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freedom in delegating, freedom in letting go, learning to delegate, learning to relinquish control, more time to live, work smarter not harder
“If you want to do a few small things right, do them yourself. If you want to do great things and make a big impact, learn to delegate.” ― john c. maxwell
I have always struggled with asking people to do anything for me. I also struggle with letting go of control. That combination makes it very hard for me to delegate at work.
As a result I have been overworked for years; even though I do have someone to assist me.
I work for a very small firm, so I wear many hats. From being the Treasurer to being the Compliance Officer, and everything else in between. My assistant does the daily contracts.
I was doing way too much. I realized that she could do more and alleviate some of my burden. Now, slowly, I have been giving her more responsibilities, and making her accountable for some tasks.
I learned that I need to:
- Give step-by-step instructions
- Communicate the expected outcome
- Establish clear and realistic deadlines
- Have tons of patience
“Focus on what you are good at; delegate all else.” – Steve Jobs
It has been tough. A lot doesn’t get done as I would like. Relinquishing control of functions that I always took pride in is difficult. I have always felt that anything leaving my office is a reflection on me as a professional.
I am finally learning that to delegate is to learn to accept that something will not be done your way, but it will still get done. So what if an email is not written as perfect as I want? It is not the end of the world.
At work, I have been guilty of expecting people to take initiative. I expect people to see that something needs to get done and to step up and do it. Some people will never do that. Some people need to be told what to do.
It is okay. We are all different. Some people are born to lead and some are born to follow. It doesn’t make one better than the other, but it should serve as a guide to where people should concentrate their efforts.
“The more control, the more that requires control. This is the road to chaos.— PanSpechi aphorism” ― The Dosadi Experiment
In delegating, letting go of control and the need for things to be done my way, I have found some more time in my day.
I have found freedom. Freedom from the need to be perfect. Freedom from being in charge of everything.
I am finally learning to work smarter. I have not only learned to delegate, but I am also learning to say no to additional work.
Who said an old dog can’t learn new tricks?
“I’ve seen too many leaders misunderstand leadership for legacy. Even the most experienced leaders will divide instead of delegate and incite instead of unite to advance hidden personal agendas.” ― Richie Norton
Kudos Ana on learning to delegate and let go of the need to control. I had a hard time doing that in management as well. Thankfully, I no longer have that role and have learned to let go more in my life.
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Thank you Brad!
I realize I either change or continue struggling, so change it is.
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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Yay! I seem to choose to do nothing far too often! 🙃
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Not a bad thing. I often err by doing too much. 🙂
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Oops. Maybe we can balance each other out!
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ha, that is what I strive for in life, balance and moderation.
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I’m the same way, even with housekeeping. The quote from Steve Jobs is interesting given his reputation for being extremely hard on the people to whom he delegated.
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Hi Gail,
I am glad to know I am not alone…. no one can clean to my liking 🙂
That is indeed an interesting quote from him. I think that a lot of the more accomplished people can be considered difficult to work with. They expect a lot from those around them. It is not always a bad thing.
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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True, but I’m not sure I would model after someone who is successful based on their ability to delegate unless they do it in a way that helps their employees become successful too.
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Freedom is on the horizon 😉
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ha, I am getting there 🙂
Blessings KE! ♥♥
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Delegation is what I thrived on and enjoyed my life . Delegation not just gives you more freedom but also helps you in fulfilling one major function of leadership: empowering of the subordinates.
Stay blessed always.
🙏🌹🙏
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Hi Krish and Jas,
Very good point you make: “empowering of the subordinates”
Thank you for that, and for the visit!
Blessings! ♥♥
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🙏🙏🙏
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It’s smart to work smarter! And, it sounds like you can finally take a nice, deep breath! Yay!
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indeed, indeed! It feels great to have time in my day to tackle some functions that kept being pushed aside.
Blessings to you Stacy! ♥♥
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So glad you found that out. It took me also so long to learn that too. I kept moaning to my sister as she had the same problem and we told each other to let go. The problem is my standards were very high and I was reliable which is hard to find these days. It is hard to delegate as the results are never to your own standard. Still you need to let go. Although people like to be told what to do and they are happy to do it. Never assume they know it all but help them to get it done and better at it. Then you can rely on them.
You are doing the right thing in letting go a bit, it is much better for your life and health. Great stuff Ana. High Five xx
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Hi Ute,
My sister and I, are probably very much like you and your sister. At the end of the day we meet up and both complain about the amount of work, and the lack of good, reliable help. We then try to tell the other to relax and not expect too much.
Getting used to having some functions being performed less than perfect is a struggle, but learning to accept that fact has been very freeing.
Having patience has been key.
Seeing the results, of having more time, and feeling a bit less stressed is amazing.
Blessings to you, and good luck with that bass 🙂 ♥♥
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Thank you for sharing!!… as John F. Kennedy once said “Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past and present are certain to miss the future.” and I predict a bright future for you filled with happiness!!… 🙂
Until we meet again..
May your troubles be less
Your blessings be more
And nothing but happiness
Come through your door
(Irish Saying)
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Thank you so much Larry for your prediction!!
I think your prediction is right on the mark 😉
Thank you for brightening my blog with your positivity!
Blessings! ♥♥
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More quotes: “Done, is good”
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I love that! Short, sweet and on point! I am going to use it, and give you credit! 🙂
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Technically, that is one of my mother-in-law’s phrases (which suggests it has New England origins).
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wise woman! 🙂
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More freedom, means more time to travel and work on mosaics! THIS IS A WIN!
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yes, yes, yes!! That is my definition of heaven!!
Many blessings to you Monica! ♥♥
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Letting go is one of the most difficult things to do.
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Hi Rob,
It is indeed. And one of the most necessary and rewarding.
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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Oh soooo happy to hear this Ana Star!
It’s not easy and I struggle with it too.. I just have to hire an assistant and am looking at a virtual.
love all of your quotes as always.
Working smarter is always the goal for me these days. Kudos to you!!!
“I am finally learning to work smarter. I have not only learned to delegate, but I am also learning to say no to additional work.
Who said an old dog can’t learn new tricks?”
YAYYY!!
That last quote..
““I’ve seen too many leaders misunderstand leadership for legacy. Even the most experienced leaders will divide instead of delegate and incite instead of unite to advance hidden personal agendas.” ― Richie Norton
someone that owns big company my future son in law had worked with for 13 years was finally acquiring his company and the day before he took his own life. They believe he didn’t want to have to change anything for his staff and could keep the legacy as a nice guy; Who really knows but it was soooo sad to think there was no other way to make peace with it.
Happy weekending my friend.
💖💖💖
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Hi Cindy,
I wonder how a virtual assistant would work for me. Good luck with your search. You sound like an awesome person to work with.
That is so sad to hear about someone taking their own life, and potentially over work issues. It is such a needless loss. It feels me with sadness thinking of the despair that a person must be in to make such a decision, over any issue. I pray they find peace, and I pray others are able to reach out and ask for help.
I hope you are having a great week! Blessings! ♥♥
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I’m wondering too Ana Star and if I ever get there I’ll let you know how it works. I think I am but it’s tough to know and everyones life is so upside down since Covid, who nows for sure.
I know it’s just so sad is right. I wish them the same!!!!! I hope you got my email response.. xo 💖💖💖happy near Thursday to you too💖💖💖
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Yay you!!!!! That’s the best leadership…
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Thank you Eliza! Blessings to you! ♥♥
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