I have been procrastinating planning a skiing trip since the beginning of December. I finally realized why. I have been waiting! I have been waiting for the right time, the right location, the right weather, the right price, but most important and most disturbing to me, I have been waiting for company, for someone. I have been waiting for a miracle in the form of a person.
I have been waiting for someone to step up and say: I want to go skiing with you! I had this crazy idea that by now I would have met someone, not to love me, but just to ski with me. No such luck! Well, perhaps the luck is in not finding someone and to have to face certain truths.
It has been a daily thing. I get up motivated thinking today is the day that I will make decisions as far as my trip is concerned. I start researching places and dates and all of a sudden it all seems too much and I let it go. I keep coming up with excuses:
Excuse #1: It is too much money! Truth: I am a wise spender and like to indulge on this I love such as skiing trips and massages. Plus I have been saving for it!
Excuse #2: It is not the right time to be away from work. Truth: There never seems to be a perfect time to be out of the office. I have done it many times before and everyone survived.
Excuse #3: I am sure the moment I plan something I will meet someone and the plans will conflict. Truth: It could or it could not happen, but waiting for it is dumb. If I meet someone, they can either fit in my plans or they can wait until I am done with my plans.
“Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone”
― Pablo Picasso
I have been guilty of doing something that, a long time ago, I had vowed never to do: To wait for someone to do something with or to get something done. Shame on me! I should and I know better! I have done so much alone, with no issues or problems. It is time to get back to that fierce independence, and just get out there and do it!
My beautiful (she is my identical twin lol) and wise sister said to me today: What is going on? You always went on trips alone and you always had a lot fun! Stop making excuses!
My advice to you and at the same time to me is: Don’t wait until tomorrow and, most important, don’t wait for others! Start living the life you want now! All it takes it a first step! Embrace yourself, embrace now! (Are you listening Miss Blessed?)
The right time is now! The right person is you! You alone are enough! If it needs to be done, needs to be done now! If you want to experience something, try something new, a new sport, a new craft, whatever it is, start now!
What do you want to accomplish? Look into your heart, I am sure there is at least one thing you want to do or try. Can you imagine if you had already started it last week, last month, last year? So don’t waste any more time!
Don’t wait until you lose weight to wear the clothes you like, to take a trip, to go on dates. Life doesn’t wait for anyone. Life is going by while we make excuses not to live it. Life passes while we make plans or, worse, plan to make plans. So instead we just watch life, we watch others all around us, we watch it on TV. We make ourselves busy with nothing, instead of getting out there and doing something.
As soon as I post this blog, I will get focused on finalizing my trip details. I am still all over the place, from flying to Utah at the end of January to renting a car and driving to Vermont in February, but I have faith that by Friday I will have it all set!
“Today is a new day. Don’t let your history interfere with your destiny! Let today be the day you stop being a victim of your circumstances and start taking action towards the life you want. You have the power and the time to shape your life. Break free from the poisonous victim mentality and embrace the truth of your greatness. You were not meant for a mundane or mediocre life!”
― Steve Maraboli