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crazy people, men, people's baggages, stalkers, train, women
Let me give you the background first:
4 years ago when I used to take a certain train to work I met this man that I will call J. and we became great train buddies (only met each other in the train). Even though there was some chemistry, nothing happened because he was married and I am just not going there.
When he got divorced, I think around 1 and a half year ago he e-mailed me and asked me out for a drink. I declined and mentioned that I was happily living with someone.
Every now and then we would exchange a hello e-mail. March this year, I casually mentioned in an e-mail that I was going to the Brazilian Consulate. He, turns out, works 1 block away, so he met me there and in the 5/10 minutes while I waited for my passport he caught me up on his life: divorced, has a new girlfriend, working 2 jobs. I joked that we can never get our timing in synch, first he was married, then I am living with someone, now he has a girlfriend.
A month ago he sent an e-mail saying hello and I told him I was starting to write again (I knew that him as a writer would appreciate that) and he wrote back: “ I am pleased to hear that you are putting your mind into words.”
And that is that, that is the extent of our friendship, a monthly or every other month e-mail saying hi!
So, today as soon as I walked into the office I am being told I have a phone call in one of the broker’s line. I answer, thinking it is a sales call since this person didn’t call me on my direct line.
This female voice asked me if I knew J., then asked if I was his girlfriend. I started laughing and said no. I had to laugh it was such an out of the blue, weird question.
She proceeded to tell me that someone saw us together at the Consulate. She went on to say that he is a terrible person. I said I didn’t believe that.
Now in hindsight I should have not even said a single word to her. I should have just hung up. But it is one of those things that feels it happened so fast.
When I asked her name she said it is best that I didn’t know it. So I said if you can’t give me your name please don’t ever call me again.
She thanked me, said that she thought I was an honest person and hung up.
I am so unnerved by all this. How can someone think I am involved with someone that I barely know and never see or speak to. Should I be worried now? This person clearly has issues.
So I e-mailed him my phone number asking him to call me back right away. He never even had my phone number before.
After one hour he calls and says that he thinks he knows who is behind all this. He doesn’t really say who it is. When I ask is it the ex-wife or the new girlfriend, he just answers: It is related to that! He says I should not worry. I wish he had provided me more info on this person or this whole situation.
And that is it!
How can I not worry? That are so many crazy stories I hear Of course my mind is going now full speed with all the terrible possibilities.
I am now afraid of this unknown person, because if she goes as far as calling me she could be curious to see what I look like and actually come after me.
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I am now even afraid of meeting new people, a new man. One just never knows what sort of baggage they will bring, what crazy people they have in their past.
Time to say another prayer asking God to protect me from the seen and unseen evils.
Please God put only good people in my path!
Hi,
do not go crazy – cheer up! Think of your list that you have published yesterday on your other blog:
“1. My Heart – I want to have my heart always open. No matter how many times it gets broken, bruised or turned into a pulp. Loving is still one of the best things in life.”
Don´t be anxiously – it isn´t helpful – everything will be O.K. Listen to your heart – think positive. )
I wish you all the best – enjoy your life and be yourself (think of your list again and again – you have the right thoughts on this list)!
Greetings,
Sunelly Sims
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You are right of course, but it is just amazing that a 1 minute phone can shake your trust and believes up like that. But indeed, it is probably life testing the truth in my words. It is not only writing – you have to live it. Thank you!
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I’m glad to read your words – that sounds too much better. Yes, I also think like you:
” It is not only writing – you have to live it.”
Don’t be scared, lift your head it’s gonna be alright …
Have a nice day with positive, confident thoughts in your head,
Sunelly Sims
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Thank you for the great kind words!!
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how would this person have gotten your number to call you? maybe they followed you? maybe they’re involved with the person and afraid that the guy might still want you, so she is trying to scare you away.
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I got a bit more of information about this from this guy. He said that he had a relationship with her and tried to break it off and now she is acting psycho with calls and accusations.
