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“Patience is power. Patience is not an absence of action;
rather it is “timing”
it waits on the right time to act, for the right principles
and in the right way.” -Fulton J. Sheen
Things have been a little crazier than usual for me. My Mom is still in town so I am trying to spend as much time with her as I can, while juggling the rest of my life.
“I do not believe in taking the right decision, I take a decision and make it right.” ― Muhammad Ali Jinnah
Being a landlord. I had been running around trying to hunt my tenant down, finally I got the rent check. She is supposed to move out (for the past 2 years) but she has been always too weak, sick or too busy to do it. She hasn’t lived there in over a year.
I have offered to help her with the packing, and I have helped a couple of times, but it is extremely trying for me. I like to get things done, to start and get it over with, but she works for 30 minutes and is done for the day until weeks go by and then she is ready to do it again.
She has fibromyalgia so I am sympathetic and I have been extremely patient but now I am losing it. She has been paying the rent (albeit with some coaxing) but it is below market and every month I am losing money.
“I do not believe in taking the right decision, I take a decision and make it right.” – Muhammad Ali Jinnah
Do I force her to get out or do I continue exercising patience? When do I know that enought is enough? Is patience a virtue? Am I being virtuous or just afraid of taking action?
“Why is patience so important?”
“Because it makes us pay attention.” – Paulo Coelho
Being an employee/employer. I used to love my co-workers. Now I dislike a couple of them, specially one of them. Work is not fun anymore. The egos in some people here are appaling.
I hate cheap and childish men and I have got both here. I had some screaming matches with one of them that was acting childish and I called him on it. He was giving me the silence treatment instead of talking this and getting the matter resolved. He thought I owed him $5.00 for pizza. It was a misunderstanding that didn’t need to get this far. The whole situation is laughable!
This guy got married. All of a sudden he got the right clients and started making more money than he ever did in his life. Those 2 events went to his head. He is totally changed. He thinks he is a big shot now.
I keep trying to remind myself that this is business and since I am a partner here this person is bringing money to the company and, therefore, to me. That thought makes it a bit easier to stomach him.
Don’t get me wrong. I have an amazing job. I get paid well and have all kinds of flexibility and perks. It is just not fun to have someone giving you the silent treatment. I don’t think any job is perfect and this situation presents all kinds of opportunities for lessons. More patience and understanding in in order.
“The most pathetic person in the world is some one who has sight but no vision.” – Helen Keller
Being sophisticated/stylish. I m trying to dress better. Not that I don’t dress well, but if you leave it up to me it would be jeans and t-shirt every day and since my job has no dress code it is very easy for me to do just that.
I feel better when I dress better. I guess everyone does. So I am making more of an effort. I have so many clothes and it is sad and embarrassing to say that I probably use only 10% of my wardrobe. The rest sits there from season to season with the hope of being used, and I continuously add more to the mix. (I also continuously donate items)
Paying attention to my appearance is a way of saying to myself that I matter, that I am important enough to spend more than 5 minutes getting ready in the morning.
“One ought, every day at least, to hear a little song, read a good poem, see a fine picture, and, if it were possible, to speak a few reasonable words.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Extra pounds. Speaking of appearance, I really do need to get my act together and lose weight. It is not a lot that I need to lose but it is enough to annoy me. It is also a reminder that I am not at my best and I am not really putting any effort into it. I do 30 minutes of elliptical every day but that is about it. Not enough.
No more excuses. The 10 pounds I wanted to lose is now 20, I need to make sure that it doesn’t increase even more.
At the end of the day is all about my giving my all, my best, 100% to everything. I know l haven’t been doing that. I am just not passionate about anything lately.
I am looking into different classes from language to drink mixing to art history. I need and want to exercise my mind, body and meet new people.
Wishing everyone a blessed weekend, filled with fun, rest and anything else your mind and body needs!
Drink mixing might be dangerous. 🙂
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Hahaha good point! But then again I am feeling daring lately; -)
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You might want to consult a lawyer about your tenant. I think she is stringing you along…
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Hi Noelle, yes by now I am starting to feel I am being taken advantage of. 😦 I am going to give a serious talk to her and depending on that I will follow the legal route. Many blessings! 🙂
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You are past the point of patience with your tenant. This is now her taking advantage of the situation. Give her a deadline, put it in writing, change the locks if she’s not out. That’s just crazy. And I’m saying this as someone who is often in the position of asking “am I being mean/impatient/not seeing the whole situation?”. If there is a Bikram yoga studio near you – do the 30 day challenge and you will melt the pounds off! Then start going to a more a more holistic yoga studio – but Bikram is a great jump-start. As for your clothes – I do have another suggestion. Look through magazines and tear out whatever outfits/looks/accessories speak to you. It’s not to buy the clothes – just to have an idea about how you want to look – how you see yourself. And then get rid of all he clothes that don’t match that aesthetic – and buy new ones that DO. Our looks can (an should) change.Maybe the stuff in your closet is just not who you are now?
My 2 cents – love your blog!
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I go from thinking she is really too ill to move her belongings out to the feeling that she is taking advantage of the situation. I am giving her a deadline, either she will move her stuff on her own or I will move them for her and deduct it from her security deposit.
Bikram yoga?? are you trying to kill me? lol even though I am from Brazil I hate the heat and adore the cold so Brikam yoga seems like punishment. I know, I know, that sounds like an excuse and it is, I just need to get off my butt and do something.
To tear pages from a magazine is a great idea and I am going to start doing that. I also made a promise to use every single item in my closet once, if they make me feel good they stay, otherwise they will go. I will also take pictures of outfits that I feel are a success so I am able to repeat them in the future.
Sometimes I think I am the only 50 year old out there that doesn’t have a style or a makeup up and hair routine 😦
I thank you so much for taking the time to comment and give me all your great advice. I love that you love my blog, it makes me feel that this blog is not just a waste of internet space. Many hugs and blessings to you! 🙂
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If you forced her out you are going to feel guilty. I can tell you are a caring person. So, a little more patience and coaxing might do the trick.
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Hi Noel. You are right as I want to make sure I treat her as I want to be treated, but on the other hand I know I would never string someone along like she is doing me. So I am planning on a honest conversation along with a deadline. If she cannot complete her move by herself I will do it for her but it will cost her. I know things will work out – one way or another. Thank you and many blessings! 🙂
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Fuss over a $5 dollar pizza??? (that’s £3.57p in uk money)…Pffft! Whatever happened to comradeship (oh silly me I’m still stuck in 1960s mode)
That aside. Thanks for a most interesting post. An honest and clear diary of a day in a life.
Best wishes
Roger
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Hi Roger, I know, can you believe it!!! Nothing silly about you, You are just an endangered species: a gentleman! This guy is still giving me and my assistant the silent treatment. In the past couple of years I have been defending him to the other partners, but now I see his true colors. Thank you for enjoying my blog! Wishing you a blessed week! 🙂
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Thank you.
All the best to you too.
And do keep up the good work with your blog.
Best wishes
Roger
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Thank you Roger! All the best to you too! 🙂
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Well, yes patience is a virtue, but still sometimes it makes you being used if you have too much patience. I hope you get your tenant sorted. Work is work, but not your life… so get out and do some fun stuff! … and enjoy your mum.
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