“The value of a moment is immeasurable. The power of just ONE moment can propel you to success and happiness or chain you to failure and misery.” ―
I was in Brazil for 10 days and got back to New York on Friday. I love going but I love returning even more. I miss my routine, even the craziness of work. There is comfort in routine.
On Monday I alerted the auditors that I was back but so far I have not heard anything from them. I guess they are working on some other firm at the moment. I just want to be finished and not have it hanging over my head.
My mom again returned with me to stay a couple of weeks. Mom is 84 today. She looks amazing. She has taken great care of herself. No wrinkles! But unfortunately her health is not equally that great.
She has to take a lot medication for different ailments. I am used to her being non-stop, a total dynamo. It is sad to see that she is not the same energetic person she used to be. That gives me a lot pause and gets me thinking about my own life and future.
I think she is a good mirror for me to base my actions on. Seeing her deteriorate reminds me to not to waste time, energy, youth and a healthy body. This life cycle is finite.
My mom now reminds me to live my life to the fullest, to have more fun, to do more, make more mistakes, celebrate life.
Now that mom’s health is not that great I feel like a parent to a child I never had. I don’t mean that in a bad way. I just worry and try to do all I can to make her life easier. Unlike a child, an older parent gets more dependent as time goes by.
While mom is in town I am getting into work at 6 am and trying to leave at 1pm so she is not alone for long. So far it has worked.
I am focusing on the blessing of still having my parents! I am focusing on doing all that I can to make my parent’s life comfortable and still fun. All the rest are mere details.
Bye, we are now off to the casino 🙂
“Everybody seems to be doing different things but actually they do the same thing: They try to survive in this world, each with their own style!” ―
Blessed with a Star on the Forehead 
Recently I had a visit with my aging mother after six months without seeing her. I was shocked at how much she had declined in what I usually think of as a short time. I have always thought of her as such a strong lady, a force for anyone to contend with. It was difficult to see her in a state requiring help she is not used to asking for. Like you, I have been reminded of how finite life is, to live each moment to the fullest, and to cherish the ones we love while they are still with us. Thank you for your honest sharing.
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Hi, thank you for stopping by and commenting.
I feel the same way as you do. I see my mom every 5 months and lately it has been shocking her decline.
It scares me to get old and become dependent on others, but somehow it seems it is a fate that we cannot escape.
May you have many more years with your mom and wishing you a blessed weekend! 🙂
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I agree, enjoy your life and cherish your moments with your mum to the full. Make great memories to cherish later in life. This is all I can do now. Be in the present ad really love the moment consciously with your parents. ♥
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Hi Ute
You are so right! Being present in the moment is key.
Thank you for the reminder! Many blessings to you! 🙂
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You are so blessed to have your Mum still, I lost mine at 77, I miss her daily, even after almost 5 years. As your dear Mum says, live life to the full, every single day xxx
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Hi Lilly
Indeed I am, and at times when I am a little short on patience I try to reflect on that.
There will be day that I will miss having her here.
Thank you and wishing you a blessed weekend! 🙂
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Blessings to you always x
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You just go on and enjoy being able to give love and companionship to your
mom whenever you can. I am sure she would hate you feeling guilty or pressurised
to do so.
When you share your time, let it be a mutual richness in exchange of thoughts and smiles.
It will all come clear as life goes.
miriam
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Hi Miriam
Thank you for the wise words. Sometimes it is a balancing act between what I want to do and what I feel I need to do.
But no matter what I continue to choose love always, and err on the side of spending more time with her.
Wishing you a blessed weekend! 🙂
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Its a difficult time of life but make the most of the precious years you have left with your mum. Sounds like you are doing just that.
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Indeed it is and indeed I am trying my best to have patient and make sure to have fun.
Thank you and blessings to you! 🤗
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Keep on keeping on…
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Always 🤗
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Dad passed 2 years ago last August. Sis passed this last January. Both lived with Mom. She is alone at home now. I call her nearly every day and we do something like going out to eat at least 3 times a week. We usually go to the grocery together. I understand. I love my Mom and want to spend more time with her. I also realize that I am older and really need to focus on life. It is an interesting and complex thing to sort out. It is so wonderful you still spend time with your mom even countries apart.
Scott
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Hi Scott
I totally understand you situation.
As my parents get older and I do as well, it becomes harder to prioritize myself.
But it becomes more of a priority for my physical and mental health.
I struggle with feelings of guilty, probably so the rest of the world.
Your mom probably appreciate the times you get together…the Universe is watching your kindness.
Blessings to you both! 🙂
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I love my Mom and don’t mind making her a part of my life. Eating together often will not happen – someday – I don’t ever want to feel regret that I ignored that.
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Absolutely! It is all about enjoying the present moment and having no regrets!
Wishing you a blessed weekend ahead! 🙂
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