“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more, that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. And that’s what you’ve given me. That’s what I’d hoped to give you forever” – Nicholas Sparks
I hardly ever have a second date and normally it is just to confirm what I had already known: that I am not into this person. But this time it is different.
The second date was last Sunday. I went to his house. It is a bit crazy for me to go to someone’s house this early in a relationship but I really wanted to see his home. I love seeing how people live. It tells me a lot about who they are. Also, he had told me his house was freaking adorable, so yes I was curious.
I had no doubt I would be safe, so I had no reservations about going there.
His house is indeed adorable. It is small and cozy. He knew I would like it as I mentioned to him that I like vintage stuff, woods and metals. His house is filled with all kinds of artifacts, vintage furniture and art pieces he has done.
It was like a log cabin inside and covered in all kinds of nick knacks. Every item has a story. G. is by profession a carpenter, but his passion and talent lies in woodcarving and other artwork made out of driftwood.
I specially loved the backyard. It is so fairy-tale like with so many birds, and plants. One side of the house is totally covered in ivy. I didn’t see the vegetable garden he has on the roof and I didn’t shower in the outdoor shower. Those are saved for date # 3.
Since I was going to his house and our chemistry is crazy we talked about the subject of sex. We decided that we would not rush into anything. We will take it slow and easy. There was plenty of kissing and snuggling but no sex.
I got there around 9:30am. It took me 50 minutes to get there. After a long hug and a peck on the lips he handed me a cup of coffee and proceeded to give me a tour of the house. That probably took a couple of hours. Not that the house was big, it was that each item, each corner has history and a story.
We sat outside for awhile, talking about the plants and the birds. Then we went inside and he proceeded to make brunch. I watched him for awhile and offered to help. He told me to lay down in his bedroom and just relax. He said he would call me when it was time to butter the bread. I did, and after awhile he called to butter the English muffins.
“The Very first moment I beheld him, my heart was irrevocably gone.” – Jane Austen
The reason he said laid down on the bed versus sit down on the couch is that from the bedroom where the bed was one could see straight into the kitchen where he was. I imagine that was the reason, because now looking back it seemed odd. In the moment all was perfect, nothing awkward or weird about anything.
He made sauteed sweet potatoes, sausage, and eggs. I never cared for sweet potatoes. I could take it or leave it. But these were the best sweet potatoes I ever had.
It was probably already 3 pm by the time we were eating. After lingering over our empty plates we laid down on a bed he has in this covered back porch. I am not sure how long we were there. There was some kissing. It was awesome, but we didn’t take it any further. We both fell asleep at some point. .
Later we sat in the living room and talked about his plans for the future regarding his art and some other projects. I love people that pursue their passions, so I am glad he is doing that.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi
My sister called me at some point and told me: either you come home before it gets dark or you should stay there and come tomorrow morning. I said: yes Mom. I told him what my sister said and he said that I should leave soon.
I was a tad disappointed that he didn’t try to talk me into staying, but I understand his reasons. While I would have no problem staying over it was too soon for that. My sister trusts my judgement so she had no worries about me going over and potentially staying over. For some reason her main concern was my driving in the dark.
We continue to text throughout the day and will see each other this Saturday. I will probably go over his house again. I rather go there and have him cook for me than to go to an expensive restaurant. I am changing.
He is the type that is more at home around a campfire than at the opera, so if there is any area that potentially could there be a disagreement it would be the choice of vacation and entertainment. I am open to do/try it all and he seems also, so eventually we will both be put through a test and see how our worlds mesh.
For now I am extremely happy to be getting to know him and seeing where this goes. I have made the decision not to look for potential problems. I am not messaging or dating anyone else at this point. He is not either. We both are excited and want to give this a fair chance.
All I know is that I like him a whole lot and I don’t really know how to tone myself down with things I love.
“The very essence of romance is uncertainty.” – Oscar Wilde