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always hopeful, forever looking, match.com, Mr. perfect for me, not cancer, oncologist, plenty of fish, pof.com, too demanding
Test’s result: It is negative! The biopsy results are in and there is nothing to worry about. The minor surgery is healing well. I won’t have to see this doctor for another year. All in all I am glad my doctor referred me to this specialist. He was great! Easy to talk to, explains everything in detail, really made me feel at ease, even thought he was teaching yet another medical student. The silver lining: In the process of doing the biopsy he corrected and cleaned up my cervix. He said: “ You can now resume normal activities” …and resume I shall (as soon as I find the one I am willing to have activities with 🙂 )
New Tenant: Again I have an older lady as a tenant. She is very nice. As faith would have the day before my tenant is set to move in there is a leak from the apartment upstairs and part of the bedroom ceiling falls off. The silver lining is that there was no furniture so nothing other then the ceiling was damaged. Now on to fixing it and trying to collect from the lady upstairs. Being a landlord is not easy.
Olympics: I already miss the Olympics. I am happy that all in all the Olympics worked out. In the beginning I feared it wasn’t even going to happen so I am glad that one way or another Brazil pulled it through. Relieved is a better word! I love the world coming together is a competitive and fun atmosphere. I love the triumph of the spirit, the giving their all to something.
US Open: It is US Open time again. Every year I go to the Opening Night Ceremony. I loved how they showcased the new roof at the Arthur Ashe Stadium. Apparently everyone was on to what was going to happen, except me.
My Doc friend went with me. I was going on and on about the roof being closed on such a beautiful night. And then as Phil Collins started singing “In the Air Tonight” the roof started opening up. I was in awe like a child looking up, both marveled and surprised.
Visitors from Brazil: My brother, his girlfriend, her brother and his wife, and a cousin are coming to NY on September 9th to stay for 2 weeks. Only my brother and his girlfriend will stay at my apartment, but they will all go together on all the outings. I will take a few days off to take them around. It should be fun playing the tour guide.
Match. com: I am still on POF, but decided to also try Match. So far I have met in person 2 guys. They were really great, but there was not really any chemistry. I am seriously thinking that, even though, I am on 2 sites looking for a partner, I don’t really want anyone. Am I too demanding? Is that masking a secret fear of getting hurt again? Am I not willing to share my space, time and energy? Or perhaps it is just not the right time.
The first guy I met was a widower of just one year. I think he just spoke a little too much of his late wife. I don’t think I want to compete with a dead wife. I don’t think that he is ready for dating, even though he said he had already dated someone for 3 months.
The second guy was younger than me by 5 years, handsome, great job. I just think that he lacked a little motivation. He said he would never travel alone or do anything alone. I do everything alone. I feel like he is waiting for a woman to come and rescue him and tell him what to do. Even though I am bossy, I am tired of it. I don’t want to rescue anyone. I want to be rescued for once.
The truth is I didn’t feel like kissing any of them. It may seem superficial but chemistry it is a big deal to me. It has to flow. It is not about looks, it is about how someone moves me and makes me feel.
If the chemistry is there, then we can see about the rest.
At this point in my life I don’t feel like wasting time and energy and hope on someone that I feel I will have to force and make a relationship fit. I believe that when the person, time and energy is right it will just naturally work.
“Let nature take its course. By letting each thing act in accordance with its own nature, everything that needs to be done gets done.” ~” Lao Tzu
R. Leckey Harrison said:
Pay attention to that chemistry!
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A Star on the Forehead said:
Hi Leckey, Chemistry has got my attention! I feel the sparks that I feel or don’t feel is my instinct guiding me to the right person and away from the wrong ones. But then again it could all just be I am searching for lust and not love, oh well … I will continue my search. Thank you and blessings to you! 🙂
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ksbeth said:
yay, great news! and i’m on match too )
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A Star on the Forehead said:
thank you! oh You are? What is your experience so far? I have been on e-Harmony, Plenty of Fish and now Match.com, and so far I think they are pretty much the same, it takes effort, patience, research, humor and willingness to continue to be online dating, but still I enjoy it and I appreciate the possibilities. Blessings!
