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“If someone is able to show me that what I think or do is not right, I will happily change, for I seek the truth, by which no one was ever truly harmed. It is the person who continues in his self-deception and ignorance who is harmed.” ―
I haven’t gone on many dates lately, just a drink here and there. I am busy with work, and most of the guys I have been matched with don’t seem to be good matches for me.
Most guys are either too young or live too far. Some of the older ones are retired in Florida. I am not moving to Florida any time soon, or ever.
Then, there are the usual jerks. As an example, there was this one guy that asked if I was vaccinated. I said yes. He then replied:
“I need to be with someone who is intelligent enough to see through the narratives. Look at what they’re doing in Canada now. Martial Law.”
I was shocked. There is really no response to that. I just closed the chat.
This, to me, is not about being pro or against the vaccine, but about people being so judgmental, inflexible and unwilling to have a conversation about different opinions; or the assumption of a different opinion.
For the record: I don’t mind talking about the vaccine. I was vaccinated because I felt I had to. Once I got the 1 dose of JNJ, I felt it was the right decision for me at that point. I have not gotten the booster yet. I am still on the fence, leaning towards not getting it.
I got covid in December and I am still struggling with some remaining issues: heartburn, mental fogginess and anxiety. Would it have been worst without the shot?
“I am what I might term an unprejudiced sceptic. I am not given to either believing or disbelieving things ‘on principle,’ as I have found many idiots prone to be, and what is more, some of them not ashamed to boast of the insane fact.” ―
Moving on. Some of the guys that I am talking to and deciding if I am going to meet or not:
The hypnotist: I am afraid he will hypnotize me. I am scared he will turn me into a chicken or worse, make me believe I am so in love with him. Kidding/no kidding. He gave me his whole information and I checked him out. He is legit.
The very young and very cute: There are a couple of them. They are both in their early 40s. I am not. Is it worth meeting guys where the relationship will go nowhere? Probably not, but they have been so charming and, so far, saying all the right things.
The wordy accountant: I may meet this one on Sunday. I am not sure. He lives over an hour away, but says he doesn’t mind driving to my area. He is going on and on about the fact that he is looking for a long-term relationship and not a one night stand. Is he trying to convince me or himself?
“Potential requires exploration.”
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Tonight I am going to have drinks with someone I went on a couple of dates with, 5 years ago. I wrote about him in a couple of posts. He is the guy (widower) that I mention towards the end of this post:
What is so bad about being being positive?
It is just a drink to catch up. He was a nice guy, but reading back I realized that he kind of ghosted me. I am keeping an open mind. But I am doubly cautious about embarking in anything. I keep saying I want to make new mistakes…
“The past is never where you think you left it.”
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Blessed with a Star on the Forehead 
You are amazing friend. Hang in there!
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And you are so kind!! Thank you so much, and a blessed weekend to you!
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🤠🔥☕
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It is awesome that you choose who you will share your time with. I am glad it won’t the dope who believed it was martial law in Canada. LOL Unless you lived downtown Ottawa (three time zones away from me) then you didn’t blink. You dodged a bullet there.
I like the quote Potential requires exploration and that you are discerning and recognize potential or not. Good luck on having a fun night out with lots of laughs and a relaxing time – regardless of whether it leads past an occasional shared dinner or movie.
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Hi David,
I did dodge a bullet. I like when they show me their true colors right away, before I wasted any energy on him.
I am selective, my time is precious.
I hope your treatment was a success and you are doing well!
Thank you and blessings to you!
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The sun is shining through the clouds as I look out, and I can smell baking banana bread.
I will send you today wishes of sunshine and a baked treat. Thank you for remembering me. – David
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There is nothing better than the smell of baked goods! Thank you for the awesome wishes!!
You are never forgotten! ♥
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thank you.
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I am of the exact same opinion as you on the whole vaccine debate. I felt forced into it so I could get my depressed kids out of the house (which was short lived because they shut us down again multiple times despite 95% of Ontarions being vaccinated) and now I’m not getting the booster. Which doesn’t mean I won’t talk about it. It’s all about open dialogue and mutual respect, right? Sheesh…
I have nothing lined up for socializing with men because I feel vulnerable that they will confuse and hurt me so forget it. I’m staying in and staying low. I do have plans on Sunday though and I’m looking forward to those (but not with a man. Ha.).
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Hi Claudette,
It does sound so simple, doesn’t it: open dialogue and mutual respect. A little more of that in the world would go a long way.
