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Die with Zero: Getting All You Can from Your Money and Your Life

21 Thursday Sep 2023

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“What Good Is Wealth Without Health?”

I am attempting to read all the books that I have sitting around my apartment. I will be posting very short reviews as I finish them.  I am not sure if I should call them reviews.  I will be writing about what I personally get from each book.  What did the book make me think about and how it applies to my life, if at all.  It is not meant to describe the whole book.

I just finished “Die with Zero: Getting All You Can from Your Money and Your Life”, by Bill Perkins.

Main book ideas for me:

  1. Stop accumulating money to spend when you are older; start using it now. Spend money on the things you love while you are young and healthy to really enjoy them.  Most people wait until retirement to start spending money on what brings them joy.  By that time, they may not have the health and energy to fully enjoy the activities they dreamed of.
  2. Confronting our mortality.  We have a finite time on this earth.  What we take from it are the experiences we have, and the memories we make.

I realize I often choose saving over spending. I do spend money on essentials, some travel, and on family and friends.  In that last one, I will spare no expenses to help or treat them. I rather spend money on my family then on myself, and I often do.

“Think about what you really want out of this life in terms of meaningful and memorable experiences.”

I have always thought about making sure that I have money in case of an emergency, if I lose my job, or if my family ever needs anything.  Coming from nothing, I want to make sure that, my family and I, will never want for anything in life.

Yesterday, while catching up with my first boss in the US, she said: ‘You were always a saver.  Even when you were just a teenager, you never spent any money.”

Funny, that I really never thought about that.  I will spend money on myself but cautiously, mostly with traveling. I used to spend with nails, hair, massages, etc  but lately I am not even doing that.  I will get a massage every now and then.  For hair and nails, I always become impatient waiting for those services.  Plus some of the NY prices are crazy.

As far as clothes, I want to have less.  I never cared for material stuff, and I am having less and less interest in anything material. I want a life freer and simpler, but with enough money to do whatever I want.  I want to spend a lot time traveling and not maintaining stuff.

“The business of life is the acquisition of memories. In the end that’s all there is.”

Reading this book now, when Michael just came into my life, makes me more inspired to live more.  Michael saved money while young, with the aim of retiring at 55 years old, which he did.  He has been enjoying his life since then.  He is now 61.  I want to enjoy life with him. I want to spend more money and time acquiring experiences and memories, and not items that will weigh me down.

I cannot retire right at this moment for a couple of reasons.  My company needs me, and I need my company, for the health insurance and for the good salary.  So this book is perfect for me, as it reminds me not to wait for retirement, but live it up now. So, the planning for more fun, more travel, less working days is already in motion.

This book is also perfect for the person that has been over-saving, so focused on savings for the future that he forgets to live in the now.  Still, I believe and advocate balance in all areas. One cannot forget about making sure one has enough to live well in old age. The worst thing that could happen is to have to come out of retirement because one has ran out of money.

“What’s the takeaway here? Being aware that your time is limited can clearly motivate you to make the most of the time you do have.”

*all quotes are from the book

so this became very long, but if I edit, it will never be published, so here it goes.  Sorry for typos, etc

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Change is necessary, and it is always good!

19 Tuesday Sep 2023

Posted by A Star on the Forehead in Daily Life, Daily Message, Dating, Fiction, Finding Me

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“It’s only after you’ve stepped outside your comfort zone that you begin to change, grow, and transform.” ― Roy T. Bennett

Happy New Week!

Every Monday feels like new start. A chance to start a new project, or follow up on old plans.

One of my plans is to write more.  Well, not write more; publish more. 

I do write often, but my writings rarely see the light of day.  The problem is, I edit and edit until a post becomes too dated.  I have written about this problem before.  I still have not managed to make a change.

The posts that I manage to publish, are the ones that I decide to forgo all the endless editing and just hit publish.  Believe me, it takes a lot effort for me to be able to do that. I feel anxious, as if I am going out in my pajamas, or if I am serving someone an unbaked cake.

When I look back at old posts, I see so many typos and grammatical errors.  I see a lot wordiness.  I see improvements to be made.  It feels unfinished and, as if I am not presenting my best self.

But, right at this moment, I rather publish a post with errors, than not to post anything at all.

I look at my Drafts folder and it is overwhelming.  As overwhelming as all the books around the house that I haven’t started yet, or worse, that I have not finished yet.

I decided to do something about all of the unfinished in my life.  I plan on reading all the books that I have started. And then, start on all the new books that I have bought from my fellow bloggers that have become published.  I am so proud of all of you! Please give me time and I will eventually get to read your books and will write a review. 

Never finishing a book, is like holding on to a gift and never opening it.  What if there is something really wonderful in there and I never get to it?

Getting back to my posts, I plan on tackling my Drafts Folder and going through each post.  I will either hit publish or delete.

I also feel I need to give this blog a direction.  This blog was started as an outlet to the pain of my broken heart and the devastation of being cheated on.   Then, it became a journal of my dating adventures, and misadventures.

What should it become now?  There are no more dating adventures, since Michael has been elected The One!

Is happiness boring?  Failed dates are more interesting to write about.  Plus, I don’t want to be bragging about how blessed Michael and I feel to have found each other. Perhaps I can make blissful life interesting.

Write about work? This commodities brokerage industry is one crazy industry, and I do have a lot of stories about it. That is an idea.

Write about travels? Well, I need to be traveling more to actually write about it.

The direction will take shape as I write more and more, I mean, as I post more and more.  I decided, boring and all, typos and all, that I will post something every day. 

Perhaps I will have a schedule and every day of the week there will be a different theme, but I am not there yet.  For now, there will be days that my post will be very short, or just a photo, or just a 1 sentence review of something read, seen, eaten, etc.

Please note, I am visiting more of your blogs, but I still cannot hit like on any post (thank you WordPress! NOT!)  And I do suspect that not all my comments are being seen or received.  I write a comment. It appears to be published, but when I go back to the post, it is no longer there.  I am considering changing blogging hosts, once I have researched my options. Suggestions welcomed!

Hang in there, as I grow and my blog changes.  Thank you for being here!

“Don’t Just

Don’t just learn, experience.
Don’t just read, absorb.
Don’t just change, transform.
Don’t just relate, advocate.
Don’t just promise, prove.
Don’t just criticize, encourage.
Don’t just think, ponder.
Don’t just take, give.
Don’t just see, feel.
Don’t just dream, do.
Don’t just hear, listen.
Don’t just talk, act.
Don’t just tell, show.
Don’t just exist, live.”
― Roy T. Bennett

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