“The more you know, the more you know you don’t know.” ― Aristotle
Some days the quote above really comes to mind when I think how far I came emotionally in the last couple of years. It seems that the more I learn about myself, the more I fine tune, the more I work on things I think need to work on, the more I realize how much more work I need.
That is not to say that I am not giving myself credit for all the work. I feel that spiritually and emotionally I am at a much better place and only scratching the surface of how awesome I can become. I am excited to put in more work and watch myself blossom.
“Hard work does not go unnoticed, and someday the rewards will follow”
― Allan Rufus
Here are some of the things that I am constantly trying to work on:
Being fully present in every moment. Concentrating on the now is one of the best things you can do for your future. The past is gone. Some memories are good but to continue to relive the past is not healthy or beneficial. At the same time don’t just live in the future. Do not dream of how amazing your life will be when something you really want happens, such as losing weight. Start living that life now and do whatever you want to do now! Be conscious of every moment, pay attention to every moment. Don’t be a robot!
“Forever is composed of nows.”
― Emily Dickinson
Stay away from negative energy/people. We all know some people that sag our energy, that drag us down. They have a way of making us feel defensive or irritated or cause us to have some other negative feeling, so why choose to share space with them? Stay away! Of course sometimes it is not possible to avoid them, in that case don’t give them power and opportunity. Don’t engage them in unnecessary conversation.
“You cannot expect to live a positive life if you hang with negative people.”
― Joel Osteen
Stay away from bad influences and situations. I know that there are certain situations I am vulnerable to. For example, I know that there are certain types of guys that I start talking to and energy flows but I know they are not good for me in the end, but I am having fun so I continue in the slippery slide. I need to avoid putting myself in those situations that I know it will not be a good for me. Another sensitive area is sugar. I know that if I buy a whole chocolate cake I will be tempted to slowly eat the whole thing, so now I only buy a slice. So this goes back to being present in the moment and asking myself if what I am about to do is beneficial to me in the long run.
Stay busy and active with things that matter. An idle mind is the devil’s playground. That is so true and to that I will add: an idle body is also the devil’s playground. But don’t just keep yourself busy with just anything. Busy yourself with activities that benefit you and/or others. Learn, build, construct, help, etc. Make your actions meaningful. With that being said, make sure to rest and have fun. Don’t be a slave to and addicted to anything. Even healthy habits can be detrimental if you make them your God. Practice balance and moderation!
Be kind to yourself. No one is perfect. We all err, and sometimes we make the same mistake twice, three times. Don’t penalize yourself. Take ownership of the mistake and move on. Promise yourself that you will do better next time. Reward yourself for goals met and for accomplishments. Don’t wait for anyone to tell you how awesome you are! Be your biggest fan!
Act with love and kindness. Just think of everyone as your brother/sister and treat them as such. Even when it is the hardest thing to do, and is at that time that there is more value in doing it. Choose kindness, understanding and forgiveness.
“Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.”
― Dalai Lama XIV
You are always and already whole and perfect as God intended. Nobody can take away your values and morals. People and circumstances may leave you feeling down, deflated, less than perfect. Things and people may break your heart, your bones, take your money and material things, but no one can take your essence away. Stay true to them. Stay true to your morals and beliefs. Don’t let anyone make you think that you not a good person.
“There are two kinds of perfect: The one you can never achieve, and the other, by just being yourself.”
― Lauren King
Accept pain and problems as lessons and opportunities for growth. Each roadblock is a little step towards a better you, towards a better future. Each situation offers a chance for growth. So welcome the hardship, but don’t suffer unnecessarily. Contemplate the situation and learn as much as you can from it. Understand the part you played in it so not to repeat it. Don’t stay in the pain and don’t act like a victim!
“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”― Haruki Murakami
Never lose faith and hope. No matter what happens in your life proceed with the faith and knowledge that as long as you continue working hard the best outcome will be yours. Realize that at the most difficult times your faith is being tested, and that is when you need to believe the most! Believe in yourself and the Creator and Universe within you!
“Faith is not the belief that God will do what you want. It is the belief that God will do what is right.”
― Max Lucado
Don’t be reactive! I am quick to react to anything, good or bad. I normally blame it on being an Impulsive and impatient Aries. Be in control of your steps and movements and actions. Before anything, Stop and reflect! (This one I learned, well still learning, in Kabbalah and I am still trying to apply to my life. It is not easy, before I know I already reacted)
“Spiritual practice involves being constantly aware.”
― Shri Radhe Maa
Last, but not least, Smile! Don’t forget to smile! Smile in good times and in bad times smile even more!
“Peace begins with a smile..”
― Mother Teresa