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“After a full belly all is poetry.” ―
I got to his house at 4:30pm on Sunday. He met me with a hug at the porch.
After some pleasantries while I removed my coat. He proceeded to give me a tour of the house. It is a big house, and the décor is country chic. He is a Virgo and it shows. Everything is clean and organized. Even the attic and basement are impeccable.
After the tour he poured us a glass of wine and we settled on the couch. We talked and talked and talked. I am never comfortable with silence, so, if there is any I will pepper it with questions. The good thing is that I am able to get a lot of information.
We talked about our plans for the future, and that is where there are some details that I need to think about. It seems there will be some compromising I will have to do if I want a relationship with him. Well, any relationship requires some compromising. I just need to decide if I am willing to. I will save those details for a next post.
We were very happy to be together. There are tons of chemistry between us. Fireworks and sparks were flying. There was some kissing and snuggling on the couch.
The only time there was silence was when I laid my head on his shoulders and I think I may have dozed off. At one point he said something about being 8 o’clock and perhaps too late for pizza. I didn’t hear him well and asked him to repeat it. He then asked me if I was hungry and if I wanted him to make pizza. Odd question since pizza is what I went there for. I told him that.
“The belly is an ungrateful wretch, it never remembers past favors, it always wants more tomorrow.” ― One Day in the Life of Ivan Denisovich
In the following 30 minutes he asked me the same thing at least 3 times, but didn’t get up to make the pizza. It was cozy just snuggling on the couch, but I started being aware of how hungry I was. I also started thinking that by the time the pizza is ready for the oven and ready for eat, it will take another hour. I don’t like to get home late on Sunday night.
I mentioned that I have a tendency to get hangry. He said he did also. But still nothing. All of a sudden the hunger just hit me and I just got up and said that I had to leave. He was a bit startled by my abruptness.
He again asked me if I wanted him to make me pizza. I said I would eat something at home. He offered to make me a sandwich, but by now it was too late, I just wanted to leave. I know how I get when I am starving and I didn’t want to go there. I didn’t want to become this mean, angry, short-tempered person right there in his home.
In seconds I put my shoes on, grabbed my coat and bag and left. It had snowed a little, so he came out and helped me clear my car. That slowed down my departure by a couple of minutes.
When I got home I texted him. The text exchange is below. I was still hungry and a bit annoyed so my text was short, but not sweet. He didn’t reply until the following morning. I replied to him but he was silent until this very minute. I am not sure what to say. Something did go wrong the other night: There was no pizza! The funny thing is I don’t even care that much about pizza.
I did have a great time and it is a shame that the night ended in such a way. It could have been different if I had asked for something to eat, or told him to get the pizza going faster. I didn’t think of it until he mentioned was already 8pm.
I always feel I can be too demanding and domineering. I often take the lead and start telling people what to do. I also felt that he asked me over for pizza, so perhaps the pizza should have been further along by the time I got there, more than just the dough in a bowl.
Because I didn’t want to be a pushy, demanding person, I got too hungry and instead I became this crazy hungry monster that just ran out.
“An empty stomach is not a good political adviser.” ―
I wonder what I would have done in that situation. Perhaps offer to help?
Last thing I want to do is cook my own food when invited to dinner, but since he didn’t seem keen to get started he might have clued in if you had asked him something pizza related. Maybe?
“Do you like pineapple on your pizza? Do you want me to cut up the pineapple?” (Some men are a bit clueless and need a little help…) 😉
I don’t know… 🤷♀️ I hope it works out for you.
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Looking back, I could have just said that I was hungry and we needed to get the pizza going, but at the time I was not thinking straight.
Indeed, I was invited, so I expected to be all ready, either done or ready to go.
I do feel he is a little clueless, he is trying, but perhaps I will have to take the lead, otherwise I will just be frustrated every time.
We shall see what happens next. I never know 🙂
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Some of us just need feeding at regular intervals, or else…….
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haha, you know it!
I become scary. I can’t even stand myself!
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Clear communication is important. I hope you two get back on track Ana.
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Thank you Brad!
It just seems that everything is so fragile at the beginning. Any little mishap can destroy something before even starts.
Blessings!
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Give him the benefit of the doubt. Tell him what you think. Sure he didn’t intend to wist that long but he enjoyed your company.
