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all in a day's work, another day another dollar, being nice always, brokerage world, fighting at work, not holding any grudges, work issues
Some of you may wonder what happens in a small office when there is a big blow up as the one I had the other day with that co-worker. Or specifically what is happening in my office right now.
In this industry yelling and screaming among the brokers are normal and par for the course. Sometimes their arguments get so heated I fear one is going to hit the other. By the end of the day or by the next day they are speaking as if they are best friends.
Similar to them when I have any issues with any of the guys normally we are back to normal in a few days. The normal for this guy and I is tricky. He is a complainer and I don’t deal well with people that only complain and never has a positive thing to say about anything. He is not happy that I don’t allow him to brush his teeth in the kitchen sink and that he has to wash his own plate after lunch, among other things.
Our normal is just being cordial to each other. He is like one of those dogs that look inoffensive and cute. You let your guard down, you get close, you pet it and then it bites your hand off.
Time and time again I get bitten. Yet I never learn. Professionally and personally I don’t hold any grudges.
The ball is his court. But it seems that he will take longer to get over being called out for his behavior.
Yesterday when he needed something from me he asked one of the other partners to come and ask me. Later when he needed additional information he sent me messages via chat.
Today I walked in and there was a note on my desk (pictured at the top). I blocked the client’s name on it. It is childish of him to avoid speaking to me, but it is so expected. It would have been classier and more gentlemanly if that was a note of apology but I don’t believe he ever said “I am sorry” in all his life. I am sure that writing “pls” almost killed him.
I want to know what he is going to do next time he needs something personal notarized or scanned. Well, I know what will happen, he will come and ask. And I will do it because I don’t know how to say no. If I can help, I help, no matter what.
I don’t get the boss involved. He has asked me to let him know if he needs to get him involved, but I rather fight my own battles. Plus he goes a bit overboard so I like to avoid that. I was glad he was not in the office when it happened.
“Give, but give until it hurts.” ―
Blessed with a Star on the Forehead 
A grown adult asking through a 3rd person in my opinion is a lack of maturity.
It’s like in junior high getting another girl to ask her friend if she is going to the dance.
Once again and I understand if you reject my unsolicited opinion but before he asks a favour let him know that your approval may be withheld based on he meeting the same requirements imposed on everyone else.
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I accept all opinions and points of view. So keep them coming. It is just painful trying to talk to him and explain what the rules are and why I need him to follow them. Since he is being a child I just want to say: “Because I said so”. And I have used that line before when all else failed – they can’t really offer a counter argument to that.
Thank you and wishing you a blessed weekend! 🙂 ♥
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If you have not already had one, you may need to acquire a diploma of childhood education. 🤭 I am sorry you are dealing with kindergarten kids. 💚
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hahaha, good one and on point!
I do often feel like I am the mom trying to keep the unruly kids in line.
Thank you and blessings to you! 🙂 ♥
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Relationships in general are the second hardest thing to navigate secondarily only to one’s personal life.
I loved the Mother Teresa quote. This has to come though from a firm love, respect and steadfast commitment to one’s personal foundation and strengths.
From a personal perspective, I have found that by shifting focus from one’s negative behaviors and finding aspects of the inner or even outer world that we can be grateful for brings an eternal peace that is difficult to penetrate y one’s idiosyncratic dynamics of personality, which will never change by outside influence or pressure. Great article!
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Hi Dr.Thomas
Thank you for stopping by and for the great insight.
I am normally able to turn the other cheek and able to focus on the positive, but I had had enough of him so I blew up.
Focusing on something positive is a great advice. Anytime I feel myself getting sad or down I start making a mental gratitude list. I immediately feel better when I am reminded of all the blessings in my life.
Blessings to you! 🙂 ♥
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It is a hard concept to grasp, let alone practice. One does not have to be grateful for those that would be a jerk. Instead, if we shift focus to other areas we are grateful for, the weight of those stressful moments are not as pressing. Thank you for this post. It is a great reminder about ways to practice gratitude even in the work place. I look forward to reading more.
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I try to be grateful even for the jerks, because they teach us something. In my case I am being taught patience day in and day out and I still struggle.
I am a firm believe that everyone gets put in our path to teach us. Every event is a lesson, everyone is a teacher.
Shifting focus is a great tool and something that I need to be reminder of very often.
Thank you for giving me this awesome insight!
Blessings! 🙂 ♥
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I go about 3/4 that way. I love to help and do, sometimes too much. But, I am learning how to draw that line in the sand. Some don’t like it – I, um, don’t really care.
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