“Among my most prized possessions are words that I have never spoken.” ―
Since we moved into the new office in May, I have become friends with the lady from the office down the hall.
She is nice and stops by often to chit-chat. She is always offering me a ride home. I have accepted a couple of times.
Yesterday I saw her in the hall. I mentioned to her that I got inspired by her Christmas decorations and decorated my office.
Seeing her big beautiful tree through the glass door did inspire me. In my old office I stopped decorating for the holidays. I grew tired of everyone and their opinions. Now, most of them are working from home or in our other offices.
Yesterday morning, on the way to work, on the spur of the moment, I stopped at the dollar store and CVS. I was going to order items from Amazon but there is a delay on deliveries at the moment and I didn’t want to wait. I got only a few things that I was able to carry as I was on foot.
“Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.” ―
I was very happy with my purchases and how they looked when I put them around the office. Next year I will plan and do better, but for now I am content.
Later in the day, the neighbor lady stopped by to see my decorations and to bring me a couple of little lights and strings of red beads leftover from her decorations, which I thought it was nice. She added those to the little tree and then proceeded to move around some of the other decorations.
I was a little taken aback and didn’t know how to react. I just watched. I didn’t like the way she was rearranging things but I was mostly amused by it at the time.
“Nothing is ever quiet, except for fools.” ―
But it did bother me. When I got home I told to my sister about it. We agreed that we often do that. We put up with certain things/people because we don’t want to appear ungrateful.
I don’t think she realized that it was annoying. I should have told her that I liked the way things were as I had done them.
I am a tell it like it is person. I don’t like confrontations, but I have no problem in standing up for myself. I have been known to have shouting matches with the brokers when I think I have been disrespected in some way. Still, why am I so passive in certain situations?
This morning I walked in and rearranged some of the decorations as I had before. I kept some of what she did, but changed what bugged me most, which was where the 2 big figures stood.
She stopped by this afternoon and didn’t say anything. I am sure she noticed it.
I feel better.
“You should have spoken up sooner.” her grandmother answered. “No need to bear pain unless you have to.” ―
Outstanding 👍
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Thank you! Blessings! ♥♥
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Thank you so much dear 🙂
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Thank you! Will do.
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Thank you so much very grateful to you 😊
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You are wonderful!
“Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.” ― Benjamin Franklin
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Thank you Cindy!
Wishing you a blessed weekend! ♥♥
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I think, I would not have said anything, and then changed it again afterwards. She only wanted to help and everyone looks at things differently. Sometimes it is ok to be passive as you need to choose your battles….
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Hi Ute,
I love this: ‘Sometimes it is ok to be passive as you need to choose your battles”.
Wishing you a blessed weekend! ♥♥
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I love your posts. And the quotes you use to supplement. 💜
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Thank you so much Claudette!
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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LOL same same same! Oh my. The writer side of me steps back and watches the human behavior while the wolf woman side is like, “Bitchhhhh don’t let them do that!” Ha! I’d have done the same thing, watched her, then gotten mad, then changed it. And isn’t it funny that she thought to do it? I’d never do that would do? People are weird.
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Indeed we are alike in a lot ways. We often step back and analyze situations and people’s reactions. (we do overanalyze sometimes, but that is another post lol)
I was watching her and thinking to myself: How does she walk in and just starts changing thing?. I didn’t ask and we have just met”
Oh well, I will never understand people.
My “wolf woman” has been a bit dormant lately. With covid, I am giving everyone the benefit of the doubt and choosing kindness more often.
Still, I am only human, and I did like my set up before, so I had to change some of it after all 🙂
Wishing you a blessed weekend! ♥3
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Thank you Beth!