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DavidTheEntertainer said:
How are you finding Match?
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A Star on the Forehead said:
I feel all online dating sites are all the same. I have tried eHarmony, POF and Match and have found great people but also tons of jerks and fake profiles. At the end of the end it is important to be careful and aware. Wishing you the best! Blessings! 🙂
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DavidTheEntertainer said:
Thank you! I sadly have found much more of the latter. It’s a very superficial dating process.
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A Star on the Forehead said:
It is superficial indeed, but still I am grateful for the availability. I get to meet people from all walks of life, that otherwise I wouldn’t meet. What is the alternative? I guess I can join a gym, book clubs, church, etc. The key is to live and to things you love and hopefully meet people with the same interests. I do need new friends and plan on taking classes and doing other things to meet more people, of all genders. Best of luck to us all! 🙂 Blessings!
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DavidTheEntertainer said:
Good luck with your hunt for new friends. I am sure you will find plenty.
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A Star on the Forehead said:
It is not that easy, or perhaps I am not going about the right way. Thank you and many blessings! 🙂
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DavidTheEntertainer said:
How are you going about it?
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A Star on the Forehead said:
I am waiting for them to knock on my door! lol no, not really, but I am not doing as much as I should. I want to take classes, join clubs, do activities I enjoy and in the process meet people. For now online dating seems to be my only outlet. It is sad I know!
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ksbeth said:
Interesting)
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DavidTheEntertainer said:
I try my best to be interesting lol.
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A Star on the Forehead said:
I think you often succeed!
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DavidTheEntertainer said:
Why thank you.
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A Star on the Forehead said:
My pleasure! I speak the truth!
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davidprosser said:
I’m so glad to hear about the biopsy results. Good luck with Match.com, I’m sure you’ll find someone out there who’s just right.
xxx Huge Hugs xxx
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A Star on the Forehead said:
Hi David
Thank you so much! So far I cannot complain, I do get dates and some are very nice gentlemen, but still not the right fit. I do enjoy the search, and will keep going until he arrives! Many hugs and blessings to you! 🙂
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utesmile said:
That is good news, and I am happy for you. Keep dating and enjoy getting to know men more….. 🙂
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A Star on the Forehead said:
Hi Ute,Thank you so much. I am enjoying the dating, making new friends and getting to know more about me and what I want and don’t. It will happen and I will be ready when it does! Many blessings! 🙂
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kindredspirit23 said:
I have to say it, “If you really need someone to resume activities with…” well? What can I say? I would volunteer. But, we have become such good friends that…oh well. I will still remain that wonderful friend.
Hey, I am on POF, too. You might try Okcupid. It has been pretty good.
I have been doing a lot of changing in the last couple of years, but those two have remained with me.
Scott
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A Star on the Forehead said:
Ha, you are a sweetheart! OKcupid is next on my list. I hope your holiday was fun! Have a blessed week! 🙂
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kindredspirit23 said:
🙂
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Vanessence said:
Woohoo! Praise the Good Lord that the results were negative!
I hope you have a wonderful visit with your brother and his family, that seems like it should be a lot of fun!
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A Star on the Forehead said:
Praise the Lord indeed! It will be tiring but it will be fun! Have a blessed week! 🙂
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Roxie said:
Good for you, chemistry is important! Never lower your standards, you will regret that. But of course that goes for everything in life. Trust yourself, treat yourself well and you will attract others who will do the same.
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A Star on the Forehead said:
Hi Roxie, I am sorry for the delay in acknowledging your comment. Very well put, I will attract what I am putting out. That is a good reminder to treat myself nice in actions, words and thoughts! Thank you and many blessings! 🙂
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DavidTheEntertainer said:
POF is awful but match isn’t much better! Many meanies out there!
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