Looking forward to things is half the pleasure of them.”
― L.M. Montgomery, Anne of Green Gables
TO RECAP: Since joining OKCupid, I have met 4 men:
D, 58 yrs. old, Volleyball fanatic. We met at Sedona Tap House. He is a great guy. Asked me on a second date, but I declined. He agreed to be friends.
N, 57 yrs. old, CFO. We met at Encore Bistro Francais. We were supposed to go on a second date but I had the dental surgery. No sparks, but I thought it would be fun to see him again.
S, 54 yrs. old, Attorney. We met at La Herradura. He seemed very interested but then just became apparently too busy. No crazy sparks but thought we needed a second date to make sure.
P, 56 yrs. old, Accountant. Described on this post.
I am pleasantly surprised with OKCupid. I am not a paying member but so far I have come accross very interesting men. Most of them I have no met yet as they want to wait to get vaccinated. I may be off the market by then 🙂
Stay tuned…
“I’m not sentimental–I’m as romantic as you are. The idea, you know, is that the sentimental person thinks things will last–the romantic
person has a desperate confidence that they won’t.” – ― F. Scott Fitzgerald, This Side of Paradise
I like this guy. That he was clumsy and nervous I interpret that he feels he is fortunate to be meeting with you. If both feel that way even better (fortunate not clumsy) as neither would take the other for granted. My career was accounting related so I don’t hold that against him. 🙂
I hope you find that one. He will respect you, make you laugh, take care of you, and encourage you to be yourself, with him and without him.
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Hi David,
I am not holding his profession against him either lol I know some cool accountants. 🙂
He was nervous and wanted to impress me so much. I had to tell that he didn’t need to try so hard.
Thank you so much for the good wishes. Fingers crossed!
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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I hope you enjoy tomorrows post. Rejection can be a blessing, hugs!
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I loved it! Rejection is indeed a blessing, be it in dating or in business! ♥♥
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I do look forward to hearing from you !
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🙂 for sure
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I will stay tuned….. 🙂
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Hopefully there will be good news to share.
Blessings to you Ute! ♥♥
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Part two – just remembered, Cupid was my camp name when I was a counselor. I taught archery and canoeing. Carefree days. I volunteered for one month after high school for a dollar a day then I had to start working as university was a month away. It was fun as I had been a camper there. My big take-away was one day when the head counselor reminded us that we were there for the campers and NOT the other way around. I enjoyed that month, fresh air, exercise, camp fires, camp songs. Happy memories.
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Those are great memories David! It does look like you had a lot fun as you had to be reminded what your purpose there was lol
I wonder why the name Cupid was chosen.
Thank you for sharing!
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This sounds very promising!
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It feels that way 🙂
Wishing you a blessed week Rob! ♥♥
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As your OkCupid world turns … can’t wait for the next episode! This is so exciting!
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haha, it feels indeed like it could be a soap opera.
Thank you Stacy! Blessings to you! ♥♥
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I am staying tune…
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Thank you for following along Cassa!
Many blessings! ♥♥
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Kudos on the sparks and series of dates. Clearly, you’re putting yourself out there and engaging. Maybe you’ll inspire into action!
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Thank you Brad! It felt good to have a nice fun flirty date with tons of sparks.
I hope to inspire you to get out there and meet new people 🙂
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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Thanks!
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The very essence of Life is Uncertainty 😇
Enjoy your sparks 😊🤗
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Thank you Ashok! Blessings! ♥♥
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Always a pleasure my friend 😊💖
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Thank you for sharing!!.. all the best in your adventures!!… trust your heart, it has all the answers…“You don’t love the person you can live with, you love the person you cannot live without” (Author Unknown)…. 🙂
Until we meet again…
May flowers always line your path
and sunshine light your way,
May songbirds serenade your
every step along the way,
May a rainbow run beside you
in a sky that’s always blue,
And may happiness fill your heart
each day your whole life through.
(Irish Saying)
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Thank you so much Larry! 🙂
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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Your blog is interesting … Congratulations
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Thank you so much! Blessings! ♥♥
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Welcome dear friend 🌹
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Well, Ms. Spectacular, where are they? Ahem. I mean where’s the new post. 😉
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patience is a virtue, I am also working here lol
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Fine. I’ll work on my patience. 😉
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ok, no more wait… I did a rush job, so I am blaming all typos on you 🙂
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I fully accept all errors you had made. 😉
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I think you mean you fully accept the blame, or perhaps you are just being a smart ass 😉
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A smart ass for sure. Well, my ass isn’t really smart at all. 😉
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He goes through life thinking it is all about looks…
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Well, for my ass it is. 😉
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