So I have this married ex-client that sends me instant messages throughout the day. He made me believe (perhaps I am) that I am somewhat inspirational to him with all my positive thinking and talking. And I enjoyed this motivational role, because the truth whatever I tell him is exactly what I need to hear.
4 years ago we used to communicate, via instant messaging, before (4 years or more ago) our conversations got a little racy. My rationale was: I am single and not doing anything wrong, and this is just words. And it was, never met this person in person.
Now I am single again and still don’t think I would be doing anything wrong, but as I age and mature I have started to ask why more often. So why would I choose to embark in that kind of conversation with him? I cannot see any good coming out of it.
What is the point? I know I have a fertile imagination and know the right words to say to a man, but what will be my reward? Or better yet, will I feel proud of myself. NO, a big resounding no!
Which brings me to right now. He just sent me a question, which he prefaced by writing: hey a quick “over the line question” and preceded to ask the question. (which is: do I know what a rabbit is and do I own one)
Well, it has been 10 minutes since he asked and I am proud to say that impulsive me hasn’t replied yet.
I am considering my reply options:
Do I just block him from future contact?
Do I tell him that I am not going there? Which by the day I have done many times before, and that he seems to forget.
Do I ignore it completely and only reply if he comes up with other type of conversation?
Here is what I ended up saying:
“not going there and I have told you before”
Oh my Gosh, he is slow, here is his reply:
“I know you have a toy was asking specifically about the rabbit”
I guess I didn’t make myself clear on what I told him before (that I don’t want that kind of talk). Who knows what I have told him 4 years ago. I guess there is not a lot happening in his life that he still remembers those conversations.
So I said:
I have told you before that I am not going to have those conversations!!!!!!!
OK OK relax…..it was not meant as a bad thing don’t take it that way
I am sorry, I guess it is not a good day for me to relax. I said I am not going there and you keep going there, so perhaps is best not to talk.
After 1 hour he replied:
Im sorry you feel that way
have a good day
And with that he logged off.
And that is that. When you think you have a friend that is able to look beyond male and female sexual tensions and focus on the relationship and the healthy exchange of words, you get a wakeup call reminding you that most (notice I didn’t say all) men just have one thing in their minds.
Good riddance! I don’t need to think I have a friend when all I have is a guy that is trying to get into my pants or at least into my erotic mind.
I am not a prude, but I decided long ago not to play with anything that is not mine. I wouldn’t want anyone having spicy conversations with my boyfriend (if I had one)
People like that are plain evil, and hopefully this experience tells you that. If he is evil to his wife he will be evil to you. You have got to be better than that, let him piss himself with worry. Who cares? You deserve better ‘friends’ that will not totally push your limits and never listen to you.
A Star on the Forehead said:
Thank you for commenting. I do deserve better friends and I am sure I will be making many through this blog. But I just like to think that people like that just don’t know any better. Have a great weekend!!