“Abandon the urge to simplify everything, to look for formulas and easy answers, and to begin to think multidimensionally, to glory in the mystery and paradoxes of life, not to be dismayed by the multitude of causes and consequences that are inherent in each experience — to appreciate the fact that life is complex.” ―
Here is a quick update on the last few dates:
The 60-year old Stock Broker. We became texting friends. He is a great guy, but there was really no chemistry for me. His life has been very complicated lately, so we haven’t been able to meet again, as friends. I hope that the complications in his life get sorted out.
The 65-year old Doctor. The coffee date went well. The conversation was great, but I didn’t think there was enough there for a second date. I was surprised when he texted a few days later, and asked me out on a second date for Wednesday night.
I said yes, thinking there was no harm in meeting for a second time. I immediately realized that I had said yes to someone else also, but decided not to cancel right away.
It turns out I didn’t need to. The next day he texted and said: “I just got out of a relationship and I’m not ready. I need to hold off on Wednesday for now.” I said: “no problem, best wishes”
Later he texted back that he was going to call me on Wednesday. I replied that I didn’t see the point of that. He came back with: “It is not that I am not interested. I just need to take some time for myself.”
I just decided not to reply anymore. He is just cheap and doesn’t want to spend money on dinner, that is my take. While I am not a materialistic person, I am allergic to cheapness.
Yesterday he texted: “What are you doing Saturday”
If I were going to answer it would be: “Not going out with you.”
I didn’t reply. I don’t want to spend any on him anymore.
The dog guy. He is a great guy, but only friend material. There was not any hint of anything romantic about our two dates. I think he realized it also. After some texting back and forth, it fizzled. I will miss Mr. W. the dog.
Then there was Mr. Very Smart. We went on one date. We had dinner at Sergio’s in Pelham, NY. Everything was delicious, including the conversation. He is so wise and resourceful that he was able to find this blog with very little information. So, if you are reading this: Hello 🙂
I met him between dates 1 and 2 with the guy I will be mentioning next. Had I not gone on additional dates with Mr. Sweetness, I would probably have gone on additional dates with Mr. Very Smart.
That brings me to Mr. Sweet. We had 4 dates so far. Since this post is getting too long, I will be writing about him on the next.
I will just mention that all feel magical!
“When nothing is expected, and everything is appreciated, all becomes magical.” ―