So I have this married ex-client that sends me instant messages throughout the day. He made me believe (perhaps I am) that I am somewhat inspirational to him with all my positive thinking and talking. And I enjoyed this motivational role, because the truth whatever I tell him is exactly what I need to hear.
4 years ago we used to communicate, via instant messaging, before (4 years or more ago) our conversations got a little racy. My rationale was: I am single and not doing anything wrong, and this is just words. And it was, never met this person in person.
Now I am single again and still don’t think I would be doing anything wrong, but as I age and mature I have started to ask why more often. So why would I choose to embark in that kind of conversation with him? I cannot see any good coming out of it.
What is the point? I know I have a fertile imagination and know the right words to say to a man, but what will be my reward? Or better yet, will I feel proud of myself. NO, a big resounding no!
Which brings me to right now. He just sent me a question, which he prefaced by writing: hey a quick “over the line question” and preceded to ask the question. (which is: do I know what a rabbit is and do I own one)
Well, it has been 10 minutes since he asked and I am proud to say that impulsive me hasn’t replied yet.
I am considering my reply options:
Do I just block him from future contact?
Do I tell him that I am not going there? Which by the day I have done many times before, and that he seems to forget.
Do I ignore it completely and only reply if he comes up with other type of conversation?
Here is what I ended up saying:
“not going there and I have told you before”
Oh my Gosh, he is slow, here is his reply:
“I know you have a toy was asking specifically about the rabbit”
I guess I didn’t make myself clear on what I told him before (that I don’t want that kind of talk). Who knows what I have told him 4 years ago. I guess there is not a lot happening in his life that he still remembers those conversations.
So I said:
I have told you before that I am not going to have those conversations!!!!!!!
OK OK relax…..it was not meant as a bad thing don’t take it that way
I am sorry, I guess it is not a good day for me to relax. I said I am not going there and you keep going there, so perhaps is best not to talk.
After 1 hour he replied:
Im sorry you feel that way
have a good day
And with that he logged off.
And that is that. When you think you have a friend that is able to look beyond male and female sexual tensions and focus on the relationship and the healthy exchange of words, you get a wakeup call reminding you that most (notice I didn’t say all) men just have one thing in their minds.
Good riddance! I don’t need to think I have a friend when all I have is a guy that is trying to get into my pants or at least into my erotic mind.
I am not a prude, but I decided long ago not to play with anything that is not mine. I wouldn’t want anyone having spicy conversations with my boyfriend (if I had one)