“Don’t answer the door in a wedding dress and veil, he might not think you’re joking.” – Amy Sedaris, I like You: Hospitality Under the Influence
Even though we had a great first date I didn’t want to expect too much from the second date. I am used to having great first dates and then either the guy disappears or he becomes someone else on the second date. I was cautiously optimistic.
We met at R Café and Tea Boutique in New Rochelle. It is cool little place near my apartment. I had a café mocha with a scone. He had a latte with a croissant. He pointed it out to me that the barista made a heart out of milk foam on my cup.
The message was not lost on us. We both believe in signs so a minor detail such as a heart in cup is to us message from the Universe. Color us fools wanting to be in love.
Similar to the first date we had fun. We talked, laughed and smiled a lot. I am still smiling. Again, he paid me a lot of compliments. He complimented my hair, my earrings, and again he oohed and aahed over how young looking he thinks my face is. At some point he also mentioned he needs to get new glasses, but we are not going to dwell on his poor vision now. Lol
“Tenderness is the repose of passion.” – Joseph Joubert, The Notebooks of Joseph Joubert
At one point I made a joke about not letting Trump divide us and he said: “No, that is a minor detail. We don’t have to talk about politics. I can talk about politics with other friends.” I still don’t know how I feel about that but I am willing to wait and see.
I wanted to somehow memorialize the occasion so I proposed we take a selfie. “To show the grandkids” I told him. He laughed and went along with it. He doesn’t have kids either. He mentioned that it means more freedom and time for each other, so I am choosing to be grateful for that, instead of dwelling on a childless future.
I wish I could bottle and sell the way he makes me feel when he looks at me, when he touches my hand and kisses my cheek. There is so much tenderness. It is as if he is looking at the most beautiful and delicate thing in the universe. I feel like the most desirable human being on the planet.
“Patience is not sitting and waiting, it is foreseeing. It is looking at the thorn and seeing the rose, looking at the night and seeing the day. Lovers are patient and know that the moon needs time to become full.” ― Rumi
Even when he seems to be trying to be forward and aggressive he is slow and gentle. At one point he said: “I want to kiss your beautiful face”. I replied: “Please do it” or something forward like that. He reached over the table and kissed my cheek ever so gently. I took his face in my hands and kissed him softly on the lips.
I love this phase, I love this feeling. The beginning, the getting to know each other, the discovery. I am fully aware that as I am writing this I am giving the impression of a love struck teenager. I am! I am going to own that and enjoy it for as long as I can.
“You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. Fools stand on their island of opportunities and look toward another land. There is no other land; there is no other life but this.” – Henry David Thoreau
We finished our coffee and pastries and I wanted to show him the area I live at. He always goes for the hand on my back, there but barely touching it. I, instead, took his hand, so we walked holding hands. Just now I realized that perhaps this is one of my controlling tendencies, of wanting more and directing the situation. Or is it overthinking now?
As we were passing by The Curtain Shop he said that he had in mind to buy curtains for a patio door. We walked in and I helped him choose a beautiful blue curtain. He seemed to enjoy the fact that I chose something for his house.
I walked him back to his car as he had to go to work. We hugged good bye and kissed lightly on the lips. He texted me when he got to work and called me later that night.
We didn’t schedule a third date yet, but I have no doubt it will happen. We talked about watching the Super Bowl at his house. He lives in a quaint little lake town over 1 hour away from me.
I can’t wait for passionate kisses. “Be patient” – I am telling myself. It has been so long since I have been with someone that the chemistry is this good that I can’t help but want more and now.
“If each day falls inside each night,
There exists a well
We need to sit on the rim
of the well of darkness
and fish for fallen light,
“Si cada día cae/If each day falls”
EI MAR Y LAS CAMPANAS. The Sea and The Bells.”