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So Ex’s mother is leaving tomorrow. I didn’t feel comfortable calling her – not even sure why, as I just saw her on Saturday and had a great time together, so I just e-mailed wishing her a safe trip.
When she arrived here 3 weeks ago, she was under the impression that all was fine that Ex and I were still together even though I had moved. She was under that impression because he said that to her.
I have no idea why he would mislead her this way. But one day 2 weeks ago I made to sure to let her know some of what went on.
I don’t expect her to believe everything I said. I know how most mothers are with their sons. My mother is the same way with my brother. They put them in a pedestal and refuse to believe anything else.
But anyway, it just pains me to have the relationship I had with her change. I love her and treated her the same as I treat my mother – with respect and kindness. When she arrived she was talking about my spending a weekend in June with her for a girl’s weekend. She hasn’t said anything now. I also didn’t bring it up.
Ex is bound to be introducing her to a new girlfriend – if he didn’t already do so. So,I think it is unfair of me to try to still be in her life. Nothing has changed as far as my love for her, but as I am learning, sometimes you have to learn to love from afar.
I guess this is a great chance for learning. Learn to detach from things and people.
“learn to love from afar” so true sometimes.
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I am glad somebody agrees with me! 🙂
Sometimes is a choice between love and hate, and I always choose love!
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It’s the only way to live and live well. LOVE
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Losing my in-laws was the worst part of the divorce. But sometimes, there’s just no way around the divisions. My now-wife, however, says I lighten up when I mention them, even all these years later.
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Thank you for sharing! After a break up you don’t only lose the person, but in laws, friends, pets, security. You lose life as you know it. And now with Mother’s Day approaching it is even harder! Thank you! 🙂
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