“Great minds have purpose, others have wishes. Little minds are tamed and subdued by misfortunes; but great minds rise above them.” ―
Well, Well, Well… here we are again.
The IT/Teacher guy was supposed to reach out to plan a 3rd date. We last exchanged texts on Thanksgiving Day. I have not heard from him yet. Chances are I will never hear from him again. This is not my first rodeo!
He did say that he is not the type to be constantly in touch, but this is a bit out long. At this point I am not sure if I will reach out or not. Well, as I come to this post to publish it, I texted him. No reply yet. We shall see, if I get silence or an excuse.
Once again, after two great dates, the guy disappears. Is the Universe playing tricks on me? Should I just give up on this whole dating thing? Should I start thinking there is something wrong with me?
“My manner of thinking, so you say, cannot be approved. Do you suppose I care? A poor fool indeed is he who adopts a manner of thinking for others! ” ―
NO, NO and NO! None of that!!! a) The Universe is being the Universe, forever a wise guide, sending me lessons and teachers. b) Online dating is not for the faint of heart. I can take it, and keep going better and stronger. c) I am not one to get discouraged and/or to start thinking there is something wrong with me or that I am doing something wrong. I am perfect! 🙂
These disappearing acts have nothing to do with anything that I have done or not done. They were just not the right guy for me yet. But, with each disappearing act, I feel I am getting closer.
“And the little prince broke into a lovely peal of laughter, which irritated me very much. I like my misfortunes to be taken seriously.” ― The Little Prince
Happiness is the journey and not the destination, isn’t that what they say? And I wholeheartedly agree. Even with the occasional disappointment of not hearing from someone when it all seemed so perfect, even with an occasional jerk, even with so many fake profiles, I still enjoy the journey.
I enjoy going on dates, meeting new people, discovering new things about myself and others. What I enjoy most of all is that feeling I get when I detect potential and possibilities.
“Life is thickly sown with thorns, and I know no other remedy than to pass quickly through them. The longer we dwell on our misfortunes, the greater is their power to harm us.” ―
I am happy dreaming of the possibilities. I am in love with the potential. I am excited about first dates with great men; and sometimes not so great men. If they never call again, it doesn’t mean they are less amazing, but that they are more amazing to someone else.
And, as fate would have, I am now excited about a first date tomorrow night. Do I dare say that it seems so right? I dare!
And so it goes, so it goes.
Blessed with a Star on the Forehead 
Just remember my tip: Never trust a man with a cat. 😀
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Hi Rob,
Heaven’s no!!! Only men with dogs 😉
Keep the tips coming.
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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Exactly. Men with dogs.
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Yes, men with dogs, not men that are dogs!!
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Of course. The last think you need is a man who is not house broken.
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hahaha
for sure, for sure! 🙂
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There must a story here? Any other animals? ducks, pythons, parrots and rabbits are okay?
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lol
well, there are so many back stories here. Rob and I like to exchange such comments.
For starters, even though I love animals, I prefer dogs over cats.
Rob has a dog and not a cat. 😉
Also, I think I have written here that I don’t like to see online dating profiles of men holding cats. Something about that irks me.
NO, NO, NO, I will never date a man that keeps snakes!!! NEVER EVER!!!
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LOL
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Yes, also never trust a man with a wombat, or any other quadrupedal marsupials.
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Duly noted! Thank you for your guidance Rob! 😉
♥♥♥
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Wombat? You gave me a smile. thank you.
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I like the way you look at dating. Go for it – have fun – next – till the right one.
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Thanks Cassa!
Always having fun and not letting anything get me down!
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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Blessings to you Ana. Have great fun! 💐💕
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Thank you!! 🙏
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That song is so different from others that I know from Billy Joel. I felt sad (just a tad) that you keep having these experiences of being ghosted (is that the right idiom?). As I read on I sensed you were unaffected (or 80.023 % unaffected). You are positive ♥
As I was writing a blogger today I saw a bald eagle fly by my office. Two days ago another bald eagle flew quite close overhead as I walked with my dear wife along Skaha lake.
I think these signs are taken by me to take heart. Disappointments in life are just part of the walk but along the walk there is also much to be glad for if, and only if my eyes and head is held up to see them. I think that is what you are doing.
Heavy snowfall this morning, last night I discovered a tall tree whose owls hooting made me smile. Tonight I hope to hear them again.
I hope something special happens your way today♥ – David
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Hi David,
Thank you for this beautiful comment. I did feel the love and the good vibrations from you, and it feels wonderful!
