Monthly Archives: December 2018

More good, more light, more love in 2019!

28 Friday Dec 2018

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“There is nothing magical about the flip of the calendar, but it represents a clean break, a new hope, and a blank canvas.” ― Jason Soroski

I hope everyone is having an amazing Holiday Season! Be it with family, friends or alone, make it festive and fun!

I will be posting about my dating adventures in the next few posts as I am back online dating.

I came across the video below and want to share it for 2 reasons.  First, I love people being clever and I love people doing good. This guy did both.  It always renews my faith in humanity and it gets me in the frame of mind to do more for others.

And second, because my friend Matthew is in it. I see Matthew a few times a week if the weather helps.

I briefly commented about him here:  https://blessedwithastarontheforehead.com/2018/06/28/not-just-faces-they-do-have-names/

On the video below Matthew is at 1:58 mins into it.  He is sitting at his usual spot on the corner of 34th St and Madison Avenue.

Any time you have a chance do something good, help someone less fortunate, please do it.  Give, even if it is just a smile or a loving word.  It makes a world of difference.

May everyone have an amazing New Year’s Eve!  May 2019 be full of wonder and surprises! Let’s make goals and plans!  Let’s do more for ourselves and others.

“I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes.

Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re Doing Something.

So that’s my wish for you, and all of us, and my wish for myself. Make New Mistakes. Make glorious, amazing mistakes. Make mistakes nobody’s ever made before. Don’t freeze, don’t stop, don’t worry that it isn’t good enough, or it isn’t perfect, whatever it is: art, or love, or work or family or life.

Whatever it is you’re scared of doing, Do it.

Make your mistakes, next year and forever.” 
― Neil Gaiman

Money versus Peace

19 Wednesday Dec 2018

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“To simplify is about enhancing our ability to focus on things that really matter, to deliberately choose our priorities, and to refuse to let unimportant things take over the things of real importance.” -― Carolyn J. Rasmus

I have been praying for guidance as I feel that I am at a crossroads point in my life. I have been feeling overwhelmed, tired and stagnant.

Then a chance to simplify a little bit my life appears and I almost brush it off, ignoring it and continuing on the roller-coaster.  When blessings happen sometimes it is easy to mistake it for inconvenience.  Sometimes it is easier to want to continue with what we know instead of changing.

One of my tenants, not the one that recently was giving me problems, informed me that she is leaving.  I immediately called the realtor about the next steps to rent it again.  Last time I rented it out there was a bidding war so I know I can rent it easily.

After hanging up the phone it dawned on me that every time there is an issue I tell myself that I am selling it as soon as the tenant leaves.  Now here is my chance, and I almost missed it.

I was not born to be a landlord.  I fell into it and then I am told over and over how it is dumb for me to sell great properties.  So I continued to keep them not to make a dumb move.

“Use it up, wear it out, make it do, or do without.” ― Boyd K. Packer

Of course I realize that having passive income every month is great.  I realize that the tendency of that property is to appreciate.  I realize that in a few years I would have the credit line I have on it paid off and the stream of income would be really sweet.

Even with all that on the table, I feel I made the right decision for me.  I don’t have the time or energy to deal with rental properties.  This tenant leaving is a blessing! It is my chance to start simplifying my life.

Once the decision was made I already felt light and free.  I still have another tenant, but this is a great step in getting rid of excess stress.  I have a lot to do now with getting it ready to sell and dealing with the management company and the realtor, etc, but I will do it all with a smile on my face as my mind and heart are on the ultimate goal of freedom from stress.

“Overcoming procrastination is not, I repeat, not about cramming additional work into your day . . . overcoming procrastination is about simplifying your life to make space for the activities that matter most.” ― Richie Norton 

 

I am back and I am trying a new attitude.

08 Saturday Dec 2018

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“If you feel lost, disappointed, hesitant, or weak, return to yourself, to who you are, here and now and when you get there, you will discover yourself, like a lotus flower in full bloom, even in a muddy pond, beautiful and strong.” ― Masaru Emoto

I came back from Brazil a few days ago.  I did have a great time with my family.
All I did was clean and organize, but I happen to love that. To me cleaning and organizing is very cathartic.  I love manual labor. The dirtier and more unorganized something is, the better.

The highlight of my trip was taking stuff to a shelter. I had a SUV completely filled with stuff used and new, as well as groceries and produce.  Helping others is one of best feelings in the world.

At work nothing has changed. I still want to quit but I decided to be smart and not impulsive.  I decided to wait for the right time and make sure that I am not leaving money on the table.  I am developing an exit plan.

The woman at work is leaving me alone.  In fact she doesn’t look at me or acknowledges me which both annoys me and makes me happy.  That makes for a work environment that I don’t want to be a part of.  I guess being ignored is better than false niceties.

The boss hasn’t done what I expected. He actually did nothing.  I feel I didn’t get the respect and support I deserved from him and the other partner.  Since I cannot change the people or the situation at work I am doing my best to change my attitude and my reactions to things, events and situations.  I am talking less and listening more.

And I am praying… praying for guidance and direction.  I am praying to see the signs the Universe is sending me.  I am so grateful and so lucky for so many things, so many blessings.  For having a job, even though I want to quit it.  I am grateful for the ability to dream and plan.  I am grateful for the curves on the road, for the tunnels and for always being able to see the light at the end of it.

“For Equilibrium, a Blessing:
Like the joy of the sea coming home to shore,
May the relief of laughter rinse through your soul.

As the wind loves to call things to dance,
May your gravity by lightened by grace.

Like the dignity of moonlight restoring the earth,
May your thoughts incline with reverence and respect.

As water takes whatever shape it is in,
So free may you be about who you become.

As silence smiles on the other side of what’s said,
May your sense of irony bring perspective.

As time remains free of all that it frames,
May your mind stay clear of all it names.

May your prayer of listening deepen enough
to hear in the depths the laughter of god.” 
― John O’Donohue