I did what I said I would never do! I signed up for e-harmony again! (Another wonderful thing about me: I allow myself to change my mind!!)
Even when you are no longer a member at e-harmony you still get emails from them with matches that want to get to know you, so one of them peaked my interest enough to want to check it out.
I have been casually dating someone, but he and I know this relationship is not going to get anywhere. He is a great guy, but the age difference and the different priorities in life are too much for us to overlook. Still we enjoy going out to dinner and sharing a bottle of wine every once in awhile.
This time e-harmony has been a very different experience then last time. I am still using the same profile I had but now I am getting many more matches and more of them interested in talking to me. So, so far quantity is good, as far as quality we shall see. I think it has to do with my being open to the experience and not just wanting to find someone to replace Ex.
I went on one date with a great guy at a great restaurant, great conversation, but no chemistry on my side. He wants a second date, but I said no. There was one date which was just weird (I will write about in an upcoming post). I have canceled 2 dates after I had already agreed on them, I really knew it wouldn’t work so I didn’t want to waste their time and my perfume. And I am exchanging emails with a few interesting guys, so to me this has been a success already. (talk about low expectations- lol)
I think everything in life is a question of timing. I believe in Divine Timing and I know that things will happen when they are meant to happen and if they are meant to happen. The worst that could happen to me is that I end up alone, and that, I have to tell you, is not bad at all because I adore my own company! 🙂 But with that being said, I think having a partner is much more fun. So, until Divine Timing happens and that amazing guy knocks on my door, I will play Master of my own Destiny and use whatever tools I have at my disposal to look for that special someone.
I enjoy the fact that with e-harmony I am able to meet people from all walks of life.
Please don’t understand this post as an endorsement for e-harmony or any other online dating. I am just saying that it works for me as a distraction and it helps me feel that I am in control (there I go again with that illusion that I am in control of anything) of my dating situation.
And if you do decide on an online dating site, the key word is safety! I don’t give my phone number or address to anyone. If something feels weird I stop communication immediately. I listen to my gut!!
The moment I think a guy warrants a second date then that will be the end of my romance with Mr. Too Young (I told him about e-harmony). It wouldn’t be right or fair to anyone involved, and I am not one to be juggling men! Well I never tried, perhaps I could be a natural… just kidding!!!
In the meantime EX emails again persisting on letting me know he doesn’t understand why I don’t want to see him, and still professing his love for me. He is not talking about getting back together (not that I would, I just find it hilarious that he continuous to say that he loves me deeply while with a new girlfriend in his arms.) I no longer have the energy to try to explain it, so I just continue to say: no, thank you!
Peace!
good luck!
the key is to enjoy life and have fun and make optimal use of your perfume 🙂
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Thank you! You are right, enjoying life is a must!
Perfume is a good gauge of how I feel about someone or some event! lol
A Blessed weekend to you! 🙂
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I always tell my girls ( daughters )- live life fully, do things you love and romance will find you.
I will have to make a note about the perfume 🙂
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That is a great thing to teach/tell your girls!! They will probably understand the perfume thing when they are old enough – lol 🙂
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I hope they don’t know, but one’s in grad school and the other in art school so I suspect they do 🙂
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oh so we are not talking about little girls! lol They would probably be able to teach me a thing or two!! 🙂
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I love this post and have several things to say about it. One, I believe it is possible to find love in many different places. Once, when I was really young I went on http://www.plentyoffish.com and met a guy. We had a lot in common, started online dating, and actually flew to see each other. Our relationship was extremely innocent but we were loyal to each other and had a lot of fun getting to spend time in each others state/way of life. It def didnt work out but during that time in my life I did love him and I would not take the experience back. Trista and Ryan from the Bachlorette (one of the first seasons) are still married and together today with children. It CAN happen. Just like you said be as safe as you can..always meet in a public place until you feel confidant you can trust the person. It sounds like you know what you are looking for which is SO much more than the majority of women today know. Also, you clearly are able to be assertive and turn the other way if it’s not a situation you want. For that, you are inspirational! I wish the best of luck to you and from personal experience, you will find what you are looking for when you least expect it 😉
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Oh thank you so much! I agree with you, we just never know from where and when love will come from. I plan to be ready for its arrival – lol I like how you cherish your relationship from Plenty of Fish. Because a relationship ended it doesn’t mean it was not successful and meaningful in our lives. I think that having the faith that it can happen is half of the battle. I am not sure I know exactly what I want, but I definitely know what I don’t want.
