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dinner and a movie, feeling pressured to like someone, getting Christmas presents, Merry Christmas to All, not sure after 3 dates, West Side Story
“Do you want a good advice on your path? Here it is: Don’t be sure of your path! Don’t ever be sure of it! Do you want more advice? Here it is: Doubt your path! And examine the other paths, know the other paths!” ―
He didn’t disappear or ghosted. I didn’t cancel or run away. I made it to the elusive third date.
Because of timing, I had to decide on dinner or movie. I didn’t want to do both, I thought it would be too long. I chose movie. I have been eating too much and with more big meals to come, I figure I would just go with popcorn.
“Doubt everything. Find your own light.”
― Sayings Of Buddha
We saw West Side Story. Again, I was expecting more. Some people I know that had seen it, said they cried. I didn’t. I was more annoyed at the lack of common sense, but the movie rings true even nowadays, or perhaps even more so. And in that sense it is sad. We, as humanity haven’t evolved, we are becoming worst to each other.
At the end of the movie we walked back to my building, where he had left his car. He wanted me to walk to his car. I said I was not going. He insisted. I said ok but I am not getting in. He said you don’t have to.
“The fundamental cause of the trouble is that in the modern world the stupid are cocksure while the intelligent are full of doubt.” ―
Turns out he wanted to pick up Christmas gifts that he brought, not only for me but also for my sister. I was shocked and embarrassed. He said it is just something simple. I hope so. I got him nothing, but ordered a book now.
He also brought my sister, white pine needles for her to make tea. Apparently it has many benefits, including improving the immune system.
He texted now asking me out for Sunday. He wants to meet during the day, has a couple of fun ideas.
“Expressing doubt is how we begin a journey to discover essential truths.” ― Dead Toad Scrolls
I meet a guy that seems perfect. He is a gentleman, spiritual, handsome, interested in self growth, funny, family oriented, plan dates, open car doors, pays for everything, etc, etc. So why am I hesitating? Why am I so unsure?
His only apparent flaw as of now: liking me too much!!
Since I didn’t post this yet, and it is now Christmas morning and we have already opened our gifts, here is what he got for us:
My sister got a beautiful candle above and I got an assortment of bath salts, mango scented scrub and a special Greek oil. Plus chocolate. He tried to hit all my favorites.
“In these times I don’t, in a manner of speaking, know what I want; perhaps I don’t want what I know and want what I don’t know.” ― The Letters of Marsilio Ficino, Vol. 3
I hope you guys are having a beautiful, peaceful and joyous Christmas! Blessings to us All!
Merry Christmas!

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Thank you Cindy!
I hope yours was beautiful as well!
Blessings!
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Thoughtful guy, and included your sister – bonus. I sense that you are lacking excitement about future dates possibly because you think there should be warning flags and you aren’t seeing any.
One option you could consider is simply setting up parameters for dates for the next two months that you would feel comfortable with such as one a week or two maximum in ten days. Sending you warm wishes as I make mmmm sounds while enjoying my pecan pie and tea. – ♥ – David
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Hi David,
Thank you for the advice. I will probably do something like that.
My hesitation is the lack of chemistry. I am waiting to see if it grows, but it doesn’t seem something we can manufacture.
Pecan pie – yummy!! Enjoy!
Blessings!
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Blessed! That’s just how Christmas is Ana! Enjoy! Sending you love and blessings
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Thank you so much Cassa! And to you love and blessings as well!
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How wonderful is this! Merry Christmas, Ana! 🤍
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Thank you Stacy!
And I found out that the scrubs he made himself with scents that I had mentioned 🙂
Many blessings to you!
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Enjoy the journey darling Ana. Those are extremely thoughtful gifts. It’s normal to be hesitant, but you know that time will reveal all, so relax and enjoy. Much love to you and many blessings! 💖
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Thank you Barb!
Indeed only time will tell. I will try to enjoy the moment and not focus on the future so much!
Blessings and love to you as well!
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You are welcome lovely. I’ve been there! Just stay in today and watch it unfold. 💖
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I hope you had a beautiful Christmas!💝
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Thank you Luisa, It was!
I hope yours was as well!
Blessings!
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🙏🌟🙏🌟🙏🌟🙏
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Last February, my girlfriend (who had many dates like you and was sad), had a guy come into her life. Again, like you, she wanted the MAJOR chemistry. While it wasn’t there, she did enjoy his company, he makes her laugh, etc. Like your guy, he was moving fast too, in a month, he wanted to get married. We are in our 50s… how slow do we need to go? We could die of COVID tomorrow, right. ANYHOW, back to my girlfriend. In November they were in France, he proposed marriage. Now she is VERY HAPPY and they are engaged. Oh, he’s 5 years younger. Anyhow — I think you should feel blessed that someone came in your life for Xmas…. he slid right in. If you need to take things slower, do so. There is that saying that we PRAY for someone to come in our life. When he comes, we say, “Wait, not now, why so fast…” You get the idea. Follow your gut instinct. You had 3 dates that was nice. You end the year strong. WOW – what will you do for New Year’s?
