“To venture causes anxiety, but not to venture is to lose one’s self…. And to venture in the highest is precisely to be conscious of one’s self.” – ― Søren Kierkegaard
I am leaving for Brazil in a few hours. I am fighting a bit of anxiety. There is this one thing that I wanted to accomplish but it didn’t work out as expected (is it the Universe telling me that I should wait until I return or is it the Universe seeing my resolve in getting this done?). When things don’t go according to plan it causes me a bit of internal turmoil. I am trying to compartmentalize it and put that one issue aside until I am back in NY and can deal with it. I should know better than to thing that I have any control over anything.
Before I go I want to make sure to tell you about my last adventure in dating: Speed dating.
It was surprisingly fun. There were 9 guys and 10 women. It was in a bar in NY City. The women sat around and the men went around to each lady, changing to the next lady every 3 minutes. To me this is the perfect way to meet someone since I normally know within the first couple of minutes if there is something there or not. I don’t have the time to go into details about every guy, but there was a good mix from the not so normal (this is NY after all) to the completely normal (at least it appears to be so). There was a good mix of ladies too, from the divorced housewife to the rude impatient “I am better than you” lady.
A side note is that 8 out of the 9 guys were never married and had no children. A shocking fact since they were all between the ages of 40 and 50. The other ladies thought that this was a matter of concern, as if there is something wrong with them. Since I happen to be one of them (never married, no kids) I think that fact it is no big deal. But I do find strange to have so many of them in one place.
In the days after, you are supposed to go to the service website and choose who you would like to see again. I chose 2 guys. There were probably 5 of them that I wouldn’t mind seeing again, but only two seemed to be candidates for something long-lasting, so I rather not waste the other’s time.
Since they had chosen me also, contact information was provided to all. They both contacted the same day. One is an International Business Strategist (whatever that means) and the other is a jazz musician.
The first one emailed me right away, but then never contacted me again after I replied. This is NY so I am not surprised, but I am just curious as to the silence. I hope he was not run over by a truck!
“I am realistic – I expect miracles.” ― Wayne W. Dyer
On Wednesday the musician took me to a French Restaurant. Everything was great from the food to the conversation. And we both had agreed to date again. But, of course there is always a but. While he was walking me to the train station the conversation turned to religion. He questioned me a lot about my religious beliefs. I am not sure I like that part very much. I am all for healthy debates but I felt interrogated. We sat at the train station and had a cocktail while I waited for the train. I was intrigued that we got along so well and yet there is this huge divide.
He doesn’t believe in anything that cannot be proven. I, on the other hand, don’t need proof of a God (whatever name you choose to call) or miracles, I believe in it with all my heart. I believe in the Universe/God/Superior Power, something greater than me. I find comfort in that belief. I believe in miracles and consider my life a blessing. He wanted proof! I said I was not one of those people that think that my belief is the right one, and I was not about to try to prove him wrong, but my belief is right for me!
I am open minded and always believed that as long as people respect each other’s opinions any relationship can work…today I am not so sure. At that time it didn’t seem to be a big deal to have a difference of opinion, but today, a couple of days later, this seems way too big a difference to ignore. He used the word “ridiculous” to describe the belief in things unseen and unproven, such as Christ, God, miracles, etc. That seemed disrespectful to me now.
“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” -― Albert Einstein
Perhaps the ridiculous thing is for a believer like me to be with someone that thinks it is ridiculous to believe in something that you cannot see or prove. Is it worth to see him again? I love believing in guardian angels, miracles, faith, hope, the Universe, etc I am thinking I need someone that will, at least, not think that that is ridiculous. My faith and believe is such a huge part of me that if someone has an issue with that, then they have an issue with me.
Well, I have more to say, but not enough time, I need to make the next train, get home, get bagels, and then head to the airport.
ps. please forgive mistakes, typos, etc…written in a hurry!