“I have suffered from being misunderstood, but I would have suffered a hell of a lot more if I had been understood.” ―
B and I texted back and forth on Thursday. We still seemed to be getting nowhere in text, and even later in a phone call. Sometimes I question if he is really understanding me.
We made plans the following day, Friday. We hoped that in person we could clear the air.
I went over to his house and he ordered Chinese food. But even before the food arrived, I had to start talking. He seemed to be content to just sweep everything under the rug and start over.
He got us a glass of wine and we proceeded to talk. Any conversation is better with alcohol 🙂
I like to talk things out and make sure to squash any problems, and prevent similar ones. To ignore issues would just postpone another argument down the road.
“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” ―
We talked a lot about our wants, needs, assumptions and expectations. Well, I talked a lot. He mostly listened and apologized. He said he got sad and angry that day. He said he would try to be understanding of my limited free time now. He apologized for making that evening end on a sour note.
Sometimes I don’t know if he is agreeing with me to just make me shut up, or if he is really agreeing with me. According to my zodiac sign, Aries, I like to pick fights, so I being aware of not prolonging any issues just because I like to debate things.
For now it seems that we are on the same page but, really, only time will tell.
We agreed to continue to talk things out, and make sure that we are vocal about what we want and need from this relationship. We agreed we are not mind readers, so we will be clear on our communication. Fingers crossed.
“Sweet, crazy conversations full of half sentences, daydreams and misunderstandings more thrilling than understanding could ever be.” ―
For now, it seems we are back in a good place. Tonight we will be going out to dinner to celebrate our 2 month anniversary. I realize the silliness of it, but I decided to celebrate anything I can.
“Set your life on fire. Seek those who fan your flames.” – Rumi