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Hi Monica,
Funny you mention we could die of Covid…I just tested positive for it 😦
One minute I am busy packing to go away, the other I am busy looking for medications to take away the pain.
I do feel blessed about so many things, and I am willing to give my date another couple of dates, but if the chemistry, or lack of it, remains the same I cannot continue.
My New Years plans have been canceled. He was not a part of it. Now I am just staying at home, and making the best of it.
Blessings to you! May you have a grand New Year’s Eve! Many blessings in 2022♥♥
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Oh boy, many people testing positive, but they have regular sniffles/cold symptoms nothing major. Hopefully, you are like this. Take care of yourself, everything should be fine. I’ll be home for New Year’s, I don’t mind. We can see the Fireworks in NY and around the world at 9 pm. LOL
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Yes, so many people have it now. I think I will have a couple of more miserable nights but that is it.
I think home is one of the best places to on New Years!!
Thank you Monica! Blessings! ♥♥
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Curious… do you have normal cold like symptoms, runny nose, headache, sore throat, heavy chest?
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I mostly have lack of energy and body aches during the day and sore throat at night. Every now and then I get a hint of a headache with minimal coughing ( a couple of times a day and night). I am hoping this is the worst and it is on the way out. I consider myself lucky!
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Those are the same symptoms I have been hearing from other people. I do think those are the worst if you’ve been vaccinated. My girlfriend is a nurse, the people who were not vaccinated are ending up in the hospital. So, rest, drink water… you know the drill. Get well. Good that it is a holiday tomorrow.
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Maybe you are nervous because of many things. Partially because you’ve been burned and burned by other dates with other men. Also no one is perfect. Everyone hides their flaws at first. It seems he is pretty great. He may be. And he may not be. You are being so smart in being cautious about all of it. I need to learn from you! I’m working on it! Try to enjoy the process of getting to know him and he getting to know you. There will be things that you have to decide if they are worth the price of admission, a la Dan Savage.
He may be pretending to be someone he isn’t like GQ was because he likes you so much. But maybe not! Maybe you will find love with him. I hope so. 😉
Love, Scarlett
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Hi Scarlet,
You are correct, I have been burned before, so I am now extra cautious. I had someone that promised the world before and it was all an illusion.
I know there are no guarantees, but I need to follow my gut. Also, the chemistry needs to be on point, and it is lacking. I am enjoying the dates and giving it a chance to see where it will go.
I need to look up Dan Savage. He seems like a wise man!!
Blessings to you, and thank you for the insight! ♥♥
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Oooo I didn’t know chemistry was lacking. That’s huge. Yes Dan Savage is interesting. He has a sex column but I got one of his books from the library that had relationship stuff. Monogamish maybe? He has some cool ideas.
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added him to my book list 🙂
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Love your pen game, merry Christmas
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Happy Holidays 💌
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Thank you Eliza! Sending you hugs, blessings and love for the New Year! ♥♥
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You know I’m on a blog break but I had to check in to see what was up. OK so I’m a little like you too like too good to be true? But splendidly deliciously Divinely spoiling you which I so love 💕 I
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Hi Cindy,
I feel honored that you took a break from your break to check in.
He is turning out to be indeed a great person, but the chemistry is not what I would hope for. We shall see the next few dates.
Enjoy your break!!❤❤
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Thank you for sharing!!..it seems to me he is taking command of your time and life, perhaps trying too hard and if there is no chemistry you may have to sit down with him and have “the talk” to give you space, time,etc… if that doesn’t work for him, it is best to know it now before it gets too awkward… 🙂
Hope it all works out for you, have a Happy New Year and until we meet again…
May the dreams you hold dearest
Be those which come true
May the kindness you spread
Keep returning to you
(Irish Saying)
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I think you are right. I was going to have a talk with him, but had to cancel the date, and now I am sick, so I am not sure when we will see each other. I already mentioned some of it on the phone, but want to have that the whole conversation in person!
Wishing you a blessed 2022! Thank you for 2021! 🙂
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Hope you get to feeling much better, there is new year filled with adventures waiting for you!… have the mostest wonderful new year ever filled with happiness!.. 🙂
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Couldn’t post on the latest posts…. they say the vaccines are not 100% even with the booster, perhaps in your adventures you ventured into an area where the virus was present, could be anywhere…. take care…. 🙂
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Hi Larry,
I see your comments. I am just behind in replying to them, and they don’t show up to the public until I reply.
That is the nature of adventures, chances are taken, the virus got me this time. But I am down, but not out.
Stay tuned for new adventures, dating and otherwise 🙂
I hope you continue to be healthy! Blessings to you!
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Thank you Larry for the awesome wishes!
I wish you the same, and I hope many more wonderful blessings shows up at your door!!
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