always hopeful, expecting nothing, First date success, second date on the horizon, sparks and fireworks
“The very essence of romance is uncertainty.” – Oscar Wilde
He had suggested the Hudson Grill in White Plains. Instead, I chose Bill and Pete’s in Larchmont because I thought it would be quieter.
I was wrong. We were seated at a tall table by the bar. It was pretty loud. There were some people congregating by the bar, happily, singing and dancing. I guess everyone is just happy to be out again after so long.
He was cute, charming and very nervous. I was not. I never get nervous on first dates. They will either like me or they won’t, it is not a big deal either way. I knew he would be a nice guy and we would have a good time.
I no longer go on first dates expecting sparks. I go expecting good conversation and a friendly time.
He is a 56 years old accountant. He is soon to be divorced for the second time. What is up with my meeting men that has been married a couple of times before?
“You know what charm is: a way of getting the answer yes without having asked any clear question.” – Albert Camus
We shared a couple of appetizers and a sausage pizza for the main course. The food came in reverse order. All good, it didn’t bother us.
He had Pinot Grigio, I had Prosecco. Towards the of the evening the owner treated us to another round of drinks.
He was cute, funny, clumsy. He almost flipped the table on top of me. It was a small tall table and he leaned over to hear me better. The waitress was passing by at the same moment and quickly held it down. He was mortified.
Later on I had ordered a little ice cream cone with a donut on top for dessert. It was so tiny and cute, I asked him to hold it so I could take a picture. He dropped it. He was again extremely embarrassed.
We talked and laughed the whole evening. We got there at 6:30 and left at 10pm. In the end it was clear that we liked each other and that there were sparks.
We have a second date scheduled for Wednesday. I am looking forward to seeing him again…that hasn’t happened in a long time.
“. . .Looking forward to things is half the pleasure of them.”
― L.M. Montgomery, Anne of Green Gables
TO RECAP: Since joining OKCupid, I have met 4 men:
D, 58 yrs. old, Volleyball fanatic. We met at Sedona Tap House. He is a great guy. Asked me on a second date, but I declined. He agreed to be friends.
N, 57 yrs. old, CFO. We met at Encore Bistro Francais. We were supposed to go on a second date but I had the dental surgery. No sparks, but I thought it would be fun to see him again.
S, 54 yrs. old, Attorney. We met at La Herradura. He seemed very interested but then just became apparently too busy. No crazy sparks but thought we needed a second date to make sure.
P, 56 yrs. old, Accountant. Described on this post.
I am pleasantly surprised with OKCupid. I am not a paying member but so far I have come accross very interesting men. Most of them I have no met yet as they want to wait to get vaccinated. I may be off the market by then 🙂
“I’m not sentimental–I’m as romantic as you are. The idea, you know, is that the sentimental person thinks things will last–the romantic
person has a desperate confidence that they won’t.” – ― F. Scott Fitzgerald, This Side of Paradise