“Letting there be room for not knowing is the most important thing of all. When there’s a big disappointment, we don’t know if that’s the end of the story. It may just be the beginning of a great adventure. Life is like that. We don’t know anything. We call something bad; we call it good. But really we just don’t know.” ― Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times
Before I get to my date report I need to admit that I am still annoyed and disappointed about D.’s silence. Yet, I am not surprised. Somehow I knew it the moment he canceled it. As the hours passes and the silence increases it is just a confirmation that silence is his way of saying he changed his mind.
I know we only had 2 dates, but it all about the sparks, the conversation, it was all about the huge potential. I also knew that I was already seeing some potential issues. I worried about the difficult daughter. I worried about the weird multiple jobs.
“Things change, so I have to change too.”
― Adam Scythe, Immortals, Vol. III.
I don’t like how he has chosen to do it, but I must accept. I will never understand ghosting someone. Why not send a quick text and say: “ I changed my mind”.
Still, I remind myself of the agreement I have with my Guardian Angels. They are allowed to take anyone and anything from my life that it is not and will not be good for me. No questions asked. It doesn’t need to make sense.
So, the situation with D. doesn’t make sense to me, but if am to look back at my blog, there were many others unexplained disappearing acts. I am accepting it, thanking my guardian angels and moving on to the next. There is always a next!
“It poured with rain the day I left. But I was filled with excitement, a strange exuberant sense of taking wing. I didn’t know where I was going, but I knew what I needed. I needed a new land, a new race, a new language; and although I couldn’t have put it into words then, I needed a new mystery.” ― John Fowles, The Magus
Moving on to the date.
We met at 6:30pm at Sergio’s Restaurant in Pelham, NY. It is a very beautiful and classy restaurant. I was surprised that it was such a busy place on a Monday night.
I got there and he was already seated. He got up and came to meet me. We hugged hello. He was handsome and looked like his pictures. He had a white shirt and tie. He wears one for work, but he mentioned he likes to dress well.
The conversation flowed. He was a perfect gentleman. He said I was beautiful two times. I love compliments, but if it is too much, it makes me want to run. I am glad he stopped at two.
To drink, he had an old fashioned and I had a cosmopolitan. My drink was delicious. If I were not driving, I would have had a second one.
We didn’t want appetizers, and we both ordered the short ribs with risotto. For dessert we shared a tiramisu and a napoleon, and they were both divine.
“All discarded lovers should be given a second chance, but with somebody else.” ― Mae West, Wit & Wisdom of Mae West
He is 52 years old and owns a funeral home. He has an amazing relationship with his 3 daughters. Two are living on their own and a 14-year-old lives with him. He has been divorced for 8 years and gets along well with the ex-wife.
We were at the restaurant for 3 hours. At the end he walked me to my car, and I gave him a ride to his car around the corner. When he was exiting my car he kissed me good bye. Then turned back and kissed me again. It was just a couple of pecks on the lips.
I am not sure if there are enough sparks. He is such a sweet person, such a gentleman, that I think it is worth a second date. I am keeping an open mind.
“One can begin so many things with a new person! – even begin to be a better man.” ― George Eliot, Middlemarch