And you are right, how she got the number for my work is what makes me nervous! I will be looking over my should for awhile. The odd thing is he has a new girlfriend, so she be calling her, not me. Perhaps she thought that I was a jilted girlfriend and would bond would her or something. who knows?
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i am sorry for your situation – but i do enjoy that i was right. i know people, and when i get clues, i can figure out what’s going on.
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I hope I don’t hear from her again! and I don’t care to hear from him either! I should run more situations by you – lol
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Wow that’s straight out of a movie! Sorry to hear what happened. Be safe!
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and not a good movie! lol Thank you!
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You know, women are nuts. It has nothing to do with you. This guy clearly leads a double maybe even triple life and I believe there are no accidents. It sounds like there’s a little part of you who has always liked him so the Universe stepped in and quelled it quickly.
There’s nothing to be frightened about. Write and be happy.
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You are so completely on the mark here! I think that now that I am available a big part of me thought that perhaps he and I would eventually be together, and I was little down that he had a girlfriend. But thank you Universe for showing me the light and truth! I did say a silent prayer thanking God! And you are write on the double or triple lives he is leading. He is certainly not the person I thought he was. Thank you Thank you! 🙂
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I have a list of men like this – they are all bad boys that let’s face it, are very exciting. Trouble is, they leave debris in their wake. I try to remember this when I’m drawn to one even at my age.
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My only problem is that this guy seemed like such a good guy and that is one of the reasons why I thought “what if”! So my problem, going forward, is how can I tell the good from the bad? Perhaps I should stay away from them all/
I like the way you put it some men “leave debris in their wake”!
Also, age?, what age?, you look amazing!
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Men that are sexy and charming all seem like good guys, and sometimes they are. You already have history with this one that’s not to say the next one that you meet who sweeps you off your feet won’t be more sincere. You need to see those red flags that are always there; we just conveniently ignore them. That phone call was a huge one waving.
It’s okay…another bus is coming, as my grandmother used to say.
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hahaha, is your grandmother Brazilian? because that is what they say in Brazil: “don’t worry about one leaving there is always another one coming!”
I am going to try not to group all men together and make sure to keep my heart open.
I thank you for your comments. They are always so insightful and they make me double check myself!! Keep them coming! I need all the help I can get!
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Be careful and I would say avoid J. You don’t need all the drama and messiness this person might be carrying around. Stay safe
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I will, and avoiding him is the message that the Universe has sent to me – I better listen!! Thank you!!
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oh wow! how did this person knew where you worked in the first place!? well, if she wanted to say something to you she probably would have said it. It sounds like she was just tasting the water as they say.
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that is exactly what got me very nervous – How did she get my number? I am hoping that that is the end of it, that she is satisfied with my answer and will leave me alone!
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I meant testing 🙂
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tasting made sense too – lol
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That sure is full on!
Sounds like a woman scorned to me, looking for someone else to blame for something that has gone wrong in her life. Hopefully your friend can set her straight.
Try not to be too anxious- it seems a long shot that she would actually do you physical harm. Though I understand this must be totally unsettling!
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I am calmer today. You are probably right, she was either looking for someone to blame or someone to join her on attacking him. At any rate it was a good eye opening. He was not the guy I thought he was. Happy Thusday!!
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I just nominated you for the Sunshine Blog Award. I linked your blog to my post. Come check it out!
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Thank you so much for nominating me for the Sunshine Award!!! You made my day!! 🙂
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Don’t let that woman’s call bother you….there could be such a huge back story that has nothing to do with you! I remember meeting a man at a coffee shop – it was for a job interview – nothing more. We were both dressed professionally and it was in broad daylight in a public place. I got the job (yeah me!) and he told me that the day he interviewed me, one of his wife’s friends saw us together and called her! Given that his position as well as mine meant working remotely from home, where else were we to meet! His wife wasn’t concerned, we all laughed about it, but it just goes to show that sometimes people like to stir things up! Brush it off and enjoy life. It really is someone else’s issue.
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I feel much better about it today. Indeed his shenanigans have nothing to do with me. Thank you for your anecdote. It perfectly illustrate how people sometimes jump to conclusions. 🙂
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