Wishing you a blessed weekend! ♥♥
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I always love you quotes and your stories to go with them. I love the decorations and i think your speaking up spoke louder in changing them back and having her have to see that. It’s just quite amusing really to watch people so comfortable in their stepping on others bounderies.. I’m sure you were in a bit of shock. Nice story! ❤️❤️❤️
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Thank you Cindy! I was taken aback and didn’t quite know how to act at the moment, but I am sure she got the message 🙂
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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We freeze in those moments and then hits us later for sure. Ya know lots of people are clueless … quite funny when you stop and think about it but more sad! 💕❤️🙌
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Glad you have some office cheer.
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Thank you Suna! It really made a difference having these few items around.
Wishing you a blessed holiday season! ♥♥
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Good for you. I would have done the same thing! It looks festive!
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Thank you Stacy! It did make a difference in our office 🙂
Wishing you a blessed week! ♥♥
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Everything is lovely! I’m not sure why we choose to speak up with some and not others. Maybe it’s because we weigh if it’s worth it or not.
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Thank you K E!
I was wondering the same thing. I more often speak up to men vs women, not sure why,
Wishing you a blessed week! ♥♥
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I love this. Yah you did rearrange ‘your’ decorations the way ‘you’ like them. You asserted yourself. Don’t worry about not doing it right there and then. You were shocked and didn’t know what to make of it. You did not expect that to happen at all, so you needed to process it then come up with a plan. Sigh…why do people do these little uncalled for stuff?! I’ll never know. Really no need for it. But, you took back control. I bet she ‘gets’ it now.
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I am sure she got it now. She has stopped by a couple of times since I rearranged things back, and hasn’t said anything. If she brings it up I am ready to tell her I liked it better the way I had it before.
I am choosing to believe that she wanted to help. It made me reflect on the times I do things to/for people thinking I am helping – could I be doing the same thing? I sure hope not, but I am going to watch myself.
Blessings! ♥♥
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It could easily be. That she only wanted to help. You may never know. But, it’s a practice is assertion. Saying things gently but firmly doesn’t come easy for some. But we can practice asserting our grounds. I love how you always prefer the peaceful route, and how you’re always trying to give the benefit of the doubt. It’s an admirable trait that shows maturity and kindness.
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Funny how others perceive us… either expecting that we will do this or that (decorating, arranging the staff lunch, cleaning up after the staff lunch, etc)… or feel in authority to re-arrange something in someone else’s work space.
For some reason, several staff think that I am in charge of holiday decorating of the clinic, and therefore “consult” with me. Actually, I hardly notice the seasonal occasions… but if I have client’s who would benefit from putting up some decorations, I have decorations for the client to put up (e.g. for fine motor coordination, balance, etc.). Some years, I do not happen to have any clients who would find this purposeful, so I do not have them decorate… – Oscar
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Hi Oscar,
Indeed, what was she thinking? How am I showing up in the world?
So, what happened this year for you, decorations or no decorations? or Covid killed decorations also 🙂
They probably think you have better taste and that is why they consult you 😉
Wishing you a blessed weekend! ♥♥
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Sometimes, they probably believe they are doing us a favor (and others may misunderstand our well-intended actions).
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Indeed Oscar, Life can be complicated that way. As they say, “the road to hell is paved with good intentions”
Wishing you a blessed weekend! ♥♥
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FYI, Forbes has another article of how Wall Street is set up against individual (novice) investors, naming those jumping on Robinhood. It is in the Dec 2020 issue, page 114 “The Looming SPAC Meltdown”. Remember the House always wins eventually at the casino.
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Thank you! I am going to read it. This investing thing is becoming too much like the slots to me – the allure of big money, the fun of playing with it, but, as you said, the house always wins.
I don’t have the time or inclination to study the stocks, trends, read financial papers, etc; and I feel that is what it takes to be successful at it.
After the huge crypto losses today, I feel like taking the money and putting under my mattress 😦
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And buy more locally in future as well. Forget Amazon and feel the buzz when you support local shops. You did the right thing and in the right way, I thinkl. No need for confrontation when you can get your message across without.
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You are right Mari – shopping small and local is the way to go. I have been addicted to the convenience 😦 Will try to do better in the future.
Wishing you a blessed week! ♥♥
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