Online dating can be brutal and not for the faint of heart, but there are the fun side too. I do think you are stronger thank you think, but don’t rush before you feel ready.
I hope you have fun on Sunday, no matter the companion.
Blessings!
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I cannot believe but not surprised that the guy’s response on vaccination status. I often think about it like the putting on sunscreen situation, how pathetic to insult someone just because they slap on a bit of sunscreen to prevent sun damage. 🌞
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Hi Cassa,
Exactly! Why have a provide with what someone decides to do with their own body, right?
Wishing you a blessed weekend!
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Good luck tonight.
Oh gosh on that Vax guy. I totally agree with you, why does one have to be so judgmental!
I think I would be afraid of the hypnotist as well.
Hang in there and sorry about the after effects that you still are having from Covid. Hope they get better!
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Hi Joy,
Thank you for seeing my way, and for the supporting words!
I do hope that the symptoms will eventually go away.
Tonight was fun, thank you! I will be writing about it next.
Blessings to you!
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You’re funny Ana. You’ve had more dates in this post than I’ve had in 10 years and you call it a lack of dating! I’m with you in wishing we could have conversations that embrace differences of opinion. I’ve noticed lots of people putting their vax stance on their profiles and making it a deal-breaker if you don’t agree with them. 🤥
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haha, What can I say, I enjoy meeting first dates lol
Some dating profiles now often includes something about Trump and/or vaccines (pro or con) being deal-breakers. I respect people’s stance in topics and just keep moving.
Blessings to you!
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I would have thought you are looking for guys closer to home and not get matches from another state. I had my age range and stuck to it…. up or down 5 to 8 years is ok, well for me. Yet it is up to you who you choose. There are strange guys there with firm beliefs. Good you just terminated the chat, specially if they don’t even tolerate other opinions. Not worth pursuing. Some people are so judgemental.
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Hi Ute,
I have my distance setting to just 5 miles, but if they run out of that than they start matching me with guys that are far. I guess I ran out of guys that are in my area. lol
As far as age, I have it 10 years either way, younger or older, but they do the same, and start matching me with a wider range.
I definitely want to be away of the people that are so judgmental, just not worth starting anything.
Wishing you a blessed week!
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Thank you for sharing!!.. I have had the vaccine and the booster and also wear a mask, if it will help me from getting sick, why not… to me it is the same as putting on sun glasses and a hat for the sun, raincoat for the rain, etc… don’t make a big deal of it but I haven’t been sick and I wake up on the green side of the grass every morning… there are many who cannot say that…. 🙂
Wish the best for you and your dating efforts, follow your heart, you won’t go wrong… Unfortunately there are many people out there that are “set in their ways” and adding to the issues in today’s world… 🙂
Until we meet again…
May your day be touched
by a bit of Irish luck,
Brightened by a song
in your heart,
And warmed by the smiles
of people you love.
(Irish Saying)
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HI Larry,
I agree with you! People should do whatever they are comfortable with. I am sick of masks, but I still wear when/if necessary and required.
Thank you for your good wishes! Blessings!
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I really enjoy reading your dating journey. I am going to be 61 in a couple months and date off and on. It’s really not all that fun anymore. We all have so much baggage at this age. It’s about what can we live with and what can’t we live without. I’m not sure I even want to get married again and that was my end goal. But it is difficult. As far as the vaccine discussion, I have a completely different take on it as my father died from the vaccine. It will be a year on March 29th. It was an agonizing 6 long weeks of watching him suffer.
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Hi Andi,
I am not too far off from you, and I agree, at this age we all have tons of baggage. I don’t know what I want and I also don’t want to put up with anything, which means that being single will probably be the right thing for me.
I can only imagine how you feel about the vaccine. I am really sorry about your loss! Sending you blessings!
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If the other dates didn’t lead anywhere, I think I’d go young and cute. Even if they don’t lead anywhere, at least they might be more fun 😂
I’m sure you’ll make the right decision, Ana, despite my nonsense 😊
Hope this weekend’s frog does actually have a “charming” side 😉 Good luck, Ana 🤞😊
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haha Charlie, you always offer the best and more fun advices!!
The weekend was fun and I will be writing about it shortly.
A blessed week to you!
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Good, I’m glad you’re having fun 😉
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I think vaccines are a personal choice, but I also understand the perspective of mandates (for the greater good, if you will). More importantly, as I think you imply, I respect others for their own opinions and perspectives, even if I don’t always agree with their reasoning. It means having the patience to listen, which is difficult for more people to do than I ever realized.
