“Maturity, one discovers, has everything to do with the acceptance of ‘not knowing.” – Mark Z. Danielewski
Life is flying by while I try to hang on and get things done…in the meantime my blog suffers in silence, and for that I am sorry and will try to be much better in 2016.
Audit at work: Still not finished. It is a struggle for me to live with unfinished things such as this. I like to know when things will end, and how will they end. How audits on a company of 15 people take 4 months is beyond me. Government at its best!
Family: It is hard being far from my family at this moment. Mom and dad aren’t young anymore and right now they have a lot of health issues. I am learning to live with the fact that things will probably get even harder. I am learning to accept the natural progression of life.
“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” – Lao Tzu
Christmas Spirit: I have never really been a Christmas person. I normally don’t fly to Brazil to be with my family around the holidays. I either spend it with friends or alone. And just between us, I often favor being alone, making some nice comfort food and watching a fun movie.
Now for the kissing and telling:
It turns out that the kissing improved… a lot! I realized that he was just so nervous around me on the first 2 dates. I also realized that finding fault with his kiss is my way of finding something wrong and therefore an excuse to run away.
I decided to make more of an en effort. I decided to be less critical and more open. I am trying not to sabotage this relationship. I am trying to let things be and go and flow as they will. Still at times I catch myself testing him, trying to push him away. It feels like I could say or do anything and he will still be here, it is such a wonderful freeing feeling.
This relationship is extremely new, just a month old and yet it feels like forever. We have only seen each other a handful of times. We continue to speak for a couple of hours every night. Our conversations range from events of the day to childhood memories. I find myself telling him stupid stories that I have never told anyone. It is so easy to talk to him. He makes everything seem easy.
We are very similar on our morals, wants, needs and dreams, but still we are extremely different on so much more. He is shy, I am out there. He is gentle, I am aggressive. He is Pisces, I am Aries. He is Monkey, I am Horse. My brutal honesty and in your face approach doesn’t scare him. He says he is up to the challenge. I wonder if he knows what he is in for. I wonder if the novelty will wear off.
He is thoughtful and remembers things I tell him. Like when I said that my favorite flowers were daisies and sunflowers and he shows up with them.
I have already met his 8 year old son. It was a short meeting and it went well. I also already met his co-workers. I went to his work Holiday dinner, it was fun and everyone was welcoming. At the end of the December I am going to North Carolina to meet his best friend. Perhaps it is all a bit too fast, but I figure that knowing the important people in his life will give me a better idea of who he is.
It feels wonderful to have someone that cares and is not afraid to say it and show it. It is refreshing to meet someone that is not into all the dating games people play. He says what he means and means what he says.
I feel I found that rare combination of friend and lover all in one. The possibilities seem limitless. My heart is constantly singing.
He had just started online dating when I met him. I had given up, contacting him was my last act before taking down my profile. When he replied and we clicked it felt nothing short of a miracle. At times I feel he hasn’t been out there enough. His divorce was final in March and he was separated a year before that. When I tell him that he should do some more dating to figure out what he wants, he tells me that he has already found what he wants and doesn’t need to do any more searching. I shut up and smile.
“To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow – this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.” – Elizabeth Gilbert