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doing what feels right, feeling empowered, feeling vulnerable, small claims case, small claims court
“How would your life be different if…You stopped validating your victim mentality? Let today be the day…You shake off your self-defeating drama and embrace your innate ability to recover and achieve.” – Steve Maraboli
I am sitting in court waiting for my Small Claims case to be heard.
I am shaking, trembling; I can barely keep my hand steady enough to write. My heart is beating out of my chest. I feel vulnerable and powerless. This is not the way it is supposed to be! I should feel empowered; after all I am on the right side of the law. Instead I want to run away and hide in the safety of my bed.
This is not my first time in a court of law, but it is my first time suing someone. See here why I decided to take that step. http://atomic-temporary-33385295.wpcomstaging.com/2015/05/29/i-have-been-scammed-and-it-sucks/
I have been in court many times. At one point in my life I was a Portuguese interpreter. I would go to courts mostly representing defendants on criminal cases. Later on I worked at the collections department of a bank. I would go to court and represent the bank on bankrupt accounts. I have been to Labor court representing my current company. I have been a juror.
Still I don’t think I will ever get used to being in a courtroom. There is something about being in a courtroom that makes me feel extremely vulnerable. Yet I love TV shows regarding courtroom dramas and I think of being an attorney in my next life.
It is 2 o’clock and names are being called. If both the plaintiff and the defendant are present then they get sent to a conference room with a mediator. The judge will hear only cases where a settle cannot be reached.
The person I am suing is not here, so I have to sit and wait another hour. At 3 pm they make the last call.
This time if the plaintiff (the person complaining and initiating the lawsuit) is not here the case gets dismissed right away. A case where the defendant doesn’t show up goes to inquest.
My case went to inquest as Mr. Repairman Scam Artist never showed up. If a case goes to inquest one no longer needs to prove liability, only damages. So I proved my $360.00 damage and have been awarded the judgment.
What happens next? Nothing! I will never see a dime. What really happens next is that the courts will send me the judgment letter in the mail. Then it is up to find out if he has any assets and then go after them. Perhaps if it was a larger amount and if he had any real assets I would go to the trouble, but not in this case.
I knew this would be the end result. Still I went through with it. I wanted to step out of my comfort zone, to stand up for my rights and to stop feeling victimized. I normally let things go and just end up feeling victimized by unscrupulous service people that take advantage of the unsuspecting and the too trusting (in this case this very naive female).
I will report him to the Better Business Bureau and update some online review sites. I am not intent on revenge, as I hate that word, but if I can warn at least one person I will be happy.
Will he ever learn and change his ways? who knows? I feel I did my part, and I know that karma will eventually catch up to him.
I would have liked better if he had showed up and were made to answer for his actions, but at the end of the day I am glad I stood up for what I believed was right. I feel empowered by it.
I had people tell me that I was being vengeful. I had people tell me not to waste my time. Everyone had an opinion. I am glad I did what felt right to me. No regrets!
“Do what you think is right. Don’t let people make the decision of right or wrong for you.” – Steve Maraboli
Hopefully the money comes through but at least you got to walk out of there vindicated!
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I am not holding my breath, but anything is possible 🙂
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Good for you. You took a step out of your comfort zone and stood up for your rights. Even if yo never see the cash, if your action keeps someone from being taken advantage of then thats wonderful.
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Thank you so much! That is my hope, to prevent someone from losing their money on this guy. Blessings! 🙂
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And to you!
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🙂
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I’m impressed that you stepped out and stood up for your rights. I’ve been put in situations lately where I’ve been challenged to speak up more – you’ve inspired me to do it more!
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Thank you so much! There is so much to gain when we decide to do what is uncomfortable but our guts/heart is telling us we need to do. Thank you for find inspiration in my words and in my actions! Have a blessed weekend! 🙂
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Well done. You did exactly the right thing. This is not revenge it just the response of someone fed up of being taken advantage of. Revenge is where you gain from the action and unfortunately you’re right, you probably wont.
Still I wish you well in warning others against him and perhaps saving someone a bit of heartache.
Hugs
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Hi David
Thank you so much! I am glad I did it. I am glad I am able to warn others and hopefully, as you said, I can perhaps save someone a bit of heartache. Have a blessed weekend! 🙂
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Being vengful would be smashing his car windows are in. A legitimate law suit like yours isnt vengeful.
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Smashing his car windows is too nice, I would really love to smash his face, but I am not a violent person 🙂 So I am trying to use other weapons… thank you so much and have a blessed weekend! 🙂
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Wishing you all of the luck in the world, and sending you positive vibes to the max. You are so strong and absolutely doing what is right for you (in my little opinion). xoxo
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HI Liz, I am sorry for the delayed reply. I realized there are a lot comments I have missed, so a belated thank you to you! I hope you are having a blessed weekend! 🙂
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You did absolutely right. Never let a scam artist feel that he can get away with it. You can have his bank account or car attached if you have details. Some time we do seem to be standing up for ourselves but actually we represent the entire society or civilisation. All the best.
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Thank you so much! Yes they told me I could go after his assets, but I don’t think at this point it is wort my trouble. I love how you said: Some time we do seem to be standing up for ourselves but actually we represent the entire society or civilisation” Great point! Many blessings! 🙂
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Sometimes we have to settle for vindication. Very interesting read.
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Indeed, and it made me feel better about the whole situation. Thank you and blessings! 🙂
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All the best to you and yours.
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Thank you! 🙂
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You did what was right for you. It wasn’t right what he did and it needs to be known. Well done!
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Hi Ute, Thank you so much! I do feel good about going through with the lawsuit. Blessings! 🙂
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Glad to see a resolution!
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Thank you, me too! 🙂 Blessings
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Yes, do make your own decision…only way you will feel at all like your own person.
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Exactly, good or bad I have to follow my gut instinct! Blessings! 🙂
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As Professor Dumbledore said, ‘You can do what is easy or what is right’. Good on you for choosing the latter.
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Thank you so much! I try to follow my heart; it is not always easy but always right! Kudos to Professor Dumbledore and to you too! Blessings! 🙂
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