boyfriends and friends, car buy or car lease, Montana, online dating, skiing in Big Sky, taking chances and being safe, to go or not to go
It has been a little awhile since I have been here so I am about to catch you up on my dating life, but here is what else is going on:
- Car doubts. After many car issues, I finally decided I need to get another car. I am still keeping my 30 year old baby (560SL) but it is about time to get a car that fits more than 2 people and it is good in the winter. I am not sure if I should buy or lease? I hardly do any driving so I am leaning towards lease. Any opinions?
- Tenants/Buildings issues. I need to learn to not stress over minor maintenance issues. Any time I see the superintendent’s number when my phone rings my heart sinks as I know he is going to mention some problem. I need to decide what to do in July when the lease is up. Do I just sell it or keep it longer? I have time to decide…
- After 32 years of living apart my identical twin sister and I will have to learn to live together again. She will be coming to live in USA in the next few months and she will stay with me until she gets settled, a job, etc. It will be interesting for sure. We would die for each other but after 5 minutes together we are already bickering.
- Work remains a blessing even though there are some crazy egos and situations I have to navigate through. It makes me stronger and wiser.
Now on to dating:
Regarding the 2 guys I mentioned on this post: https://atomic-temporary-33385295.wpcomstaging.com/2016/12/24/from-feast-to-famine-in-48-hours/
The counselor: After we had those disagreements we started talking again and now we are not only good friends but we are dance partners. We are taking private Salsa dance lessons together. We bought a package of 10 lessons. It has been a lot fun. He is so funny.
I explained I am no longer interested in romance and he respects that. We are planning to go to dance clubs once our dancing improves, well mostly his. I am Brazilian so moving my hips is easy. For him it has been a little more difficult. But he has so much enthusiasm that it makes up for the lack of rhythm.
The Pharmacist: We started talking again after that day. And for a second it looked like we could become friends.
One Sunday he asked me what I was going to do that evening and when I said that I was going out to dinner with a friend he volunteered to come with us and pay for dinner. I agreed.
Then he said he was going to come up to my apartment and watch me get ready. When I said that it was not going to happen, he said he would sit and wait in the living room. Again I said: It is not going to happen. He got upset that he would have to wait outside my apartment and said he was not coming anymore. I said ok and we haven’t spoken since.
I hate when guys assume that after meeting me once or a couple of times that I am ready to invite them to my apartment. There is no right time, but it is on my time not on theirs.
The construction worker: I haven’t mentioned him before and I would probably not mention him other for the fact that he invited me to go skiing with him in Big Sky, Montana. He has a hotel room with 2 beds. It is very tempting and I even reserved a flight. United lets you reserve the rate for one week. I have to decide by tomorrow. I am dying to go there. I am dying to go skiing. But, I don’t want to put myself in an uncomfortable situation. Even though he agrees this would be just friends, I barely know him. I am so conflicted!!!
Online dating can get tiring and frustrating. It is full of users, losers, jerks and fakes, but among all of that there are still some good guys there. I have managed to meet some of them. As always be careful when online dating. Safety first!
I have met men from all walks of life. I met computer software designers, all kinds of salesmen, financial guys from banking, insurance, etc, construction workers, lawyers, doctors, musicians, teachers, etc. I am thankful for online dating for making it possible for me to meet different people.
The last few dates I had:
- A businessman in the denim business. I was already picturing all the free jeans I would get 🙂 The date was okay. We spent the whole time talking about online dating. Any time that is the topic of conversation it is a sign things are not going to work. We had only drinks. Yes, he was cheap lol
- A Retired lawyer that occupies himself with some kind of electronics components distribution. We had dinner at a great restaurant. He seemed excited about me but I am not sure about him. I don’t think it will go anywhere. Funny fact, well funny for me, his children are in boarding school. I had never met anyone that had kids in boarding school.
- A South American food importer. A very nice guy, but every time he spoke he touched my knee. I know it is the South American familiar way but I didn’t care for that. Also it was hard to understand him and my Spanish is not great. I am a talker, so conversation is a big deal for me. It is not going anywhere.
- A restaurant owner that was just a bit too old for me. He is 64. I am not ageist but it didn’t seem he could keep up with me and I don’t have dreams of retiring in Florida. Nothing against Florida either.
This week and weekend I have a friend from Brazil staying with me so there was no dates, but next week there will be 3. Stay tuned, if anything interesting happens you will be the first to know.
You are awesome! The sooner you realize that the better. Breath, be happy, be positive, eat chocolate, life is great, no need to stress, everything passes!
Wishing you all a blessed weekend! 🙂
“Dare to Be
When a new day begins, dare to smile gratefully.
When there is darkness, dare to be the first to shine a light.
When there is injustice, dare to be the first to condemn it.
When something seems difficult, dare to do it anyway.
When life seems to beat you down, dare to fight back.
When there seems to be no hope, dare to find some.
When you’re feeling tired, dare to keep going.
When times are tough, dare to be tougher.
When love hurts you, dare to love again.
When someone is hurting, dare to help them heal.
When another is lost, dare to help them find the way.
When a friend falls, dare to be the first to extend a hand.
When you cross paths with another, dare to make them smile.
When you feel great, dare to help someone else feel great too.
When the day has ended, dare to feel as you’ve done your best.
Dare to be the best you can –
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