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extra sensitive people, feeling creative, it is art and not real life, learning to be less impulsive, mosaic glass tiles, the unnamed woman
I love, love, love this piece. It came out of nowhere. This is a piece that makes me feel that I do have a creative bone in my body.
As I was organizing some glass pieces for another project a saw this face materialize in front of me. I abandoned what I was going to do and decide to finish the face.
The same day at the studio, there was a woman that I often see there. She has been doing mosaic for years, and does commission pieces.
She is always talking, always having fun. We have a good time together. On that day she was quiet and gloomy. She was not her usual self. She said that there was not a specific reason, she was just having an off day.
It was definitely a different energy with her being so quiet. I was trying to make jokes and cheer her up.
For some reason the tiles in front of me made me think of her. Perhaps the pained, sad look and the short hair. I announced that I was naming the piece after her.
She was so happy. I could see glimpses of her usual self returning. She said that there was never anything named after her, and she was over the moon.
Fast forward a couple of weeks. I was at the studio working on this project and another woman heard that I had named this piece after her friend.
She said: “It doesn’t look like her.” I said: “I know. It is not supposed to look like her. It is just the idea of her.”
She appeared a bit annoyed, but didn’t say anything. Later on, she said, out of the blue: “People should be careful about naming pieces after people, specially since it doesn’t look like them.”
I said: “She knows and she is happy about it.”
She then said: “Sometimes people hide their feelings.”
What? I was so shocked with that statement. I said: “I am sorry you think that way. I will ask her about it. There is no way that I would do anything to hurt her or anyone.”
I was going to ask the woman herself about it, but then the studio closed for 2 months and I haven’t see her again. For now the piece is nameless. None of my pieces have names, but for some reason I feel this one needs it.
For now the name is “Happy Woman Having an Off Day”. I welcome ideas for a different name.
Since when the world got so sensitive? It is just a name on a piece. It is not a portrait, and not meant to look like the person. It is meant as a compliment, just a fun and nice gesture.
I feel her friend created an issue where there was none. But, I guess, I could be wrong. I have been wrong before 🙂
I have learned a lesson. Well, I am trying to learn the lesson. I am very impulsive, and often say what comes to mind. Naming the piece right then and there was an impulse. I can’t assume that everyone would be okay with that.
Toning myself down is hard. I was not intent in causing pain. But, as they say: The road to hell is paved with good intentions.
In the meantime, I had to hold back tears when the woman told me that I was perhaps insulting and hurting her friend. Who is the sensitive now?
“And why is it, thought Lara, that my fate is to see everything and take it all so much to heart?”
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