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“Truth is the offspring of silence and meditation. I keep the subject constantly before me and wait ’til the first dawnings open slowly, by little and little, into a full and clear light.”― Isaac Newton
I am going to start by apologizing. First, I didn’t have a chance to finish the post about going on the date with The Enigma, so that draft went to the trash. It was all about expecting without having expectations. Second, this post, about finally going on the date, will be a rush job.
The date was on Friday at The Rambling House in the Bronx. We met outside on the street. He was parked in a no parking zone waiting for me so he could direct me where to park. He exited his car with a big bouquet of flowers for me (pic below). I gave him a hug.
I was so surprised. I didn’t expect flowers at all. In hindsight I should have since he is very romantic and such a gentleman. I was also surprised that he knew that I was not a roses kind of girl. My favorite flowers are sunflowers and daisies, and any yellow flowers. It had 3 beautiful sunflowers in the bouquet. He said roses are too predictable.
He also brought me a book. “Living from The Soul – The 7 Spiritual Principles of Ralph Waldo Emerson” by Sam Torode. He said he bought one for him also. I joked that we will have a mini book club now. Pic below.
From there I followed him in his car. He pointed to a space and said I should park there and walk to the restaurant because it would probably take him a little bit to find another space. He still got to the restaurant before I did.
He was wearing glassed and smelled nice. He was casually dressed in khakis and a flannel shirt. I was surprised how happy and smiley he was. His pictures had him always so serious and mysterious.
“A gentleman is someone who does not what he wants to do, but what he should do.” ― Haruki Murakami
He was not fat, but heavier than his pictures. I had already expected that since he had told me that he hasn’t been able to exercise since his leg injury. And as a side note he had a hospital bracelet on. Not from last week’s trip to the hospital. From just that morning. He fell in the middle of the night as he attempted to navigate a spiral staircase in the dark in flip flops. An ambulance had to be called. He said that he would go to this date even if he had to crawl.
We had a great time. The conversation flowed. He had a cider and I had a cosmo. A girl passed around offering free beer but we both declined. He is Irish but not much of a beer drinker. He had the turkey and I had the salmon. We shared a cheesecake for dessert.
I am not sure how much he tipped but the 2 waitresses came back 3 times each to the table to say thank you. I asked him and he just said he is a good tipper. Another point for him. I dislike bad tippers.
He held my hand and told me how beautiful I was and how great I smelled. He made me feel beautiful, special and safe.
“The gentleman is dignified but not arrogant. The small man is arrogant but not digified” ― Confucius
The date lasted about 3 hours. I could tell his leg was hurting him, so I suggested we go. We said goodbye at my car door with a quick hug and a peck on the cheek near the lips. Everything was very easy and comfortable with him.
We are going on a second date on Wednesday. It is my turn to choose where to go, so we will probably stick to my neighborhood so I don’t have to drive.
On Thursday he is going to travel to a couple of different countries for business. He said he will be in touch every day but we shall see how that will go.
I have many questions about one of his businesses and his overseas traveling. I don’t want to imply that it is something shady but it is just so foreign and mysterious to me. He already mentioned a lot to me and says I can ask whatever questions I want, but at this point I am not even sure what questions to ask.
At one point I told him that his stories seem fake, about the war, etc. He laughed and didn’t get offended. He knows I will say what comes to mind and as I see it.
For now I am taking it all in slowly. I am enjoying his attention. The future seems so full of promise. But we all know that I have been here before, so I am proceeding with caution.
“If people just took it a day at a time, they’d be a lot happier.” ― Richard Bachman
Enjoy each day as it comes as there is no days are the same, no do-overs. The flowers are so lively and full of positive energy. Blessings to you Ana!
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Thank you Cassa for the reminder to treasure each day! ♥♥
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How exciting! Can’t wait to hear what happens on the next date!
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It is 🙂
Second dates are normally make it or break it, so we shall see…
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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I liked the flowers choice, and the book choice. How intriguing so far. I have so many questions but I am biting my lip. LOL Thanks for sharing, my vote is for Asian food, do have one of those japanese restaurants where you take off your shoes outside the little room and there are sliding walls? It will be informative I think when you meet his friends. 🙂
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Hi Dave
I think we may still be a long way before I meet his friends 🙂 Thank you for holding off the questions for now. I have been asking a lot questions but there are still so many more to ask.
I want Asia food also!! I have never been to those that I need to take my shoes off. I think those are the ones you have to sit on the floor. That would not work for him now with an injured leg.
I have no Japanese or Chinese within walking distance. Near me I have plenty of Mexican, Colombian, Peruvian, Italian, Indian, American restaurants. Still no sure what I will choose.
Thank you for the suggestions and wishing you many blessings! ♥♥
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Holding out hopes for the best!
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Thank you Pam!
Blessings! ♥♥
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🙏🥰
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Interesting read
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I had a date once and the man brought a bouquet of flowers for me. I was perplexed, but he said that’s what a gentleman does. I’m excited for you and intrigued how this will turn out. xxx
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This guy also said that is what gentleman do. Still surprising for a first date, and a whole bouquet 🙂 I am intrigued also 🙂
Blessings! ♥♥
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Hi, sorry I haven’t replied in ages, hope you are well, you seem happy and that date was very promising, I will catch up with your earlier blogs over time, work just super busy, Loved hearing how things were going xxxx
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Hi Lilly
I am glad to see you here. Don’t worry about catching up with earlier posts. You have not missed anything lol
The more things change for me, the more they remain the same.
Blessings to you! ♥♥
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And to you dear xx
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