Thank you so much for your great comment and support! A blessed weekend to you!
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Straight open post.I agree with your way of handling your your dates,but it would be wise to change the rules.Time goes and never come back.One bird at hand better than ten birds on the tree.The train stops but once otherwise it will leave for good.l wish you Heartily the best.jalal (please forgive me if i reacted so after reading the post)
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I have no problems in bending and even changing the rules. Perhaps I have been misunderstood, I am not sure what you mean with “One bird at hand”, I know what the saying means, but I am not sure how it applies to me.
As far as the train only stopping once, my counter/reply saying would be: “there is always another one after that!”
Please don’t ask forgiveness, I welcome and cherish all comments that come from a good place and I see yours does.
So thank you for the comment and a blessed weekend to you!
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“I think it has to do with my being open to the experience and not just wanting to find someone to replace Ex.”
I think this is so true. When you are ready, the right guy will appear. I like that you are in a place that is open, honest (with Mr. Too Young), and prepared to set boundaries (with Ex.) All good things. And if e-Harmony is nothing more than a distraction for a while, that’s okay too. Good luck!
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Thank you so much! You do get me!! Thank you for the supportive comment! A blessed weekend to you and the boys!! 🙂
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I have never tried E-Harmony, but have enjoyed some moments on Plenty of Fish. I still have my profile up there, but, unfortunately, not much has turned out from there. Of course, it could be “fortunately” that not much has turned out from there as bad experiences are just waiting to be found if you go looking for them. 🙂
I am glad you are doing so well and enjoying life.
Scott
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oh Scott you have to be more positive! If you think you are looking for bad experiences then that is what you will find!
Not enjoying this life God has given me would be a sin, so I plan on doing my part! 🙂
Many blessings to you! 🙂
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Loved this post! You go girl!
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Thank you so much!! Blessings! 🙂
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I tried eharmony when a few years back before I met my husband. I didn’t have much success, but I sure do have stories to tell about some of the dates. Some of them were hilarious. My girlfriends ask me to tell some of them over again because they are so funny. What it did for me is get me back in the saddle again after a failed 26-year first marriage. It’s weird to start dating again at the age of 50. My best to you as you embark on this journey.
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I meant to write when I “was 50.” Not you!
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hahaha Even though it seemed you were calling me “50” I knew what you meant! At any rate I am turning 47 at the end of the month, so 50 is around the corner!
I hope that after I am done with e-harmony I don’t have too many horror stories to tell, but I do like a funny story so I wouldn’t mind hearing yours.
A blessed weekend to you! 🙂
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Best of luck, you sound like you are well grounded and careful. I hope you are successful in meeting Mr. Right or at least a nice and interesting diversion.
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Thank Suzanne! So far it has been a very positive experience! Thank you fro the kind words! A blessed week to you! 🙂
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Go for it and enjoy life…..wishing you a fun time and best of luck. I also dated on line and I am going out with someone and I love it! Who knows where it leads to , I live for the moment! (at the moment) Best wishes!
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Thank you so much for the support!
It has been a very positive experience so far (even the one weird date!) this time around.
I am trying to live in the moment, although not successful at times. At my monitor at work I wrote: “Be here now!” I need constant reminders 🙂
I am so glad that you have met someone and all is going well!
Many blessings to you!
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” Be in love with your life, every minute of it” another lovely reminder to pin on the monitor, I got that on my desk. 🙂 Ute x
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That is a great one! thank you! 🙂
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I met my husband on the internet. Had to email a lot of frogs before I emailed my prince 🙂
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oh that is great to hear! Glad to hear that you found your Prince! I am very happy with the experience this time around, Frogs are bound to happen but I am no longer scared and grossed out by them 🙂
Many blessings to you!
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And you too 🙂 x
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Your writing is very inspirational. beebeesworld
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Thank you so much! Blessings! 🙂
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You are so right about timing. I believe that the right person comes along at the right time. Keeping yourself open and going on dates will bring someone special! In the meantime, I love reading your posts!
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Thank you so much Cathy!
Keep on reading…
Blessings!
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