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Hi Ute,
I will be giving him a second chance. Some people are just clueless sometimes.
Blessings to you!
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…some people…. men really hehe…… I bet he felt just so comfortable with you and didn’t want it to end……
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That was exactly it! It was indeed comfortable, just snuggling on the couch. I even forgot I was hungry, until it hit me full force. lol
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I can’t help but laughing reading the last couple sentences of this post. I hope you get to talk soon and will laugh about the pizza and the hangry date. 😁
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Hi Cassa,
Looking back it was funny. I just ran out and he was a bit lost. We spoken about it last night, and I am sure will speak about it again next time we see each other.
Blessings!
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I am glad you two spoke about it. And glad you get together again soon to explore more. 🙂
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I get hangry too. Being hungry totally messes with emotions!
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Hi Christy,
Exactly, I can’t help it! I just become irrational.
Blessings!
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the crossover between not hungry to hungry can send some into orbit like my son and can catch you off guard.
try a do over… and be demanding 🤩and clear. pretend you’re talking me out to dinner and have the pizza ready within the hour after I get there with a salad too.
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For sure Cindy! All of a sudden it just hit me and I could tell I was going to get angry, so I ran.
I will follow your advice. I am going to stopping assuming a man knows what he is doing when it comes to courting a woman lol
My sister says that I need to train him lol
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omg the training is imperative lol… and if you get one that is…. you’ve struck gold!! 💖💖💖🌻🌈
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Read this about Pizza and now am craving for it…I really enjoyed reading this piece💫
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haha, I am making everyone hungry for homemade pizza.
Thank you for the visit and blessings to you!
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The pizza procrastinator! He should have had the pizza in the oven by the time you had arrived.
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Exactly! I may give him a second chance, and we shall see if he has learned the lesson!
I am sure you have the Godiva ready to go…
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Of course I do. BTW, does he have……a…….cat?
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OMG, I forgot about that pesky detail.
Yes he does have a cat! I know, I know…
but it is his daughter’s cat, so I am making an exception based on that. And he doesn’t have a single picture with it. Unless he hid them lol
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I’m thinking that each time he pretended to start making the pizza, he secretly cuddled with his cat.
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hmm, now I am picturing that lol
on his behalf, he didn’t leave my sight… I wish he had… disappeared into the kitchen and made the darn pizza!
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Well, next time check to see if there’s a trail of friskies wherever he walked. That’s a tell-tale sign.
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Thank you for the tip! Keep on sending them!! 🙂
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I’m always good with tips😊
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That I know… I mean, I suspect 😉
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*urgently shops for Godiva*
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hahaha ♥♥♥
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It seems to me he was nervous and in wanting things to go well… WELL, didn’t make the pizza. I get it, if I had someone over my place, I would be nervous too. Like you said, the first dates, we are establishing ourselves, our territory, etc. He’s a MAN, I’m sure his focus was on hoping you liked his place and snuggling with him. Isn’t food AFTER all of that. LOL I agree, you could have popped off the sofa and said, “LET’s GET THE PIZZA STARTED!” Maybe due to nerves, he wasn’t so hungry and that’s why he kept asking — DO YOU WANT PIZZA! If you keep dating, I see a small mosaic of a pizza and an angry woman next to it. LOL
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hahaha, I loved the idea of the pizza mosaic!! I may just do it!
Yes, he has mentioned that he was very nervous, and is very nervous, that everything goes well.
I will be writing about the next day now.
A blessed weekend to you!
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Thank you for sharing!.. perhaps by not being more knowledgeable ( likes/dislikes, etc) about you after all these years, he was being overly cautious and in the end did what he was afraid he might do, run you off… time, patience, understanding and communication is the key here.. “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”
( Maria Robinson ).. 🙂
Until we meet again…
May your day be touched
by a bit of Irish luck,
Brightened by a song
in your heart,
And warmed by the smiles
of people you love.
(Irish Saying)
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Hi Larry,
Thank you for the advice… time, patience, understanding and communication will definitely be the most important as I try to navigate this.
Blessings to you this week!
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“I’m not afraid of storms, for I’m learning how to sail my ship.” ( Louisa May Alcott)… 🙂
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