1987 Mercedes Convertible, better single or better together, blessed to have options, dating takes a back seat, finality of life, Mom's health, Mulberry Honda HRV, no time for losers, online dating, ready for the right one
“Eventually all things fall into place. Until then, laugh at the confusion, live for the moments, and know EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON.” – Albert Schweitzer
A decision has been made and I am now driving a Honda HRV (the CRV’s little brother). I have chosen to lease it and the color I picked is Mulberry. Mulberry is the color of eggplant and depending on how the light hits it it appears black. Psychologically I like owning things, paying for something and then returning it feels like a waste of money, but I decided to step out of my comfort zone and go for it. I was attracted by the low monthly payments ($160.00) and the fact that I will not have to spend money with maintenance.
I was able to find a parking space for my other car. It is at a municipal lot a few blocks from my home. It was just sheer luck to get it and I am so happy things have fallen in place.
So far I am very happy with the new car. It is very different from driving a 30 year old Mercedes. I will eventually sell the Mercedes as having 2 cars is just silly and an unnecessary expense. Paying for insurance, parking space and maintenance adds up. I don’t know how much it is worth so I don’t know how much to ask, until then I am keeping it.
Feeling blessed, telling myself not to take things for granted. Being grateful and realizing that hard work pays off. Hard works gives us options and possibilities.
After another trip to Brazil Mom has returned with me to stay 1 month. It is crazy and sad to see how age has finally caught up with her. She just turned 82 on May 1st and even though she looks amazing and much younger than that, the truth is the 82 is a big number. She has many issues: Lower back pain, diabetes, hypothyroidism, high blood pressure, heart disease, but was doing very well until a couple of years ago when she had a mild night time stroke. Since then she has never been 100%.
It is hard for me to see her weak and frail. The passage of time is merciless. It is a reminder of life’s finite quality and the value of time. Could my mother’s health be better now if she had paid more attention to her diet and lifestyle? Am I doing all I can to have a good aging process? The answer to that last question is a resounding no.
I go out of my way for my family. At this moment I am taking my mom to a traditional Chinese doctor and paying an arm and a leg for a Chinese tea that is supposed to improve her health. No worries I am not that gullible but I do believe in western medicine. Also I know 3 people that have gone to this doctor and all have had great results. If there is a chance of any improvement to my mother’s situation I am willing to try.
I believe in the power of faith. Mom and I believe that this tea (combined with acupuncture and cupping) will help. She is still taking all the medication prescribed by the regular doctors, she is eating better, and making sure she is not overdoing physically (she tends to be stubborn like me and think that she can do it all).
I feel powerless and keep reminding myself that I am not in control of anything. I can only do my best, the rest is up to God.
Knowing that time is limited makes each second more valuable. Wasting time is no longer an option.
I am still online but any time my mother is here I spend most of my free time with her instead of meeting new people.
I am getting to the conclusion that it is becoming harder for me to find The One for me. Not because of them, but because of me. I have established a pretty nice, comfortable life and I am not about to let anyone in without making sure that they will be an addition to it.
How can I be sure of anything without taking a leap of faith? I thought that I really wanted someone and that I was willing to be vulnerable and put myself out there. Now I am not so sure. I put myself out there physically but emotionally I am probably more guarded than ever. Time to re-think and re-evaluate.
Being vulnerable, being able to trust, willing to risk being hurt are all some of the price for the chance of experiencing love. There is no