I really wasn’t sure if I would put that song there because of its sadness, and I didn’t want to send my friends here the wrong message. Then I decided it was a beautiful song that came to mind when I wrote the title of my post.
I am definitely mostly unaffected by these ghosts. I do get a bit sad, not because they are rejecting me. I can deal with rejections, after all I believe in divine time, and I have full confidence that there is a right person out there for me, and the worst thing I want is to end up with the wrong person. What saddens me is to see the unkindness and rude way people are treating each other nowadays.
Seeing the eagles and the fact that you took it to heart is definitely meaningful. Google says this: “If eagle has appeared, it bestows freedom and courage to look ahead. The eagle is symbolic of the importance of honesty and truthful principles. Summon the eagle when you are about to embark on a challenge, a massive life change or a creative endeavor.”
I am so infinitely blessed. Little disappointments just helps me focus and be even more grateful for the good things.
Thank you for the good wishes! Tonight I have a date with a guy that seems great (don’t they all? lol)
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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Blessings to you ♥♥
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Do you let these Dates know that you blog about Dating? Just curious because they may be seeing the inevitable questioning that happens early on about First Meets and whether you choose to meet up with someone again. If they don’t know, then you are free and this is a space you don’t have to worry about them reading.
One day it will become a source of laughter for Your Eventual Guy and You to look back upon. We all have a history. Yours may be just easier to follow!
Cheers and good luck. Stay positive!
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Hi Robbie,
Most guys I meet don’t know I have a blog. The ones that do know, know that is is about my life. I don’t see it as a problem or issue, if they do, they never mentioned it.
This blog has been a great source of introspection, and definitely laughter.
Thank you for the good wishes, and blessings to you! ♥♥
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I just finished writing a post to be published later this week and mentioned the third date Ana. There’s something about that third date lovely! They just don’t make it that far. 😂
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Hi Barb,
I am finding that out. Is it the curse of the third date? lol
Before I wouldn’t get to a second date, now I don’t get to a third. At least I moved up a little lol
I look forward to reading your post.
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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The progress is slow and steady. Hah. I had to take it out of my post. Looks like there may very well be a third one around the bend! Much love Ana. 💖
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Yippie, I am doing a happy dance for your third date!!!!
Thank you for the love and sending you some back! ♥♥
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💖💖💖
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You are inspiring!! I too love how you look at this dating thing. 🥰
Enjoy your first date. 🙂
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Hi Claudette,
You are so sweet!
Thank you and blessings to you! ♥♥
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You seriously give hope that ‘optimism still lives’ and is all well. Something I whiteness vastly disappearing from people’s hearts these days. Your uplifting look on life, and all its intricacies, is refreshing.
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Hi Kat,
Missing you. Trying to follow you 🙂
Thank you! I don’t think I will ever remove my rose colored glasses. Life is too gray otherwise.
Blessings to you! Hoping to catch up soon! ♥♥
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Good..you are moving on and enjoying . Yes, it is the journey which matters and what matters more is that you are enjoying it. You will certainly meet the match you looking for, when is something no one can predict.
Stay blessed always.🌹🙏🌹
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Hi Jas Kris,
Thank you so much for the great comments and the great wishes!
You are right! I do believe in divine timing and that is out of my hands.
Blessings! ♥♥
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🙏🌹🙏
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You go for new dates, have fun and enjoy. If htere is a ‘real’ man out there who wants to be with you, he will contact you and don’t do the silent treatment. Men are such cowards. ( Sorry men who read it- some are though) at least they could talk to you and be honest not to have more dates. Then you know where you stand. Just enjoy and take it easy. ♥
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Hi Ute,
I love everything you wrote!! It is all about knowing where I stand, and not being in limbo.
Thank you for the support! Blessings! ♥♥
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Wait did you check your phone before you finished this post? Maybe he texted back. Oh well on to the next date with the same optimism you always have after disappointment strikes. Best to get rid of them right away! 💖lol 🤣
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Good point! I often publish and then realize a text had just arrived 🙂
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Oh it was perfect material for the next day!!! 💖💖💖
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Thank you for sharing!!.. “Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.” ( Roy T. Bennett)… 🙂
Have a wonderful holiday filled with love and happiness and until we meet again..
May your troubles be less
Your blessings be more
And nothing but happiness
Come through your door
(Irish Saying)
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This is good perspective: “These disappearing acts have nothing to do with anything that I have done or not done. They were just not the right guy for me yet. But, with each disappearing act, I feel I am getting closer. “
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Thank you Benjamin!
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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Welcome!!! 🙂
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