As I was deciding what to say if the attorney asked me on a 4th date, he kindly resolved things for me with this text:

I cannot pretend to feel something I don’t.  If a date is paying attention they will know exactly how I feel without my having to say a single word.  My body, my face, my actions and inactions betray my feelings from the get go.  I am very transparent.

Although I imagined he had realized that there was zero chemistry, I still thought perhaps he would ask me out again.  Some people are oblivious.  I am grateful he wrote, so I didn’t have to feel I was letting him down.  

It was fun being out with an old-fashioned gentleman.  I hope he finds a nice lady.  I am just a bit surprised that he texted and didn’t call.  I guess he is not that old-fashioned after all.

“Rushing into action, you fail.
Trying to grasp things, you lose them.
Forcing a project to completion,
you ruin what was almost ripe.

Therefore the Master takes action
by letting things take their course.
He remains as calm at the end
as at the beginning.
He has nothing,
thus has nothing to lose.
What he desires is non-desire;
what he learns is to unlearn.
He simply reminds people
of who they have always been.
He cares about nothing but the Tao.
Thus he can care for all things.”

― Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching