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disappearing acts, fun and flirty friends, online dating, online relationships, platonic relationships, reappearing acts, the fickleness of people
All continues to be crazy busy for me between work and having my mom and my brother’s girlfriend in town.
Mom turned 83 on May 1st. To celebrate it we went to Foxwoods and Mohegan Sun casinos. We didn’t win any money but didn’t lose much either. We had a lot laughs and great meals. All in all I will call it a winning 3 days.
As far as dating, things have been very quiet. With my mom here I prefer to dedicate my free time to her. I am so incredibly blessed to still have her around and since I only see her twice a year I want to make sure I am not wasting that time. She is leaving tonight so now I will find the time to meet a couple of guys waiting in the wings. I give them a lot credit for waiting around for this long. They will be rewarded with taking me to dinner 🙂 just kidding.
There is also the data architect from a previous post. He is so sweet keeping in touch and sending me pictures of mosaics as he encounters them in his daily travels. I am not sure there are any romance vibes but I think its thoughtfulness is worth a second date.
“We’re all islands shouting lies to each other across seas of misunderstanding.” – Rudyard Kipling
Then there was the widower that was so interested in me and begging me to give him a second chance after that faux pas of telling me he thought he spent too much on the first and second dates. He had been writing daily then all of a sudden went silent. I attributed that to the the fickle way some people are. I don’t want to say that is solely an internet dating issue but it seems to be easier for people to just disappear after meeting online.
Nothing surprises me anymore. That is the reason I am more guarded then ever when it comes to jumping into relationships. People are fickle. One day they love you, the other they found someone else. I don’t think he and I would have had a future, it is just disappointing when people just disappear with no explanation.
Then on April 29 I get a text from him:
I didn’t reply to that. I actually didn’t know what to say. At first I was annoyed that he chose to disappear and then all of a sudden come back with that. If you disappear, just stay away, don’t come back after 2 weeks to say good bye. Then I didn’t like that his text made it seem that I was the one more interested in him and he was breaking up with me. As far as I knew he was still trying to get a 3rd date.
I guess I could have said ” Best wishes”, but I didn’t. Now time has passed and I am indifferent about it, only mentioning it to keep you guys informed, in case anyone is keeping track of my boring dating life.
“Between what is said and not meant, and what is meant and not said, most of love is lost.” – Kahlil Gibran
Then there is my doctor friend that lately is being really friendly and wanting to hang out. He has started addressing me as love and sweetie and seems eager than usual to see me. I am going along with the terms of endearment. I enjoy the attention and love spending time with him but I wonder if there is more interest than just friendship.
We dated for a few months years ago. While the romance never blossomed, a beautiful platonic relationship flourished. I treasure the friendship we have and want to make sure it doesn’t get damaged. I don’t know at this point if I would want anything romantic with him. I did at some point and it seemed he was lukewarm about it, so things fizzled out.
We set a date to meet: Thursday night! We shall see. I guess a fun flirty friend is not a bad thing to have. As long as we are on the same page Thursday can be a lot fun.
Stay tuned…
“Never close your lips to those whom you have already opened your heart.” – Charles Dickens
Some times it is best to wait and see how things pan out. Have fun with friendship and see how it grows. Nice Read.
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It is hard for me to just wait and see, but I am trying to do that. I am trying to enjoy the moment and have no expectations.
Thank you for the wise words. Blessings! 🙂
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you’re welcome.. wishing best for you… hope to read more of you here 🙂
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I hope to have interesting things to write about 🙂
Thank you for the best wishes! Blessings!
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I think you are right, the message from that guy was weird. I think HE wanted to feel like “he” ended it. That’s my take on things, because he was being overly sappy! MOVE ON, don’t waste any more energy on him! Your knight in shining armour is coming!
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That was also my take on things. Even though he said nice things, it felt phony. I guess that is why I didn’t reply at all.
I hope you are right, at any rate I will continue searching for him and will continue writing about it!
Thank you for the positive thoughts! Blessings! 🙂
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Do you know Aesop’s Fable, “The Fox and the Grapes?” That guy was a good example of that fable. 🙂 Dating isn’t easy… you let some people down and some let you down. It’s like sales, you can’t take it personally just keep plugging along – Prince Charming is there and you’ll know it when he comes, because you’ve dated so many toads, that CLEARLY, he will stick out as a WINNER! 🙂
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I love this comment! Thank you so much!
I didn’t know that Aesop’s Fable. I just read it and it is so true. I think this is indeed a perfect example.
Thank you so much for the support and introducing me to this fable! Blessings! 🙂
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Of course, now when a man acts like this last one… you can think of the fox and the grapes and move on making no comment to him.. and feel sorry that he acts as he does! 🙂
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Indeed! I will never forget about the fox and the grapes now 🙂
Wishing you a blessed weekend!
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Do you think it would be better if you just let him go and just walk away from him and his drama? He could do all that all over again, you know. 😦
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I crave excitement and oftentimes I mistake drama for excitement, so I keep going back to it. I also believe in redemption and second chances. In this case he is already history. Moving forward and onward.
Thank you and many blessings! 🙂
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You’re welcome. Sometimes, we’re given a tough choice. To follow our heart or our mind, we just gotta go with what makes us happy. 😊
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Amen! 🙂
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I would reply “thank you”. He said a lot of nice things about you. He could have been thinking things over during the two weeks.
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Yes I should have thanked him right away. But by now I just feel I should let it go instead of reaching out to just say thank you.
Thank you for the always wise words! Blessings! 🙂
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Hang in there, Ana, and enjoy your mom while you can.😘
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Always!! Thank you Pam! Blessings! 🙂
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And to you, Ana. 😘
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Thank you! 🙂
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Good to hear your “voice” again. I missed you but so happy you are able to spend time with your mom. I hope her trip home was uneventful.
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oh Patricia, thank you so much!! It is good to be missed.
I just spoke to Mom and she is already happy and safe at home, thank you!
I just got the Florida Fiction Series. No time to read in Brazil, but now and here I can go bad to reading before bed.
Blessings! 🙂
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I so very much appreciate your support! Good luck on Thursday date (I think?).
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You are welcome and thank you! The date went well…I just wrote about it 🙂
Wishing you a blessed weekend! 🙂
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Just reading about it!
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I love casino gaming. Oh yes, not losing is winning indeed !
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Hi Carl
Yes, they are fun, and even better when we come home with some money left.
I hope you get to go often and always come home a little richer.
Blessings! 🙂
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