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Hi Dave,
Yes indeed, that is what I meant, respect! Not only having the patience to listen, but asking questions, and not assuming.
Sending you wishes for a blessed week!
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It struck me when reading this, wouldn’t it be awful if you lived with a spouse who was anti-vax or pro-Trump? Teddy and I are mostly in alignment with the important stuff in life but that would be a deal breaker for me.
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Hi Kerry,
I heard of people getting divorced over their political difference. It is tough meeting someone that is different minded, specially if they think they know better. I cannot imagine living with someone in such an environment.
A blessed week to you!
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I think this is why you really need to know your partner before getting serious. Small talk is not my forte so I just dive in – politics, religion and nothing off topic. I make it funny (I hope)…
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Wow! That’s an awkward conversation over vaccines 🙄. On my first date once, I was given a sermon over a vegetarian diet. Once I was told since I look tolerable, I must not be having any worries ( in reality I was lonely and miserable).
Ghosting is also used as a tool to punish women, esp. if in a guy’s mind, you become a threat ( either too funny, or talented or pretty). I hate ghosters..
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yes, anybody too preachy and know it all, is not for me. I am glad that they show me who they are right away, and I don’t have to waste any time finding out that they are not for me.
Blessings!
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A lot of people go younger. Catie Couric, her husband is at least 5 years younger. Singer Gwen Stefani and Blake Shelton, 9 years maybe?? My girlfriend’s fiancé, 6 years younger. Going younger is a good match. There’s the other actor from Australia, his wife is 13 years older, it works for them. Can’t think of this name… Movie Greatest Showman.
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Hi Monica,
I am often I am a better match for the younger ones, as I definitely act younger than my age. But as faith would have, it seems I am going for an older one now. Stay tuned, it will be coming on the next couple of posts.
Thank you and blessings to you!
oh, and that actor is Hugh Jackman
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Bingo — Hugh Jackman, yes, of course! I’m amazed at your energy to go on so many blind dates. Have you been working on a new mosaic? Interested to see what you come up with next. You always have creative ideas.
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I go through phases of wanting to go out and date, and then just staying put.
I am actually making a bird. I thought it was going to go fast, but I have so many little tiles that I have to cut by hand, it seems never ending. I think you will like it 🙂
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Oh, I LOVE birds, excited to see it!! It’s Spring, perfect for a bird to come alive and fly.
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I will try to hurry up and get finished 🙂
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LOL – An artist can never rush. Although, you might think of something for St Patrick’s Day. 🙂
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what a cast of characters you have under your belt Ana Star. The vac guy is a good one to avoid at all costs. you couldn’t make these stories up ! 💖
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Hi Cindy,
and I don’t even write about every guy
I could write a book lol
Blessings!
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I’ve been waiting for it darlin! 💖💖💖🙏🌈
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haha, you are the best!
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hahahah 💖💖🤣🤣
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I realize you posted this article a short time ago BUT I feel that there should be a rebuttal about your experiences.
First off I liked the article. You did not divulge your age which is a woman’s perogative.
I too had my three covid vaccines. I would rather get the needles in the arm than be intubated to help me breathe. I was on one daring site for seniors where a woman posted that she would NOT date anyone who was stupid enough to get the vaccine.
A person’s physical attractiveness does not always mean they are resposible for the consequences of their actions.
Its your life and your decision but date responsibly.
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Hi GC,
Thank you for the visit and comment!
I am a young 56 this month. It has been difficult navigating the dating sites nowadays, with some people being so harcore pro or opposed to vaccinations. In a way, I am glad that they show their true colors and how judgemental they are right at the start. It saves time and energy.
Always responsible! Good luck and blessings to you!
In a way, I am glad that some people say
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Yes, but you’re getting dates. I can barely get even a response on any dating site. I don’t get it.
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Yes, getting dates has never been problem. The problem has not been quantity, but quality. I am wishing you luck!
Blessings!
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My question is why are you cautious? Are you afraid of the relationship, or being hurt if it goes sour?
I feel you just need to be positive and go out with whoever you are attracted to. Who knows, it might work out well for you.
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Hi Jason,
Through experience I realize that a little caution, when it comes to my heart, is necessary. If you read my last experience you will understand better the need for caution.
Still, with that being said, I will ready to fall in love, be vulnerable and take a chance.
Blessings to you!
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